DH stole from me

[Odonje]

At the weekend DH and I went to Knaresborough for a day out - famous for its sausage rolls and pork pies. I don’t like pork pies so I was very much looking forward to the lovely sausage rolls we bought in the bakery. It wasn’t a sausage roll, it was a bean roll but these are just as famous and they looked delicious. DH gobbled his up immediately whereas I took mine home to eat later in comfort of my own home.

later that evening, I wanted to try it but didn’t want the whole thing so I ripped a bit off the end to eat and kept the rest wrapped up in the fridge ready to eat today. I was very much looking forward to it. At lunch time I put my soup on and went to get the sausage roll - it wasn’t there. I messaged DH and he didn’t reply (coward) so I called his work place who went to find him. He denied it at first but eventually admitted to running off with it this morning. I’m gutted. I know it’s a small thing and it’s just a sausage roll but it’s the disrespect, the lies, the outright disregard for my feelings. Latest in a long line of events. Icing on the cake.

I have told him he has no moral compass and the bastard has gone to look up moral compass on yahoo to prove that it’s not a thing. I want it replaced. At the very least I want an apology. AIBU to refuse to cook him dinner or make him coffee until he apologises and promises to replace it.

If I didn’t already know that everyone on mn has Very Important Professiomal Jobs, I do now. For they must not be disturbed.

Yikes you’ve both got big problems!

Although if it was stolen chocolate he’d be under the patio - but I wouldn’t have called work to go find him 😂

My thoughts exactly 😐

You're arguing over a sausage roll that's been lying in the fridge since the weekend? 🤢🤢

Do you want your ICU nurse doing their job or arguing with their spouse over a 3 day old bean burrito?

There are jobs where personal phone calls are discouraged, some where no personal calls unless real emergencies, and some jobs don't allow their workers a personal phone at all.

Hey, 3 days uneaten and it should be up for grabs anyway.

But OP's getting another so hopefully she'll eat this one before her husband does.

Patio the bastard.

and I've eaten a bean roll but I have no idea what a Knaresborough is. 😀

He has no respect for you. This is a huge red flag to me.

How else does he mistreat you?

Honestly women need to raise their standards!

I get your rage but its been there since weekend. I would have assumed by Tuesday you weren't going to eat it

My sentiments exactly.

It’s been there since Monday afternoon when they got home. She planned to eat it Wednesday. That’s not really unusual.

So you wouldnt simply say "do you want the sausage roll? Because if you dont I would like it, would hate to see it wasted!"?

You'd just assume?

Yes, if you wanted it that much you'd have had it by now?!

I couldn't get upset over a bean roll, a sausage roll absolutely but that would've been snorted before I'd even got home he'd not get a chance. I'd have definitely not called his work over it, I'd have said something when he got home. Anyway OP has he got any snacks he's particularly fond of in? I'd be having them

So you texted him multiple times while he was at work, and when he didn’t reply quick enough you called the office line snd had someone fetch him to the phone?

You didn’t just think “he’s clearly too busy working to get into a text fight about a bean roll just now, I’ll speak to him about it later?”

I’m really curious to know what he does for a living.

You do know how unhinged this sounds? Over a sausage roll?!

He's a 999 operator.

Eh? Thats got nothing to do with it. Can’t think of a single job I’ve had in thirty years, from waitressing and bar work as a teenager to the more “important” job I have now, where it would it have been acceptable for someone’s partner to call them to have a row about a bean roll.

Certainly not acceptable to ring the work phone and make a colleague go and fetch them, thus disturbing the colleague too. That’s something you do in an emergency - someone’s died, or your child is in hospital.

🤣

I would be livid if my dh harassed me at work about something so trivial.
Why not wait until he got home.
Op sounds like very hard work .
Obviously if she was easy going her husband would have just asked her if he could have the bean roll. Instead of sneakily taking it.

Does the sausage roll symbolise something, like maybe your orgasms????

Shall we start a support group?

My DH used to work in Pret and frequently brought home unsold sandwiches etc. My favourite was a salted beef and pickle cabbage affair. One day we went on a day trip and I packed a lunch with that sandwich being mine. At lunch time I got out the packed lunch and as I was opening a flask of tea "D" H proceeded to gobble up half of my sandwich I d been looking forward to all day.
that was 10 years ago but I still remind him regularly of this heinous act.

I once found an IOU note on an apple turnover carton I had left in the fridge, especially for my coffee when I got in from work. DH already had his and then mine.

You're damn right I called him up at his Very Important Job to yell down the phone... YA SELFISH GREEDY BASTARD 🤣

She was real.
Born Ursula Southeil.

Massive overreaction on your part. Cannot believe you phoned his workplace to ask him where your sausage roll was. That’s unhinged.

Yes, he should have asked if you wanted it but after it had sat in your fridge for 2 days, it would have been well past its best anyway and he probably assumed you didn’t want it. Have you nothing more important in your life to worry about?