To wonder what’s going on with all the big lips

[Laurendelaney1987]

Everywhere I go I see women with massive lips. It looks like so many women are wearing lip fillers.

i totally get that if you’re someone with really thin lips then you may want to plump them up, but I see this look on lots of women from their 20s to 60s.

Well it is an opinion poll!! Which you are also having your opinion on!! And you were rude to someone "you dont know" - and wrong, its the more beautiful that DONT get ski jump lips done! AND beauty doesn't mean the same thing for you that it might for others.

Eww. Women are not turning into ducks. Ducks are cute whereas women with rubber lips and scrunchy arse leggings are anything but cute. They look ridiculous but each to their own.

Because you are making misogynistic comments and calling (hypothetical) other women who haven’t had ‘work’ done ‘plain boring and sad’.

This is a very revealing opinion, but it doesn’t show you in a good light.

Well, exactly.

And as I keep on saying, women are allowed to do whatever they want to themselves and everyone else is allowed an opinion on it.

Why is that so hard to grasp? I guess they don’t like the opinions!

It’s an interesting point about the security or otherwise of women who have extreme versions of lip-filling etc. I agree that, in one sense, yes - they must be insecure to feel their actual looks aren’t good enough, and that’s what I find depressing.

But in a day-to-day, real-life context my experience is that women who look like this are very assertive indeed, sometimes to the point of aggression. But then aggression can also indicate insecurity, I guess. I’ve certainly encountered some who you feel would kick off if you so much as caught their eye.

Done well by a professional, lip filler can enhance a face, when paired with good skin, done hair and natural makeup. It’s when you see women who’ve had them done in the tanning salon or some dodgy nail bar, massive unnatural shaped and size lips, hair scraped back, thick makeup and bad teeth- that’s when they look very tacky and cheap.

People who have good self esteem are not overtly aggressive.
Yes It's a sign of insecurity, low self esteem and the feeling that they have to fight to get their needs met rather than something innate.

Internal Locus of Control comes innately from self, looking outside of yourself for esteem and constant validation via External Locus of Control is the issue and why people go to extremes.
It leads to hostility, conflict and aggression, depression and anxiety/poor relationships etc

Edit It also means they are vulnerable to manipulation and abuse.
I am not talking about tweakments, nice hair, nails btw I'm talking about extremes as per the original poster

I only hear about it on mn mums having babies in or past 40s.

Vernon Kay just told a joke and it reminded me of this thread.

How do you turn a duck into a soul singer? Put it in the microwave until it's bill withers. 🦆

I think men think they are good BJ. Lips. I wonder if it makes a difference? It definitely makes them look as if they are looking to give men a good time, I can’t see much other use for them really?

they must be insecure to feel their actual looks aren’t good enough, and that’s what I find depressing

I know a mum from school, who is lovely but over a period of time has succumbed to many cosmetic treatments so that she now looks "unnatural" She believes it looks better on SM photos which I can understand.

However overtime she's revealed she has been in a very difficult/abusive relationship and as her self esteem eroded she has ramped up treatments, so I believe there is a link. Sadly the look she now has is likely to attract men who are shallow and not looking for a commitment. All the men in my life of various ages, hate the look.

All the men in my life of various ages, hate the look.

Same.

Although, it has reminded me of son telling me that he only knows one man who likes the look. Probably not a coincidence that this man the other week mocked him for helping a couple of young women out saying, "What did you do that for mate? They're not going to shag you, you know,"

Definitely a particular type of man and not one you'd want a relationship with!

I agree. That is pretty much what it boils down to!

That’s really sad and just confirms my suspicion that it acts as a filter to attract the scummiest men.

There's a certain female socio-economic that aspires to this plastic fantastic look. See also, ratty hair extensions, pantomime horse eyelashes, heavy handed bronzer and garish gel nails.

It certainly doesn't appeal to my DD's boyfriends or their male friends. They actually see it as a handy visual indicator to avoid these sort of girls.

I very rarely see that over plumped lips look in my area. If I do see it it's usually on young women or people who look like tourists.

I certainly hope it's going out of fashion. I just think it looks so painful. A little bit of filler maybe just to bring back youthful volume, but when it's that much it really does look unfortunate. But each to their own.

As long as no one harms a duck!🦆🫣

It really isn’t thought. It’s just people giving too much attention to what other people do with their own lives. Iv worked in the industry for over 15yrs and never have I had a beautiful women care about someone less attractive, it’s always the frumpy ones who seem to care what someone else’s is doing. I myself have fillers it’s none of the reasons you stated, it’s simply MY face so MY choice. I don’t live my life to make others comfortable and I can promise you I certainly am not looking at the size of anyone else’s lips and judging as it doesn’t affect my life in any way shape or form. My daughter will always grow up with the same mindset

Worked in the beauty industry for a very very long time and it’s definitely true. For a woman to be commenting on the appearance of another woman it’s insecurities and nothing else. A beautiful woman certainly doesn’t care what another less beautiful woman looks like as she is already confident she has nothing that that woman desires physically

Ok but how would you feel if you saw these women writing about the table next to them had a over weight plain Jane frumpy house wife on it that couldn’t stop staring at them (not saying that’s what you look like) It works both ways. How someone else looks DOES NOT AFFECT YOU. I find it so weird this is meant to be a site of supporting women yet the majority are intent on bringing women down for what they do with their own bodies.

And what are you basing that “wrong” opinion on? I see about 50 clients a week so my opinion is based on quite a high rate of factual evidence. Tell me, what’s you career that you base your opinion on?

I didn’t say women who haven’t had things done are those things. I said those women exist in the world too and you can guarantee people who have had work done aren’t looking at them judging.

@Feelinglost10 It seems that you think the posters here are driven to criticise the look by jealousy, but you're missing an important point: WE DON'T THINK IT LOOKS GOOD!

I know. Overweight Plain Jane indeed, it says a lot about the person who says these things.

Not always.

Speaking for myself I see lovely young women mutilating their unique faces to conform to what I (as a pretty traditional person) sees as artificial , plastic, fake, generic and sometimes downright dangerous look. It genuinely upsets me.

You may have nice tasteful treatments and just be enhancing your natural beauty, as some pps on here have said. That’s totally different from the examples I’ve seen in real life and on the net.

I don’t know if it’s generational or just personal, but to me to be beautiful you need to look natural. That’s totally different doesn’t rule out tweakments, but they need to be subtly enhancing. What is new about this extreme look is that the fakeness seems to be the whole point,