To think I’m not a nice person?

[He1h]

I CAN be nice but overall I don’t think I am. There are genuine sentiments I feels where I want to do the right thing or where I feel genuine empathy towards someone. Mainly family or close friends which I guess is normal.

But there’s so many things I hear about where I basically can’t understand how anyone could be bothered… examples…

Stepping on a snail or killing a spider in your home. I feel nothing, maybe a mild acknowledgment that it’s a bit cruel but a few seconds later I’m over it.

My friend’s family pet died when she was in her late twenties and she was devastated for around 3 weeks. I thought it was ridiculous (I didn’t say that obviously).

People getting bothered when they’re above the age of 18 and their birthday can’t be celebrated on that specific day.. who cares?!

Gender reveals… I literally could not give a fuck what gender your baby is, I do not want to have a ‘reveal’ because I am simply not interested.

When someone’s child is crying at a park of soft play because they want the toy my child has…I have zero compassion and just want said child to go away.

Whoever is about to cross the road and I could slow down and stop, I don’t, even if elderly. I simply don’t care.

If my toddler needs to use the disabled bathroom when we are out, and the baby changing is in there, I will actively rush past a wheelchair user on their way in (if I can manage it in a socially acceptable way). I don’t care that they may need it more than me/DD.

There’s lots more. I can be very kind and considerate but largely I think I’m mostly about myself/immediate family and couldn’t care less about anything else. I often think I will make up for this shitty behaviour later on in life. Then of course I don’t. How awful are these things? Am I just a bit shit?

And are you forcing yourself to be polite? If they weren’t looking would you still do it?

Isn’t it just unbelievable!

Are you actively doing the things against others or just lazy and rude

@hereismydog please read the thread. I always stop when I need to! I meant I wouldn’t actively go out of my way to let someone by.

Yeah rushing past a wheelchair user so your non-disabled family can use the facilities instead of them is...either made up as a way to get attention on Mumsnet or proof that you are a terrible person.

And plain rudeness

shoes on train seats

honestly, to think you’re a parent OP is a bit depressing

Would you really?
And what does the wheel chair user do, whilst you “ socially acceptably” barge past?

to change DD, not for me to use it

I’ve read it. I can’t see where you’ve answered the actual question I asked.

And this is what is wrong in the world.
An entitled tw*t.

@Enigma53 yes I would always go to an alternative first, but if it wasn’t in good condition I would go to the other one

Read "Sociopath" by Patric Gagne and see if it reminds you of yourself, because if so, you too are devoid of normal human emotions.

@UnfashionableArtex to change dd. Not for general use

And what if you had a good friend with you and they would see what you were about to do?

Don’t try and glamourise it beyond anything other than you are very rude, selfish and inconsiderate.

@UnfashionableArtex I do feel compassion and I am often kind. But I also do the things I’ve listed. I’m not sure what that means, I’ve definitely become worse the older I am

If your child isn’t a sufficient motivation for you to stop being rude and inconsiderate Op, nothing will.

But yes, I think you do sound fairly horrible. Pushing past someone who has waited their turn to use the accessible toilet just so you don’t have to wait is properly shitty behaviour.

Well yes, you're quite unpleasant and selfish. You probably pride yourself on "telling it like it is" as well. But you know, you do you. Presumably you aren't actually bothered what other people think of you, so this thread in itself is utterly pointless.

Agreed

@Othersnotsomuch I’ve not yet considered it to be a glamorous trait!

You just sound as if you lead a rather dull, petty life, don’t have much of a relationship with the world around you. and you act ‘well’ or ‘badly’ depending on whether anyone else knows, and whether there are consequences for you.

I’m assuming that if the wheelchair user was accompanied by several large, aggressive bikers cracking their tattooed knuckles, or a bunch of disability rights campaigners ready to film you dashing ahead of the wheelchair user and put it online so that you become a public hate figure, you might manage to take your toddler to the Ladies?

You sound like an average human tbh

Ewwwwew I feel bad for your kids…. Here’s hoping they don’t inherit any of those charming traits 🙄🙄it also would be extremely fitting karma should you yourself become a wheelchair user and receive the same treatment. Manifesting…..