Would you take this job with a 3 year old?! I’m torn!

[Amivei]

I have been a stay at home mum since dd. We are ok financially as a family but I have been offered a job of 70k, remote apart from 2 days a month in the office.

I can basically work when I want, assuming I meet client need.

Having not worked since DD was born I am a bit worried about how I will adapt. I feel like at the moment when I drop her at nursery at 9am, by the time I collect her at 4, I have only just had chance to clean and tidy and prep dinner!!

We could do with the extra money just to pay off the mortgage earlier and this would make a massive massive difference. I am so conflicted and worry I might regret it if I start!

Same here. There can't be many employers who will pay £70K a year to someone, for a work-from-home-job, where you can 'pick your own hours.' (Especially if the person offered the job is a mum who hasn't worked for 3 years .. That's quite incredible to be offered such a job.)

Does make me wonder what it is. What is your line of work @Amivei ?

I'd definitely give it a go if I were you. My daughter was in full-time nursery care since she was 4 months old because I had to go back to work (on less than a quarter of what your salary would be). As others have said, if you don't like it you can resign. You may wonder "what if" if you don't try it out x

Only fans? WFH and pick hours. I'm not sure the OP is coming back to answer.

You need this job OP if you are spending 7 hours a day cleaning and cooking. Take the job!

Absolutely take the job!

If you want something done, ask a busy woman.

You will work it out. Evening or early morning working, get a cleaner because you can afford one, batch cook, get DH to step up and do his share, let your standards slide a little, whether that’s a wipe down of the kitchen/bathroom rather than a full clean, or a takeaway instead of dinner from scratch. I promise you, you will be fine.

I think you are possibly worrying that you might not be good enough for the job, but they would not have offered it to you if you couldn’t do it.

Many congratulations on getting the job 🥂 🥳 🙌

Why would you not be able to do proper meals? What do you think the rest of us are eating??

Did you apply for it, or were you head hunted?
Also curious to know what it is (I've been made redundant so your offer seems like the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow to me right now).

I wondered this but I didn't like to say! 😬

Get a cleaner, have food delivered, batch cook.

My goodness there are thousands of women that do this day in and day out. Whether you want to do it is for you to decide.

Of course you should take it. I'm surprised that while your child is at nursery the housework takes the entire day

Get a housekeeper who will come in for four hours three days a week. In that time they would be able to clean / do laundry + prep some meals. If you’re paying them £25 hour that’s about 15k a year for someone to stay on top of the nuts and bolts of things for you. You’re still hugely up financially.

try it!

Work expands to fit the time available for it, OP. You've got slack, spending your days slowly tidying and cleaning. If you only have an hour a day you'll speed up. And you have a partner. You could afford a cleaner to help if necessary.

Everyone gets slack when there's not much pressure. You can meal-plan meals: batch cook, look for quick things, prep stuff in your lunch break, get your partner to help.

Sounds to me, though, as if you like your non-working lifestyle. Own it if that's the real issue.

What industry is this out of interest? £70k after three years out the game is great

Im another who cant work out whats taking you 35 hours a week to cook and look after the house. That's a full time job, unpaid.
Look on outsourcing housework as buying time, rather than paying someone to do something you could do yourself. Outsource the jobs you and DH hate the most (mine was ironing) and make sure DH does a fair share himself, including childcare if sick, holidays etc.

The only thing YABU over is doubting. Take the job!

i’ll bite…

I have so many questions
Why is your child in childcare from 9-4 if you’re a sahm?

I know everybody’s different but why on earth are taking you that long to clean and prep dinner?

Only you know whether you’re capable of doing the job to be honest I smell bullshit anyway because someone who is incapable to use seven hour a day better than to just clean and prep for dinner will have the capacity/capability to hold down a full-time job that earns 70 K imo…but ok

Hmmm

Normal people manage to work and stay on top of life. If everyone else can do it, you absolutely will adjust too.

I went back to work after my 2nd (at 11 months), 3 days a week in the office, 3 hour commute door to door each way. Yes, you read that right. I left the house for the station at 6am, walked in the door at the office after train and tube at 9am. I left the office at 4pm, tube and train and drive home from the station and I walked in the door at 7pm. And I was making about £40k at the time. 😂

Of course you will manage. As they say, if you want something done, ask a busy person! Your dh will have to share more of the load and you’ll get more time for yourself too when you aren’t just tidying and cooking food. It’s absolutely doable.

70k is "extra money" 😂

If you posted that you're working full time and exhausted and rushed, everyone would have sympathy. But you made the mistake of posting you're a SAHM and bagged a 70k a year job.

Everyone will tell you to go to work because they're jealous. Hell, I'm jealous. I had to go back to work when DD was 6 months old and it was the most horrible, hardest thing I have ever done.

I'd love to be able to be home more. Any household where both parents work full time is rushed and everyone is tired.

You make it work though. It's shit but there are good parts too. Go for it and see how you get on.

Well it is 'extra' money. Depends how much the partner earns. Perhaps it's pocket money? But cleaning all day long whilst 3 year old in childcare seems a bit of a pointless waste of time. Surely, no-ones home is that untidy?

I’m not jealous at all, can’t think of anything more boring than doing the cleaning while my only child is out of the house.

No, it’s not ‘pocket money’. They may not need the money but 70k isn’t pocket money regardless or what someone else earns.