DH stole from me

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At the weekend DH and I went to Knaresborough for a day out - famous for its sausage rolls and pork pies. I don’t like pork pies so I was very much looking forward to the lovely sausage rolls we bought in the bakery. It wasn’t a sausage roll, it was a bean roll but these are just as famous and they looked delicious. DH gobbled his up immediately whereas I took mine home to eat later in comfort of my own home.

later that evening, I wanted to try it but didn’t want the whole thing so I ripped a bit off the end to eat and kept the rest wrapped up in the fridge ready to eat today. I was very much looking forward to it. At lunch time I put my soup on and went to get the sausage roll - it wasn’t there. I messaged DH and he didn’t reply (coward) so I called his work place who went to find him. He denied it at first but eventually admitted to running off with it this morning. I’m gutted. I know it’s a small thing and it’s just a sausage roll but it’s the disrespect, the lies, the outright disregard for my feelings. Latest in a long line of events. Icing on the cake.

I have told him he has no moral compass and the bastard has gone to look up moral compass on yahoo to prove that it’s not a thing. I want it replaced. At the very least I want an apology. AIBU to refuse to cook him dinner or make him coffee until he apologises and promises to replace it.

This is just too trivial for words!

Probably lots of displays of greed and selfishness similar to this. That would do it.

You shouldn’t have phoned him at work OP, for the simple reason that it will divert everyone on here from the main issue. Seriously, it makes you look slightly unhinged.

But you’re right.

Yeah, this. Dear god OP, why didn’t you just eat the damn thing? Who takes three days to eat a sausage roll???

The fabled Mumsnet chicken must last you at least a month…

Not condoning the stealing which is very wrong, but OP is a bit of a tease.

In our relationship we go by "what's mine is yours and what's your's is mine"

No quibbling over a sausage rolls, pretty pathetic that.

Even though he had his sausage roll and I didn’t?

but he had his sausage roll when it was bought, not looked for it 2 days later

My other half eats all of my home cooked vegetarian food and his own home cooked meat dishes. Infuriating but I just can’t imagine calling him at work to ask him where my food is!

Either this is a wind-up or you’re an absolute PITA. Feel sorry for your husband living with a drama queen like you.

Umm that sounds fine and completely different from what’s mine is mine and what’s yours is mine? You try some of that for a while and see how well your relationship goes…

Umm what. You just put up with that do you? Why would you?

Sounds like a useless has-bean.

OP may have just been having a bad day and the food theft pushed her over the edge and made her go a bit crazy. I'm sure we've all been there.

I feel a lot of posters are completely missing the humour/light-hearted nature of the OP. Either that or I’m being too generous, but I read it completely tongue in cheek.

OP I have a shovel you can borrow and my patio does need relaying….

So that means he gets to eat all his and all of the OP’s too, leaving her with nothing, does it?

Disgusting.

You sound incredibly immature. Sort your real problems out, stop making silly things like a sausage/bean roll a major event that involves you calling his place of work!

If they were out for lunch and he did what you say, eating his meal and hers and “leaving her with nothing” then yes that would be disgusting. However that’s not exactly what happened here is it?

He ate his at the time, she had a bite then left the rest. When he came to be looking in the fridge three days later for something to take to work he could well have come across it and thought “oh that bean roll needs eating up before it goes off, better take that”.

That’s how leftovers in the fridge work normally. It’s not “leaving her with nothing” unless it’s the only food in their house.

Read the message in it's context.

What ever I have I share with her and what ever my partner has she shares with me - simples, and why would that be disgusting?

We do everything as a loving couple, and if one of us is short of money the other will willingly help.

You need to learn to read PigletSanders

That’s absolutely not how leftovers work in this house.

Here we say “is it ok for me to take the <insert item> in the fridge or did you have it earmarked for something?”

I have my food planned for the week. Someone taking my thing when they’d eaten theirs would get right on my pip.

I don't know what's worse, someone eating someone elses food without asking or someone leaving good food and it goes off, which could have been enjoyed by someone else.

Not gonna lie, I voted YANBU but I would find living with someone who keeps a half eaten bean roll in the fridge for three days exceptionally irritating.

Exactly. Leaving it this long. Hopefully lesson learned.

I think OP should just freeze the next one. I'd put money down that DH won't go to the trouble if he has to defrost it first.

Sorry but you sound incredibly immature. This is what kids argue about. My 2 grandchildren argued about who ate a chocolate bar belonging to one of them solidly on a 2 hr car journey. If my husband ate a treat of mine sitting in the fridge ,I would tease him and we would have a good laugh.
Honestly this thread is turning into SAUSAGE ROLL GATE