To confront DH over bingeing

[JaneEyre40]

No not alcohol, chocolate. I've found the remains of family sized chocolate bars that have been eaten in one sitting secretly by my DH, up to 2/3 a week. I wouldn't have a problem with this if it weren't in secret! He also complains about feeling unfit, wanting to get healthy but does nothing about it. Things are slightly stressful at home but not to the degree that you'd need a binge to ease it. Am I being unreasonable to bring it up and ask if he's ok? Not unreasonable being I do bring it up with him.

A large Cadbury chocolate bar is 200g.
2-3 bars per week = 400-600g
They contain 56-57 grams of sugar per 100g

Assuming 2.5 bars/500g per week, that’s 280 grams of sugar per week.
NHS considers anything above 30g of free sugar/day, i.e. 210g/week to be unhealthy.
This relates to free or added sugar, not naturally occurring sugar.

Ergo, he is consuming 70g (33%) more than is considered healthy.
Which may not seem wildly excessive but the cumulative effect over years could have serious health implications - obesity, heart, cardiovascular, diabetes, teeth…

Are the posters who are having a go at the OP missing the part where he's unhappy with his health and moaning about it all the time, then secretly binging?

It's not the OP just Being controlling and wanting to ban a man from happily enjoying a bar of chocolate he sounds unhappy.

And the DH stuck in all this sounds unhappy with his lot….hmm

The family sized bars are the large bars of chocolate you get. Like the big areo or dairy milk bars.
They say family sized on them or they used to.

Same with big bags of maltesers etc they’re called family sized bags.

Perhaps they have been renamed to share sized now.

I absolutely agree, I would be really annoyed if someone put the bar wrappers in front of me. There does need to be a conversation but it needs to be supportive rather than shaming, expressing concern rather than trying to embarass.

He fancies some chocolate and he hides it from you because youre uptight about food.

Unless he's seriously overweight or seriously depressed then I've no idea why you feel you should police his eating choices.

If he's seriously overweight or depressed confronting him with his 'binge eating' will definitely make it worse.

You could just start a conversation about how youre worried about him for such and such reasons. Not the chocolate.

Poor bloke.

You sound rather uptight about food. I’m not surprised he’s eating chocolate in secret.

Like others I'm frustrated by OP's unwillingness to say what size of chocolate bar which is suggesting that the bars are not actually that big and OP is being a control freak.

Im healthy, fit and quite trim. I buy a 'large' bar of chocolate and can't often resist eating it in one day.Sometimes I'll have a couple a week. They are not actually that much to eat- as a PP said not much more than a pudding.

I don't have any disorder and would be furious if DH started talking to me about my problem. Your DH is grown man treat him as such

But it MUST be the woman's fault! 😂

Aww projecting?

Love how it's turned to me being controlling 😂. Jeez some women on this site sure are bitches. Anyway, thank you to those posters who can read with brains for your advice. To all those unhappily bitching carry on. I've gotten the advice I need.

And the size of the bars please for context rather than accusing people of being botched in response to an entirely reasonable context question

Hardly love!

The size is very relevant. If he’s having 3x slightly larger bars of chocolate over the course of a week (like the ones that are 500ish calories) and hiding the wrappers then it’s not unusual to eat a few over the course of a week and would speak volumes about the fact that you would disapprove.
However if it was 3 extremely large bars then that may be different.

Please elaborate on 'family sized' chocolate bar? Because im thinking those ones that are about 2 ft long that you get at Christmas- in a wrapper and a box.

'my DH is eating too much'
'how much is he eating?'
'That's irrelevant you bitches'

Lol.

But the ops husband is complaining about not being healthy that’s probably the difference, what do you say when he complains- well eating three big bars of chocolate won’t help will it - that’s the true response .

😂😆

That sounds very dramatic...maybe that would be appropriate if it was class A drugs but it's just 2 or 3 bars of chocolate!!

I go through phases of eating this much chocolate and I'd be a bit pissed off if my (imaginary) partner did this. It's really controlling behaviour.

The family sized chocolate bars are the large bars you can get in all shops.
Like cadburys, galaxy etc.

I think they’re called share bars now.

Not 2ft long.

Photo for those wondering (it will be pending for a few minutes).