DS went through DH phone. DH blames me

[Evkopk]

My sister’s phone had died and she needed to check her emails so asked to use mine. I was using mine so I unlocked my husband’s phone for her. My DH came downstairs and saw DS scrolling through his photos and ripped the phone from her hand.
He has since refused to talk to me and has deleted and blocked me from his phone, including the family groups.
Ive apologised but he doesn’t want to hear it. I am being unreasonable to think he should get over it? It’s been 2 weeks where he has refused to speak to me, nor can I contact him via his phone.

Another one here who things the "check her e-mail" excuse is a pile of crap. You don't mention any fall out with your sister about her breaching your trust (in addition to DHs) if this reason was anything approaching the truth. You'll probably find that DH has also checked out his app history (you can see the most recently opened apps in order on an android phone for sure) so he can tell what else she has been snooping on.
OP, why couldn't you have given DS your phone? How long was it going to take for her to check her e-mails if that was the true intention, so much so that you couldn't spare your phone for what, 2-3 minutes?
DH trusted you enough to enable you to unlock his phone and this is what you do with that trust?

Everyone saying DH must have something to hide ? Why ? Op knew the passcode to his phone to unlock it. Would you not change the passcode if you had something to hide. Op is out of order. End of

Nobody needs to check emails so urgently that they need to use someone else's phone.
If this is true then she is definitely in a small minority who
Let their battery get so low
Do not take a charger with them
Are around people who dont have spare chargers

I say this is a made up reason for her being on his phone to snoop

We are a close knit family. My younger sister is my best friend, we are basically the same person spread over two different bodies! 😂

My husband has no problem if I use his phone, not that I think I’ve had to more than a couple of times but there is something very off about giving the phone to someone else.

The sister wasn’t even telling the truth about checking her emails she was going through his photos!

You had no right to give your husband’s phone to your sister and no wonder he was annoyed. I’d not be a happy about it either and was a breach of trust. Why didn’t you ask him first? You and your sister were totally out of order especially your sister for scrolling through his photos. I hope you challenged her unless of course the urgent email was a ruse for you to have a snoop. Having said that, unless there’s more to this and the phone incident was the final straw, your husband is out of order not speaking to you for two weeks.

So your sister wants to check emails and its sooooo immediately urgent that she can’t’ wait to charge her phone or for you to finish with yours.

You are so busy with your phone whilst she is visiting that you can’t spare yours and hand over DHs.

She spends the time having a good old snoop, when she is supposed to be checking emails.

He has a tantrum and hasn’t spoken to you for a fortnight.

Are you all 7? Or are you testing some nonsensical storyline for a bad soap?

Your husband isn’t unreasonable to be angry but 2 weeks is excessive.

Why wouldn’t you lend her a charger rather than stop what you were doing on your phone and let her borrow that?

Your sister is unreasonable to look at his photos. She should have looked at her emails, logged out then returned the phone. Even if there weren’t any rude images of you or him on the phone, she should have only looked at her emails.

2 weeks wouldn't be long enough for me to ignore you. I'd divorce you for the GROSS breach of trust and invasion of privacy. Your sister is a nosey bitch who used the opportunity to SNOOP through his phone! How fucking dare she? I'd never forgive either of you.

Most reputable email requires 2fa to log in on a new device so I totally call coverup on this. Why couldn't she just plug her phone in to charge. You and your sister were caught snooping on his phone and then created a cover story which makes little sense. If the emails were so urgent why was she scrolling through his photos of not snooping?

Did you forget to post part of the story?

Why was she scrolling through his photos if she just wanted to check her email?

If you are the want to lend her the phone why isn’t it your fault?

Your husband isn’t unreasonable to be angry but 2 weeks is excessive

2 weeks would barely be the beginning if it was my husband who had violated my privacy like that.

I would delete the DS from my life for a start, no going back.

Wow, is this serious and not some kind of reverse? Surely your ds didn’t do this? It’s a HUGE invasion of privacy if true. I wouldn’t dream of unlocking/handing over my DH’s phone! Sheer crazy.

Not great on your part op. You shouldn’t have given his phone out without asking him. It’s like going through someone’s handbag.

but two weeks of silent treatment is appalling

Wow thats totally inappropriate of you and your sister the fact she went snooping through his phone

He has the right to be pissed off, which is more than fair, but his reaction is WAY beyond that.

Surely you deleted your fanny pics once you'd had a look??

And if they were sending dirty pics then I very much doubt the OP would have handed the phone over as she would have been well aware.

I still feel his reaction is beyond normal.

@PoshDuckQuarkQuark
The op unlocked his phone.
That indicates she has full access to his phone. Which also indicates there is nothing dodgy on his phone that he is hiding.

no, read the thread and his reaction is perfectly normal, many of us would have reacted a lot worst.

I might not have pictures of my fanny or dirty pics I sent DH, but nothing I have on my phone is anyone's business! Even photos of my kids are private!

While I acknowledge it's always a risk and I am not stupid, I would also be pissed off if one of my friend's relative was snooping through their phone and looking at pics I sent them privately.

I don’t think the OP is coming back. Hardly surprising.

So why the reaction then if there is nothing to hide?

My point is that his reaction is very much out of proportion to someone being lent his phone.

Pissed off and perhaps angry are acceptable, but his reaction is ridiculous.

Once the sister finished scrolling through the photos, she could moved onto reading personal messages (dirty or not between her sister and brother in law) and nobody wants that either.

Not everyone sets their WhatsApp photos to automatically download to photos. If OP doesn’t have her settings like that but her husband does then the sister could have seen some embarrassing pics.

This.

Another One Post Wonder with a shocking story?

his reaction is normal. How can you not get it's not even about "nothing to hide", that's not the point.

Maybe sister has a history of being nosey or overstepping boundaries? He allows his wife to access his phone which is obviously fine but I bet he’s changed the password now.

Maybe OP has a history of lending his phone to others that he doesn’t like ?

If you've set it up properly, to access your gMail (or most cloud mail providers) securely you would need a 2FA code in order to access it.

That 2FA code is normally sent to .... the subscribers phone (in this case the "dead" phone of the OPs DS (I hate nesting brackets but all the acronyms here !)). Even if the security was an authenticator app, that would also be located on the "dead" phone.

As you were but my eyebrows remain slightly raised.