Would you take your ex in, if the only other option was being homeless

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If you have an ex that left you but they then fell on hard times and literally the only option was to sleep at yours or they sleep in their car (realistically this would be reasonably long term)

Would you let them sleep at yours until they are back on their feet

(The council were contacted and no realistic opinions were provided)

The ex was really nasty during the divorce, saying lies all over social media, argued with all of your family and has also been quite nasty since the divorce

Though if nothing is expected of them (such as helping to tidy up), will be quite and enjoys spending time with the kids

No

No.

You said he was nasty, sorry but why does he deserve your kindness?? Not being horrible, but this is his karma. Don’t put yourself in a vulnerable situation, it’s not your business to do anything involving him anymore. Not your circus, not your monkeys

Not sure which way round the poll is but my answer is a massive, emphatic NO.

No way.

No. Nice to you when it suits.

Absolutely not. He should have thought about that before he cheated.

Not in a hundred years. Shame he didn’t show you the same empathy you’re extending to him. He sounds a horrible nasty prick who has made his bed (or car!) and can now lie in it 👋🏼

Not a chance.

No.

No

no

no

youve got rid of him once, why would you do that to yourself and the children.

also it doesn’t have an end in site could be weeks during which he will return to his old ways, but even if it was just a night

no

No. I don’t have great boundaries and tend to try and ‘be kind’ at my own expense if I don’t check myself but when you say he was nasty, that’s where the story ends for me.
You can be kind and help him seek support elsewhere if you really need to, but ultimately, it’s his to sort.

No, definitely not.

No. Having built a happy secure home for my child, I'd not allow that to be damaged.

No. You'd struggle to get rid of him and he doesn't sound like he deserves your help.
If these kids he is good with are shared ot would be confusing for them too.

if it had been an amicable split maybe
but he has demonstrated himself to be abusive and has no respect for you - why would you even consider it?

This.

He is reaping what he sowed. He left and was horrible to you during the divorce.

Why would you give him help now?

Id show him the same love and care he's shown our DC for the last 15 years.
So no. He'd be living in his car. I might give him a slice of bread and butter for lunch if I was feeling nice.

No

Not a man like that. I have other exes on good terms and I would help them, but not anybody who was an arse.

No.

I’m usually the biggest pushover when it comes to feeling sorry for people and giving them a chance and even I would say no to this .
I think he could possibly turn nasty again when he can’t get his own way or if you want him to leave coz it doesn’t sound like he’s going to be there short term so you may find you want rid of him quicker than you expected .

don’t get involved ! Not your circus not your monkeys !

Hell no

Nope 👎

Absolutely not op!!!