To ask, politely, and seriously, if you are in your 50s, what do you look like naked?

[Dontfuckingsaycheese]

Hi.
I’ll cut to the chase. I’m 55 and single (happily for the last 15 years or so).
This year, following a rather exciting reboot, I decided to try online dating and I have been having a lot of fun. Met a few nice men. No nasty ones 🙂 I have also fallen in love with my body again and have lost over 3 stone so now just over 9.5 stone.
I am amazed at how good this 55 year-old body looks, FROM SOME ANGLES AND IN SOME POSITIONS. I’ve been making a few videos and stills and I can look damn 🔥
However, I am alarmed how I look, mainly from the front, if I lean forward. Everything prunes, falls and elongates, and it’s scary!! I have met a man online who I am absolutely obsessed by. For a few reasons, it’s been a few months and we haven’t met yet. We’re due to meet up next month. He’s seen some pics and videos of me and loved them, but of course, I’ve been able to carefully curate them. I don’t want him to be disappointed in how bits of me look. I feel like I should warn him in some way. I know it shouldn’t matter, and he should like me as a person, but things have been tres flirty and I’m very keen to make it physical 😉 I feel like just explaining I’m aware there’s parts of me that are a bit time-ravaged. He’s a little older than me, so wondering if it’s the same for him… So he’ll understand I mean, and not run for the hills. I’m thinking of explaining this in terms of wanting to feel confident in bed, so it may be that, at times maybe I may wish to wear a top or something…
I’m wondering how others feel, any pearls of wisdom, advice, reassurance, amusing anecdotes to make me feel better… 🤔

I haven’t read the thread but if I lie on my back with my arms strategically placed I look great. Once I stand up I look like I’ve melted.

😂

Not read the whole thread but I’m 43 and I look like a squashed lump off play doh!

100 percent. I want men to get to hell away from me, for the most part, but they still keep trying to chat me up, thank GOD it's far less than when I was younger. The only person who I'm interested in fancying me is my husband, and he very much does, but as well as fancying me he likes me - maybe because I have a lot more to me than vanity and desperation for male attention.

Imagine wanting men to harass you and leer at you in your 50's, JFC. I do get my nails and hair done, and dress nicely - but not by a pickme standard's nice I dare say. If I could be actually invisible to men - completely and totally invisible to them except when I absolutely have to speak to them - (and with the exception of a very small number of family members and friends) I'd be over the moon.

For the record, re photos and videos, I never sent any when I was younger, only after I met my (soon to be) husband did I ever do this, when we had to be apart when he had to go back to see his family for varioius reasons we would send each other occasional shots, and he has a collection of some saucy videos and pictures of me.

If he posted them online I couldn't give a flying fuck in a windstorm - I mean, I'd divorce him and murder him possibly not in that order and he'd never, ever do that, obviously.

But, if by some horrible happenstance someone found them I would not care at all. I look great in them, good angles, good lighting, great lingerie and I sent them to the man I love so why would I be ashamed? I'd laugh, blush and say "Oops, yes, that's me!" And think no more of it.

So long as you have never sent a photo or video you'd be ashamed of, it doesn't matter if they go viral.

I mean to add, however, the OP is not obsessed by the male gaze as such - but she does care about one man's gaze it sounds like. Nothing wrong with wanting to look good for someone you desire.

Im 57 in reasonable shape, have one tit. I have cared for the elderly and you’ll be amazed how beautiful the body ages.Its normal for skin to become crinkly and saggy and a privilege to grow old.
You crack on OP and do you and what ever floats your boat. It’s the whole package at the end of the day and it’s great to hear your enjoying your body .

I just don't see it that way. What can you do, your body IS what you've got. I can't imagine anyone ever seeing me, if god forbid Dh passed away, but I don't care what anyone thinks when say I'm in a bikini on out latest holiday. What's the point in worrying about these things?

Like a melted candle 😭
I’ve lost 4 stone and would kill for a tummy tuck.
I’ll just have to be happy with being healthier and less fat.

I admire your attitude but I feel self conscious on the beach and im not overweight . There are beach people and I’m not one of them.

I find it quite surprising that so many women here say they don't care about how they look. I'm older than OP and still care very much. Not for men, although my H thinks I'm lovely, but for ME!

You know, I'm aware this is 'bad' but the idea of sex when you're 'old' makes me feel sick, like actually makes me gag, and that applies to men and to me.

I'm down to never have it again, which is great, given my track record with men.

Long may my repulsion continue.

I’m lucky that my husband is blind as a bat without glasses, so he can’t see me and I suck it all in when I’m in front of a mirror so I continue in the delusion that I’ve still ‘got it’

Depends what you’re meaning as ‘old’ I guess. Too confused to consent, too frail to move meaningfully and know what’s going on around you - maybe you could class that as ‘old’ or even ‘too old’.
Anything else, as long you still enjoy it, can do it, desire it and someone desires it with you, bloody hell yes, I’m going to be fucking doing it!

I know. My repulsion is regressive, weird, and ageist, but it keeps me safe!

I mean wrinkly. The idea of wrinkly booties knocking together, just ew.

I was shocked recently when I happened to see myself naked from the back - when did my bum become flat and my back turn heavy and shapeless?? I couldn't believe it was me 😔

I wish my bum was flat. It’s the size of a small planet.

What do you consider old @Onthebusses ?
60? 70?80? 90?

I know quite a few older woman approaching 90 or older who still admit they have 'desire' but no man around to help out.

Most older women (80+) are widows or have husbands who aren't able to. There are exceptions obviously.

The stats show that where there are couples together in their 80s and the men still 'can' , they are having sex.

It's sad actually that you think sex is only for the young with firm, smooth bodies.

Many 20 year olds can't believe their parents ever did it, 40 year olds can't believe couples are doing it at 70...and so it goes on.

My bum is tiny and as flat as a pancake but I've got F cup boobs - I would swap with you in a flash if your boobs are DD or smaller. A small bum is useless if you're top heavy as it just emphasises the top heavy, matronly look.

Why, long may it continue?

because I don't want anything to do with men

Why specifically when you're 'old' though? 🤔

That's quite hard as they make up around 49% of the population!

I'm 57 and have a good body. I'm not thin but curvy. Genetics mean we age well in our family. Always getting told I look in my 40s. My neck is the oldest bit I'd say...but meh who gives a fuck. I have to beat dh off with a stick 🤣 I agree hrt is good for the libido and probably helps too with the aging aspect?

I think being obsessed with a man you haven't met is a bit strange tbh. Don't give men that power. A lot are ego obsessed dick led cunts sadly.

Good luck with the dating though. Even if you just get some sex. A friend recently met a man and she has lots of loose skin from rapid weight loss. He's besotted with her. They're so loved up. So don't worry about any wrinkles or crepiness. She was so worried before they got naked. I said honestly he'll be happy stop worrying.

@Onthebusses how odd. My dm was still at it in her 80s. Granted her fella was a LOT younger. You'd have been like Maggie Blackamore from Little Britain!