AIBU that DP took the key so we couldn’t go out?

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Im on holiday with DP and my 2 DC from previous relationship. We are in a country visiting family and staying at a villa. DP has been in a shitty mood all day, snapping at most things I say. Me and DC had a snack at about 5.30, DP didn’t want anything. At just after 7, he said he was going for food with his relative, were we going? I just said no. I said no to him as we’d not long since eaten so didn’t want something right now, and to be honest, I didn’t want to be around his shitty mood, it’s best to just leave him be with it.

It got to about 8.30 and DC said they were hungry. No probs, we will go and grab something. But I couldn’t find the key. Messaged DP, no answer, then phoned him, no answer, then I got a message to say he had the key because how else was he going to get in the villa if we decided to go out?! (I read it like I was being a bit dumb asking because it was so obvious)
Erm, by me leaving the key in the key safe if we were to go out.

He said it was fine for me to go out as I could just pull the door to lock it. My response was well if you’re not back before us, how are me and DC going to get back in?!

We wouldn’t be going far (on foot) so wouldn’t be long. It’s now almost 11 and he’s not back and not said how long so I’m glad I didn’t just go out like I said. I managed to get a takeaway to sort the food situation, but AIBU to be pissed off that he took the key with little to no regards for us?

Yes 3 mins before I posted, I missed that….

Well she’s now confirmed they don’t live together, the DCs have never experienced the “moods” he has.

So, she’s got lots and lots of choices.

She gets to choose to stay with the “shitty” man she’s been putting up with, her choice.

Some of the replies on here are insane - YANBU OP. I do think taking the key may have been a silly mistake though that's being generous given you said you do go out most evenings and his logic was to think of himself and how HE would get back in rather than you and the kids.

The only correct answer when told of his mistake would've been to apologise and work with you - if he had driven a distance to meet relative then I can see why he may not have wanted to drive back immediately just to hand over the key but should've said 'if you want to go out I'll make sure I'm home by x time' and then done it. The fact he wasn't home until after 11PM is the most telling part in all of this.

Also agree the onus is on the person leaving to check with the remaining people whether it was okay to take the key or whether it was more convenient for it to be left in the box - if he wanted to come in later without disturbing you then you also could've left the key in the box for him when you went to bed? So all in all it probably was selfishness on his part.

Perfectly fine to be cross with him but it's an automatic reflex to go out with a key so I doubt it was designed to trap you in the house

I'd be much more concerned about the shitty mood and taking it out on you and your children when you appear to be visiting a country that he has links too? He needs to frankly grow up and behave like an adult or take himself off to stay with family and leave you to have a holiday in peace, not ruin everyone's holiday.