Would you take this job with a 3 year old?! I’m torn!

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I have been a stay at home mum since dd. We are ok financially as a family but I have been offered a job of 70k, remote apart from 2 days a month in the office.

I can basically work when I want, assuming I meet client need.

Having not worked since DD was born I am a bit worried about how I will adapt. I feel like at the moment when I drop her at nursery at 9am, by the time I collect her at 4, I have only just had chance to clean and tidy and prep dinner!!

We could do with the extra money just to pay off the mortgage earlier and this would make a massive massive difference. I am so conflicted and worry I might regret it if I start!

This is a no brainer. You will adapt. It will be good for you.

@LadyDanburysHat thank you for replying to my post. I am worried I won’t have the time to do proper meals or keep on top of running the house. Part of me is desperate to take it and the other part of me thinks it’s a mistake. I only have until Friday to decide.

Do you have a good idea of how challenging will the job be for you? How challenging is your DP's job?

I would seriously have a word with yourself at not being able to accomplish anything g for 6 hours at the moment. That’s a bit odd. The job sounds great. What do you do?

If you want to do it, go for it! If it doesn't work out then you can quit. Even if you stick it out for 3 months at a 70k salary it will be a nice chunk of money to walk away with.

Yes. You will adapt, it sounds flexible and you can hire a cleaner if needed to outsource some of the work. If it doesn't work out you can always quit but it sounds like the holy grail of return to work jobs tbh so I would at least try!!

So if you are earning £70, you get a cleaner and do some batch cooking at the weekends.

I don't mean to sound awful, but you only have one child. Maybe you need to lower your standards a little if you think you won't have time. You will be wfh most of the time, so no commute.

Laundry can be done at lunchtime. Put something in the slow cooker for dinner. It will be fine. Also your DH will need to so more too.

You don’t need to clean daily. Your DH can split it with you.

This would be a no brainer for me. Look at what you can outsource with some of your salary eg cleaning, gardening, meal prep kits etc and you will be fine.

Also if you can afford to consider not taking a 70k job; you can afford a cleaner and some posh/healthy ready meals. So that will help you stay on top of life stuff.

Honestly maternity leave made me lazier and more lethargic than ever. I found i had more energy for home stuff when my brain was engaged in something challenging like work. Thats not a dig at any SAHM its just me personally.

I would also add that if you are working full time, running the house needs to become a team effort between you and husband not just your responsibility.

It sounds like more going on if she’s in nursery 9-4 and you feel rushed.
I’d take the job and look at what exactly is essential and if need be outsource some cleaning, shop online etc. If you have a DH then he’ll need to do some things you’ve done as a sahm.
Are you doing make work to keep you busy eg instagram style cleaning (I watched a video of a woman washing her walls with a mop daily yesterday!!) ironing, prepping a separate meal for dc etc.

Absolutely do it!

If you don't "need" the extra salary, can you get a cleaner; that will help with the house.

I work fulltime, 3 days at home, 2 days in the office each week. You do have to be on top of things, e.g. prep dinner on your lunchbreak , so that everything runs smoothly but it's very manageable and I don't have a cleaner.

The hardest thing to manage is childcare during school holidays.

I totally relate to this. You will find you become more organised with your time. Definitely take the job. You will make it work.

Absolutely take it, I'd take it at 2 days a week in the office, let alone 2 days a month. Entirely manageable and I don't think you'll regret it at all.

Plenty of people with 3 year old work all week in the office/outside the house, so I agree with PPs it's a no brainer and very manageable.

That's a pretty good salary especially after a career break. What work do you do?
OP so many parents manage to work with multiple kids so I am sure you can manage with one.
Outsource so work and you'll be fine.

Fascinated how there are jobs with high salaries like this and you can work when you want. Would love to know what they are getting for their money.

You only have one child who is already in nursery all day and you only just have time to clean and meal prep and keep on top of stuff? This must be a joke. Also if you don’t need the money you can just quit surely if you regret it so why not try it? Wondering what this 70k job is that allows you to work remotely most of the time and at whatever hours you choose, I think most people would kill for that sort of job!

70k and you work the hours you want?

In the nicest possible way, get a grip love. You’ve one child, who goes to nursery. You can still manage to get to Tesco and stick a washing on.

You would be mad not to

Why would you have to do everything around the house? Get a cleaner and get your DH (I assume you must have one to be a SAHM now) to do half the rest and it would be a doddle

You’re spending 7 hours a day cleaning and doing dinner prep?! I’d take the job to just save myself from doing that, it sounds wretched!

That is a great offer and hybrid terms such as those are a rarity. Are you in an industry where you foresee another role such as that coming along? Can you also potentially go down to PT once you’ve proved your worth?

Get a cleaner, gardener and meal prep service in place. You can cut down as you adapt to working life again with kids

Not meaning to derail but curious why your 3 year old is in nursery 9-4 if you’re a SAHM. Is it every day? Is there something else going on? I don’t quite understand the picture

That is a great deal. The lack of commute means it's a bit less time pressures for nursery pick ups and you have a bit more time for cooking and exercise etc. It will feel hard going back after 3 years but tbh it felt hard for me going back after 9-10 months of mat leave! But within a week it just seemed normal again. If you want it go for it, you'll adapt. Good luck!