DH stole from me

[Odonje]

At the weekend DH and I went to Knaresborough for a day out - famous for its sausage rolls and pork pies. I don’t like pork pies so I was very much looking forward to the lovely sausage rolls we bought in the bakery. It wasn’t a sausage roll, it was a bean roll but these are just as famous and they looked delicious. DH gobbled his up immediately whereas I took mine home to eat later in comfort of my own home.

later that evening, I wanted to try it but didn’t want the whole thing so I ripped a bit off the end to eat and kept the rest wrapped up in the fridge ready to eat today. I was very much looking forward to it. At lunch time I put my soup on and went to get the sausage roll - it wasn’t there. I messaged DH and he didn’t reply (coward) so I called his work place who went to find him. He denied it at first but eventually admitted to running off with it this morning. I’m gutted. I know it’s a small thing and it’s just a sausage roll but it’s the disrespect, the lies, the outright disregard for my feelings. Latest in a long line of events. Icing on the cake.

I have told him he has no moral compass and the bastard has gone to look up moral compass on yahoo to prove that it’s not a thing. I want it replaced. At the very least I want an apology. AIBU to refuse to cook him dinner or make him coffee until he apologises and promises to replace it.

I’ve not come across that in a family before. In a flat share or an office yes, in those situations you obviously don’t ever eat “someone else’s” food without asking. But in a family peoples food isn’t normally kept separate is it? Unless it’s like mum’s special chocolates that she always gets as a treat and everyone knows not to touch them.

This is a leftover from a day out that was abandoned after one bite three days ago. Husband made a mistake, thought it was unwanted and it turns out it wasn’t.

To make a drama about it at his work and then start a thread called “DH STOLE FROM ME” like he’s emptied her bank account is just a ludicrous overreaction unless there’s a backstory we are unaware of.

I know right? You don’t do that so it can’t possibly happen. Even though someone says that’s how it happens in their family. Ok.

Am gobsmacked to think 69%of people think this excessive fuss over a sausage roll is acceptable and reasonable. Especially as it involved texting DH 6 times while he was at work and then phoning him to tell him off for eating said roll!!Mild irritation is to be expected but how 70%think it ok is beyond me.