Torn on attending a wedding with a positive covid test

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Hello All,

Just looking for advice really, I've been feeling under the weather with cold symptoms after going to a festival and I did a covid test today and its positive. My partner has done a test and is negative. We're both due to travel up country tomorrow, for a wedding on Saturday. I don't know the couple, I am meant to be meeting them for the first time during this wedding. My partner has another covid test that he'll take tomorrow.

I had my partner message the groom to let him know, and he's said for both of us to come anyways, and to just not make a big song and dance for testing positive, he's said about 90 people are going and the chances of someone else having it, irregardless of me, is quite high. My partner will still go without me, I think, but has said he'll be sad without me there, and is of the opinion that if the groom is fine with it, I should still go. But of course, there could be people in attendance who are vulnerable.

However I feel really torn, because my best friend has said she'll be really disappointed in me if I go, and that I don't know these people, so technically I won't be missing out on much - which is true. She said if I was asymptomatic that would be different, but I do have common cold symptoms, but they are manageable with cold and flu medicine.

Just seeking some advice really, if the groom had of said 'she can't come with covid' it would have been so much easier, but now I'm torn between my partner and the groom saying to come, and my best friend saying it would be the wrong thing to do. Would it be unreasonable for me to still go?

I'd not go, you don't know anyone there so you'll only be missed by your partner, who will be fine without you.

It's not just a cold for some people.

Covid is still considered serious for vulnerable groups of people, such as the elderly and immunocompromised people. That is why they still get jabs.

Don't test in future. You're either well or ill so go by symptoms.

That said now as you have tested you can't go. It would be irresponsible knowing it is highly contagious.

Can I ask. What would your answer be if the OP hadn’t tested. If she felt a bit under weather as she does but ok to go. Would you say she should stay home in case it is Covid?

I am a bit of an indecisive person by nature really, my friend suggested I get a test so I know timeline for recovery really, but yeah, two people that both mean the most to me, have vastly different opinions! My partner is of the opinion I should go, and even if he was positive, (which currently he's not) he'd still go anyways, but of course my best friend sees the whole thing very differently. I feel okay right now, but thats mostly because of cold and flu pills

I’m surprised you’re still testing. I’d go personally if I was feeling up to it.

This thread is just going to bring out all the selfish sods who don't care if anyone more vulnerable may catch your bug.

Please don't go, every time I've had covid I've been really ill. Like flu ill, I even got a chest infection for the first time in my life after my last bought. Otherwise I'm a fairly well person, but covid floors me. My son who has bad asthma hardly get any symptoms, just cold like and a stuffy nose. Yet a normal cold floors him.
Everyone reacts different to different illness and its mean to go to an event where you'll be in prolonged contact with people if you know you have a contagious illness. A bit different if you have to go to work, but if it's avoidable then people should be more considerate.

I have a compromised immune system and would not expect anyone to test for Covid or not attend a wedding if they have it. Life is for living and comes with risks. Go live life!

No you shouldn't go. The people who are saying covid is just a cold are the lucky ones. Covid, has never and probably will never be fatal or even serious for everyone. The jabs have brought that number down even further, but it never will irradicate it. Just like loads of other diseases - flu, colds, chicken pox, mumps...

https://www.unmc.edu/healthsecurity/transmission/2023/12/27/every-covid-infection-increases-your-risk-of-long-covid-study-warns/

10 % of all Covid cases lead to LC some estimates are higher. Each infection increases your chances. Even if you are fit and healthy. It’s really not like a cold and in the future people may start to realise this.

It can do some serious damage. You don’t want to keep catching Covid like we do with colds. Therefore people should be more cautious.

"COVID is like the common cold now."

Except for the occasional people it kills (37 so far this year), which the common cold generally doesn't.

You are, frankly, an idiot

And you are a pompous arse.

I'm tempted to do this, take the spare test and all my gaming stuff and test on the day, I went to the festival Friday-Sunday last week, so could well be testing negative by Saturday morning, and if not, just enjoy a day at the hotel with gaming, netflix and no chores!

Older people will be fine with you being there, we are all vaxed up to the hilt and are likely to have very mild symptoms if we get it. It is such a non event now that I'm also very surprised you tested. If there was someone with a seriously compromised immune system invited I expect they would not go as the chances are that some of the other guests will have covid or something else infectious.

Weird - have I just stepped into a parallel universe and are we back in 2021?
Go to the wedding. Stop testing and make your own decisions.

Yes but you risk unknowingly infecting someone (an elderly relative of theirs for example) who may have comorbidities esp. heart or lung weaknesses that mean they’d possibly get really sick. Same goes for a young baby/child. I speak as someone who worked in a respiratory department for 15 years including during Covid. Yes, most people who get it now will probably be ok after a week or so as we all have a degree of immunity despite new variants developing in order for the virus trying to survive. If the wedding and reception are outdoors and you keep safe distances from anyone who may be vulnerable then you’re probably fine but do think on this and do what in your gut feels right.

It's not just a cold .It's a highly contagious virus which appeared a few years ago .Colds have been around for years and the way they behave is pretty well known .
This isn't true of Covid and while I imagine all viruses mutate to a certain extent the coronavirus is still new and still mutating .
There is a test for it ,if you know you have it please don't spread it by attending a social function .

This.

This.

vulnerable people will be there.

it's not up to the groom to give you permission to make them ill, irrespective if what it is.

how would you feel if you heard the brides nan died shortly after the wedding.

just because most people aren't testing doesn't mean covid won't make many people very ill, or worse.

Don't go- meet them another time

You won't enjoy it anyway if you're feeling rubbish. Now you know you shouldn't go. Even if you infected one person you don't know how many vulnerable people they would infect.

I don't think you should go. Someone you've never met, not close family, and you feel rubbish.

Not true.

Oh Lord I've had/got long covid. At the time of the actual covid I practically had pneumonia. I've lost my appetite and enjoyment of food, everything tastes like cheap pizza, still got a sore throat, lost loads of weight (from size 14 to size 8) the list goes on.
Like you I'm definitely running at 50% energy. I get out of breath (don't smoke) and the fatigue is genuinely crippling.
I hope we both feel better in good time as I've never been as run down.
I used to laugh at the idea of long covid, now, not so much.

If you feel ok, I would go but make sure I don’t talk closely with people or kiss/hug etc. I would just say that I have a cold (because that’s what it is essentially) and I won’t get too close. Don’t share food or drinks and keep some space and you will be fine.