Asked friend to dog sit and she said 'it was a bit inconvenient'

[Terracottafarmers]

I've asked my good friend, who’s really good with our dog, if she’d be able to look after her while we’re away for a couple of nights in December. Normally I’d ask my parents, but since they’ll be away with us, we don’t have anyone else to help.

When I asked her, she said she’d let me know, but this is already the second time I’ve had to bring it up (even though she’s looked after our dog a handful of times before). This time she made a comment I found a bit odd 'Well, you haven’t chosen dates Diana that are exactly easy'. .

I just find the comment a little strange, you either can or you can’t. To be honest, it’s made me feel like I’m being a bit of an inconvenience even asking her. The only thing is, I know if I go back and say we’ve found someone else, she’ll probably get annoyed that we chose another option.

AIBU to feel a bit taken aback?

Yabu. It's too big an ask. You need to pay for a professional service, December is a busy month for everybody, and you are asking your friend to miss out on other fun things so that you get to enjoy your plans dog-free. Why are your plans more important than hers?

She should give you an answer, yes, but take the hint, she doesn’t want to.
It’s utterly ridiculous that you think you’re doing her a favour by letting her stay in your house. Seriously, literally anyone would rather be at home.

Wow! You seem to think you’re doing her a favour. Stop asking people to look after your dog and pay for kennels or get a dog sitter.

It sounds like she doesn't want to do it and you seem to have assumed that she would.

Here for the drip feed that the inconvenient dates in December are the 24th-26th

I’m glad you explained that.

I thought I was going mad 😂

Either this is a joke or you are a bit of a CF.

To be honest, it’s made me feel like I’m being a bit of an inconvenience even asking her.

That's because you are. Arrange kennels, a dog sitter or don't go.

December. Not easy dates as she doesn't know yet what her social plans will be. December gets busy with party invitations and family visits and prep for Christmas.

Did you bring her back very generous presents last time? or pay her? or offer to?

Pay a dog sitter.

Yet another thread where the Op posts about a fairly outrageous scenario, then promptly disappears. Tiresome at this stage.

Sounds like she doesn’t want to do it because it’s close to Christmas when there’s always loads going on, but she doesn’t want to say no because she feels bad and doesn’t have a definite reason to use for why she can’t do it.
Just book kennels or a professional dog sitter and don’t make a big deal out of it.

She doesn't want to do it.

Well, it's clear she doesn't want to and is trying to be polite. Stop asking her.

' it's a bit inconvenient ' = No, I don't want to. I'm going to be busy and doing uni stuff with uni mates near Christmas, not sitting in your house all alone. Ps I've done it before. I hated doing it."

Put your dog in kennels, a professional sitter Or don't go. Or take dog with you.

December is generally a tough time to commit to anything op, plus she's studying. I’d get your dog used to kennels

Take the hint. She doesn’t want to dog sit.

Looking after someone’s dog is a pain in the arse. I wouldn’t do it either.

She dsnt want to. I make a big fuss of my best friend’s dog because I love my friend. I despise all dogs. Pay for kennels?

It’s unfair to ask, especially twice. Book a dog place.

It is inconvenient to dog sit for some people! I wouldn’t ask any of my friends. We planned on using a kennel this year but a friend offered in the end. I wouldn’t put someone in that position especially if you are getting a feeling she doesn’t want to do it

Are you going away from Friday 26th? In which case she's right, those aren't exactly convenient dates.
Just find another dog sitter or use kennels.

If she wanted a dog, she'd have a dog. Liking yours and giving it a pat when she sees you is a totally different ball game from actually having one in the house.

It's a massive ask to have to take responsibility for your pet, walking it, feeding it, amusing it, cleaning up its shit.

Don't be such a cheapskate and book it into a kennel.

I dog sit for a friend, whose dog i love to bits but even so, i have to say no sometimes, same for my dd, whose dog i equally love!

You're over thinking this, she isn't a pro dog sitter.

It isn’t her responsibility to look after your mutt. Put it in a boarding facility. You’d think you were doing her a favour by pressuring her to look after the thing.

You can't really lack this might self awareness!

It's an inconvenient request no matter who you ask.

In December, the busiest month for most people and for multiple nights.

I really hope she tells you where to go.

It really is a bad time, everyone has things on in December, so it doesn't really suit to spend an entire weekend looking after someone else's dog. You should book a kennel.