To ask, politely, and seriously, if you are in your 50s, what do you look like naked?

[Dontfuckingsaycheese]

Hi.
I’ll cut to the chase. I’m 55 and single (happily for the last 15 years or so).
This year, following a rather exciting reboot, I decided to try online dating and I have been having a lot of fun. Met a few nice men. No nasty ones 🙂 I have also fallen in love with my body again and have lost over 3 stone so now just over 9.5 stone.
I am amazed at how good this 55 year-old body looks, FROM SOME ANGLES AND IN SOME POSITIONS. I’ve been making a few videos and stills and I can look damn 🔥
However, I am alarmed how I look, mainly from the front, if I lean forward. Everything prunes, falls and elongates, and it’s scary!! I have met a man online who I am absolutely obsessed by. For a few reasons, it’s been a few months and we haven’t met yet. We’re due to meet up next month. He’s seen some pics and videos of me and loved them, but of course, I’ve been able to carefully curate them. I don’t want him to be disappointed in how bits of me look. I feel like I should warn him in some way. I know it shouldn’t matter, and he should like me as a person, but things have been tres flirty and I’m very keen to make it physical 😉 I feel like just explaining I’m aware there’s parts of me that are a bit time-ravaged. He’s a little older than me, so wondering if it’s the same for him… So he’ll understand I mean, and not run for the hills. I’m thinking of explaining this in terms of wanting to feel confident in bed, so it may be that, at times maybe I may wish to wear a top or something…
I’m wondering how others feel, any pearls of wisdom, advice, reassurance, amusing anecdotes to make me feel better… 🤔

Maybe he's fighting for Ukraine. If that was the reason, I'd feel justifiably ashamed of what I've said.

Whoever first mentioned OP could have a granddaughter who was dating was getting off the point a little.

I am not stubbornly refusing to accept anything.
I said it is unusual. To be dating, the grandchild (in the context of the thread) would have to be an older teen, not 13.

Yes there are women of 55 who have teenage grandchildren.
But there are not many.

When I had my first child, years ago, the median age for first time mums was around the mid - late 20s and now it's closer to 30.

It's all beside the point anyway so I won't engage further with it.

Men age as well, everyone knows that. I look like a 48 year old 5 feet told woman a stone overwight, very average.

How on earth did you get that from what @Petrolitis said?

YOU care how you look and want men to find you attractive, some of us don't. I haven't I've let myself go (whatever that means) but I could give a flying fart what random men think of my appearance.

So why have you delayed meeting up in RL in preference to months of "flirty" online exchanges and sending pictures of yourself to him when you have no control over what he or his mates might do with those pictures?

I think "naïve" is the right word, here.

Just another vote for be really careful about what you send people. You shouldn't be thinking "well it's not hard-core porn, of course no one will want to upload and look at this" and instead understand that there are loads of websites where pictures are uploaded. Nude, face or not, in underwear even fully clothed if it's a website where men request a specific person and they can then create their own AI explicit videos from that picture.

Our teens and tweens are now unstanding the risks here, don't get caught out OP.

Sometimes obsessed is just used as a figure of speech to mean you really like someone. It isn’t to be taken literally.

Unless he's working on the international space station, it is rather unusual to have taken this long to actually meet face to face. That would worry me. It sounds as if you have fallen for a fantasy.

I’d love to have that feeling of really liking a guy but I would say don’t sleep with him really quickly, get him hooked on your personality first because then if there is something about your body that isn’t exactly great he is already hooked so it won’t matter…..also work out what positions may not be the most flattering and steer him towards other stuff the first few times ye sleep together

What did you say?

If that's your fetish, go for it.

You do realise you were a notch on that 24 year olds bed post, something he could brag to his mates about?! 24 year olds don't want relationships with a 40 year old single mother. Sorry to burst your bubble.

I'm not one for thinking women are necessarily bitter, humourless, spiteful miserable bastards at the drop of a hat, but there sure are some of that sort on this thread 😅

How dare any of you enjoy sex and being sexual! Reeeeeeeee!!!!!!!

She didn’t want a relationship with him. She quite clearly and specifically said it was a fling. There’s no bubble for your unnecessary nastiness to burst.

Well actually on typing that out I was beginning to think it sounded quite practical and great for a bloated tummy day...

Has he sent you pics of himself 😉

Are the phone chats sexual ones where you both do stuff on video?

We need to know.

Don't you know women never want to have a fling? Only a full blown relationship leading to a proposal will do for literally all women everywhere.

And 40 year old women never enjoy hot sex with a good looking younger man, for heaven's sake Goody Blossomtoes, how could you think such a thing?! Shame on you ;)

What do you mean "We need to know". That's the OP's business alone, not yours, and certainly not everyone on this thread.

You are starting to sound rather over-invested!

I look like an elongated potato in a sock.

I’m in my 40s though, so plenty of time to progress to looking like a jacket potato in a sock.

LOL.

Some posters have no sense of humour.

Cheer up.

Agree

"Grown men aren't looking for teenagers with perfect bodies – and if they are, you wouldn't want to have sex with them anyway."

Grown men ARE looking for perfect bodies at least, it's just that unless they are Adonis themselves they can't get them, so they shag whatever they can get, sorry but that's the truth. You can love yourself and your body as you age, but don't fool yourself into thinking that you'll ever be that 25 Yr old again, because even if you are slim and take care of yourself you can't hold back time.
Men don't really like weight on a woman I will say that, this is all gleaned from working in a male environment and having 'banter' 🙄with them unguarded, they show their true colours and for the most part it ain't nice.

Well not porn exactly but some of them were suggestive 😁

I disagree. I don’t think men like extremes of weight. DH finds very thin as unattractive as ultra fat. But there a many sizes between .He likes Sara from Dragon’s Den( pre weight loss as well as after) and he likes Holly Willoughby and he likes Jennifer Anniston. He says it’s the person/ character. But they all have pretty faces so that’s what is more important to him.