Would you take this job with a 3 year old?! I’m torn!

[Amivei]

I have been a stay at home mum since dd. We are ok financially as a family but I have been offered a job of 70k, remote apart from 2 days a month in the office.

I can basically work when I want, assuming I meet client need.

Having not worked since DD was born I am a bit worried about how I will adapt. I feel like at the moment when I drop her at nursery at 9am, by the time I collect her at 4, I have only just had chance to clean and tidy and prep dinner!!

We could do with the extra money just to pay off the mortgage earlier and this would make a massive massive difference. I am so conflicted and worry I might regret it if I start!

Yeah, stay at home so you can make proper meals, OP. That’s more important. You don’t want your family living off ready meals.

if you're working everyday the house wont get any more dirty or untidy if everyone is gone

You can put the washing machine on a timer so it's finished at a certain time and hang it up on your lunch break.

get a robot hoover

if you have an extra 70k coming in hire a cleaner

learn to batch cook or get a slow cooker and get the food on in the morning and its ready for dinner.

How do people find these jobs that are 70k remote working when suits as long as deadlines are met?? What field are you in OP?

And I think it’s a no brainer to take the job, unless jobs like this come up all the time for you. There must be a reason you applied for it?

I am worried I won’t have the time to do proper meals or keep on top of running the house.

@Amivei What on earth do you do that takes six hours a day to clean a house and cook?

I would take the job and get a cleaner.

I’d let someone without a kid do the job.

@GreenFlag

would you? Why?

I assume you have a DH? If so you split the nursery drop offs between you and both take equal responsibility for cooking, shopping, cleaning, laundry etc
If you can afford it you get a cleaner

You both need to adapt and that includes your DH everything will need to be split far more equally and it all worked out.

@Amivei - at first you will be completely exhausted (at least I was) but your body and mind will adapt. If you can (financially) contract out cleaning and ironing so it eases the pressure. But I would personally take it..

Indeed!

I work compressed hours from home, and I manage to arrange tasks around work breaks (the old "laundry in before I start, in dryer at lunch etc" routine, slow cooker meals), do a FT job and have my son back at 5.15.

Plus, you know, get a cleaner.

@Amivei you both need to run the house, outsource things such as cleaning share our chores and work as a team

Do it. What a great opportunity. It’s not just the salary you need to think about your pension too.
Agree a cleaner would make life easier, also get a robot hoover, a fluffy duster and a flash power mop. DH will have to do half. Congratulations on getting such a great offer, it will set you up brilliantly.

What on earth are you doing all day?

Take job hire cleaner
Dh gets engaged in running house online shopping etc

I'd take the job, definitely. It sounds like a decent, flexible role with a good salary.

You'll manage fine with cooking and cleaning after work, loads of people work full time and manage it.

Honestly, you are taking 7 hours to clean and prep dinner, because you have the time and are filling it. If you didn't have the time you would become more efficient. Plus, you could outsource the cleaning with that salary no problem. It seems like an offer that it too good to turn down - great salary, great flexibility. You should definitely at least give it a go.

You need 6+ hours per day to look after the house and cook?

I would 100% do this! If it helps your worries, for my working days I prep dinner in the slow cooker the night before. I also batch cook on the weekend and freeze portions so all you have to do is take it out to defrost and then heat it up when you get home. I clean and do the laundry after my toddlers gone to bed. You'll be fine, it sounds like a great deal!

@Cathmawr

there is nothing wrong with the odd ready meal/frozen pizza/ beans on toast sometimes. Lots of people don’t wanna spend their precious weekend time batch cooking

On that salary you can get a cleaner. And a meal preparation service if you really think you need it.

WTF is ‘running the house’? I don’t spend that time cleaning the house a month never mind a day!

Stop with the pointless busy work and take the job.

I don’t understand the difficulty either. No commute, childcare sorted and clearly plenty of time on your hands. I guess you could ask about doing part time hours to start but otherwise I can’t see a problem here and that’s a ‘lot’ of money - more than I’ll ever make!

Absolutely nothing wrong with that, and I definitely do that too. Only mentioned as the OP said she was worried about not being able to cook 'proper meals'

Everyone’s circumstances are a bit different but DH and I both work full time with a now 5 year old and I went back almost immediately. I work from home most of the time except when travelling for work and I do cleaning, washes, food prep over my lunch hour, the evening and weekends. I think that’s what most working parents do with you having the additional flexibility of working from home most of the time. Your DH would likely need to step and help if you are both working - is there a reason he couldn’t do that?

Pay for a cleaner and batch cook she’ll be in school soon