DS went through DH phone. DH blames me

[Evkopk]

My sister’s phone had died and she needed to check her emails so asked to use mine. I was using mine so I unlocked my husband’s phone for her. My DH came downstairs and saw DS scrolling through his photos and ripped the phone from her hand.
He has since refused to talk to me and has deleted and blocked me from his phone, including the family groups.
Ive apologised but he doesn’t want to hear it. I am being unreasonable to think he should get over it? It’s been 2 weeks where he has refused to speak to me, nor can I contact him via his phone.

Setting aside the silent treatment, as that's not appropriate, you thinking that he's out of order to make a big deal about it sounds like you and imposing your boundaries on another person, and assuming they should react the same as you would. Even though you acknowledge that each individual is allowed to have their own boundaries.

The husband isn't wrong to be upset. If it were your phone, you wouldn't be wrong not to be upset. The OP and the sister were wrong to think their behavior is ok.

Setting aside the protracted silent treatment (and blocking her number) ... is setting aside the big deal he's making of it!

Then I don't understand your position. You think he's reasonable to be upset there the sister looked through the phone, then? That's not really what you implied previously.

No, I said that I wouldn't be upset and don't really get people who are very 'private'. I dislike this quality, but that's my business. I said I understand many people are, so he's reasonable to be upset - by his parameters, which presumably OP knows.

Also that his reaction is excessive and bordering on abusive.

Isn’t it abusive to say I have the right to give anyone your phone to look through and you shouldn’t complain about it?

Yes!

can we imagine the other scenario…

A man gives his DW phone to his brother to have a good look through….

Im not sure all the “ what is he hiding” posters would be so vocal that way round. It would be deemed abusive, Im sure.

I wouldn’t try to get them fired, because I simply wouldn’t care that much. If I’d have been livid, I wouldn’t have posted otherwise.

Don't do the crime if you can't do the time.

.

You deserve the silent treatment. What a horrible thing for you to do.
so if your dh friend was over and he needed some money, if your dh didn’t have it and said to him to go in your handbag - you will be fine with this. You must be really dumb not to understand HOW inappropriate this was.