Asked friend to dog sit and she said 'it was a bit inconvenient'

[Terracottafarmers]

I've asked my good friend, who’s really good with our dog, if she’d be able to look after her while we’re away for a couple of nights in December. Normally I’d ask my parents, but since they’ll be away with us, we don’t have anyone else to help.

When I asked her, she said she’d let me know, but this is already the second time I’ve had to bring it up (even though she’s looked after our dog a handful of times before). This time she made a comment I found a bit odd 'Well, you haven’t chosen dates Diana that are exactly easy'. .

I just find the comment a little strange, you either can or you can’t. To be honest, it’s made me feel like I’m being a bit of an inconvenience even asking her. The only thing is, I know if I go back and say we’ve found someone else, she’ll probably get annoyed that we chose another option.

AIBU to feel a bit taken aback?

She doesnt want to do it. Don't ask again and find someone else. If friend DOES get annoyed that you asked someone else just say "well I did ask but it didn't sound like it was convenient for you which is no problem!"

Take the hint, she doesn't want to do it.

It is inconvenient and you are being snobby to think that she would automatically like staying in your house rather than being in her own home.

Just pay for a dog-sitter

Is this a reverse?

Almost certainly, she's trying to say that she can't do it but isn't good at saying no.

She's obviously not keen. Just say ,not to worry you'll ask someone else. Thanks for letting me know.

Her comment was off but I wouldn't make a thing of it, just tell her fine and hire a dog sitter

You cannot be serious

She doesn't want to do it. Find an alternative arrangement.

She’ll be one of mumsnet’s chronic people pleasers who hates to say no.

Just take the bloody hint.

Wow, you’re very entitled aren’t you.

Just because she won’t be at uni on the days you’re away doesn’t mean she will be fully flexible.

Accept that she doesn’t want to do it.

Book the dog in kennels or with a professional sitter.

"She’s starting uni on Wednesdays and Thursdays, but since we’re going away Friday to Monday, it really shouldn’t affect her."

Taking up four days of someone's time will OBVIOUSLY "affect" them!

The mind boggles!

Could it be because it in December? I don't have any set plans yet but know that I probs won't have a weekend free due to events, shopping, Xmas suff, visiting wtc

As the others have said - she doesn’t want to do it.
Unless it is reciprocal, it really is a very big ask to look after a dog.
Please take the hint.

When in December, 23rd to 27th? 😅

It’s a weekend in December, could it possibly be that she might spend the weekend doing something else rather than this obviously amazing opportunity you have bestowed upon her, crazy as it sounds..

It’s not really a ‘nice change’ to have to stay in someone else’s house and look after their dog. Away from your own home and all the things you can enjoy there.

I’m a professional dog sitter and I’m happy to do it for pay, I enjoy the work.
But it’s not a ‘nice change’. I have to pack clothes, wash bag, various shoes, coats etc cook in an unfamiliar place, think/ask permission before having a friend over……..

You sound entitled! Are you even offering to pay the friend?

Gosh, you make out like you're doing her the favour!

I think you need to get things straight in your head: she has no obligation to dogsit, clearly the days you've chosen aren't convenient to her, she doesn't have to dogsit if she doesn't want to, you need to show more gratitude.

Christ, how thick skinned are you?

She clearly doesn't want to do it!

Look elsewhere!

She doesn’t want to do it but isn’t good at saying no. Make other plans. See what’s around in your area for dog care or look at the Rover app.

I am confused. Where did that quote about when the friend goes to uni come from? Or even reference to having to stay at the OP's house?
Anyway, despite my confusion, you are being totally unreasonable not to take the hint - she does not want to do it!

I'd imagine it's more because it's December. There will be work doos, Christmas parties, shopping trips, travelling to see family, maybe school Christmas stuff if she has kids. Last December I was busy every weekend but the plans weren't made or known til November.

The OP removed them. If you click the edit button under her post, you can see the original post. I was confused; too. I reread the times trying to figure it's where it said she was at University.