To make a 20+ year old share a bedroom?

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I have 4 dc (20 ds, 19 dd, 13 dd, 11 ds). 4 bed house so one room for us and three for kids. For years the youngest two shared. Now youngest is in with us on sofa bed, but this needs to stop. The two girls can’t share, it would literally make all our lives a misery. I think the boys should share but eldest ds not happy and I can see his point. Or do I get youngest two to share again, even though different sex? Or do we spend £20k on garage conversion to get extra room?! Help!

You are speaking as if coming home at 2 am after clubbing is the only thing they can do.

There are choices. They can stay with a friend for the night. Spring for a room somewhere the odd time. Come home and sleep on the couch. Or not go clubbing.

Like a fucking grown up.

I have so many questions. Is anyone at uni? Why isn't the 20yr old moving out? Why can't the girls share? Why can't the boys share? What on earth?

Why? What will happen if they don't each have a bedroom? Absolutely nothing. 6 years between me and my sister we shared until she left home. We survived.

Doesn’t look like it!

100 years ago 😂

I was sharing a room with my sister until 2012, it was fine, there was no alternative because the house only had 2 bedrooms. And we’re sisters! Likewise my cousin has 3 girls and a boy. At the moment the rooms are split 2 girls in one room, younger two (boy and girl) in the other. Eventually they’ll probably move the third girl in with her sisters, but possibly not, because they’re siblings and they may not want to make that change. This is just life when you’re not wildly middle class.

girljulian,as I said previously my dgks,boy and girl shared a bedroom for 10 years, when did moved to a different county to afford private rental of a 3 bedroom house, it involved obviously new school,dgs went to pieces and for months was found sleeping on the end of his sister's bed.

Do you have a cellar you could convert as a possibility.? Another possibility is do you have space for a small caravan. If not then converting the garage seems the best option.

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This is just life when you’re not wildly middle class

TBF, it is really only on MN where every child’s right to a private double bedroom (ideally with ensuite and room service) is considered an essential human right, even if the child in question only lives in the house for a few nights a month. In real world people have real houses and real expectations.

The only children I knew growing up with their own bedrooms were only children. Everyone else shared. It was the norm for most of my DC friends if there were 3+ children in the house. Neither I nor my DC were born 100 years ago.

It is however a great topic for generating froth. I wonder if the OP will be back?

I don't think it matters - it's still not appropriate for a pre-teen boy to share his space with a grown adult man.

Why is it appropriate for an early teen girl to share her space with a fully grown adult woman?

I personally don't think that's appropriate either.

I’m sure some MN posters would object to children being put in the cellar …..

Mum and Dad should live in a tent in the garden so the children can have a room each.

Because they're siblings and both need a roof over their head perhaps?

The OP has posted once and not come back. Just saying 🤷🏻‍♀️

Why is the 20 year old still at home - is it their choice or is there a reason they aren't able to move out?
What a stupid question. I have 3 at home mid 20s they are no way near moving out due to high rent and house prices.

Yes, fair point @rainbowstardrops , I did notice that before but then forgot.

Cool, same goes for the brothers imo.

Why on earth not? What do you imagine is going to happen?

I'd agree with this. I don't even think I knew many only children growing up. The girls I knew with their own rooms had brothers who shared.
I also knew a few families with 3 kids in one room

This thread and some of the responses are bonkers to me.

There are two children and four adults in the house. OP has enough bedrooms for her children!

Yes, it’s difficult to save for a house deposit now but that is how life is! Continuing to feather a nest at home by spending money on an extra room isn’t going to help her adult children solve the moving out problem?

The two adults are both young. They may still be studying, training or in low paid graduate jobs.
I think its unreasonable to be asking them to move out.
But I do think they should shuffle up and share a room, they are adult enough to respect each other's privacy.

Look up room divider bunk beds for the biggest room and have the youngest 2 sharing but with their own space
A friend of mine did this then decorated the 2 halves of the room differently. The beds aren't cheap but better than a whole garage conversion.