Torn on attending a wedding with a positive covid test

[Raveien]

Hello All,

Just looking for advice really, I've been feeling under the weather with cold symptoms after going to a festival and I did a covid test today and its positive. My partner has done a test and is negative. We're both due to travel up country tomorrow, for a wedding on Saturday. I don't know the couple, I am meant to be meeting them for the first time during this wedding. My partner has another covid test that he'll take tomorrow.

I had my partner message the groom to let him know, and he's said for both of us to come anyways, and to just not make a big song and dance for testing positive, he's said about 90 people are going and the chances of someone else having it, irregardless of me, is quite high. My partner will still go without me, I think, but has said he'll be sad without me there, and is of the opinion that if the groom is fine with it, I should still go. But of course, there could be people in attendance who are vulnerable.

However I feel really torn, because my best friend has said she'll be really disappointed in me if I go, and that I don't know these people, so technically I won't be missing out on much - which is true. She said if I was asymptomatic that would be different, but I do have common cold symptoms, but they are manageable with cold and flu medicine.

Just seeking some advice really, if the groom had of said 'she can't come with covid' it would have been so much easier, but now I'm torn between my partner and the groom saying to come, and my best friend saying it would be the wrong thing to do. Would it be unreasonable for me to still go?

FFS, I’m healthy and I’ve just had three weeks off work because of Covid, which for the first two days started like cold symptoms. I’m one of a group of around 40 -50 people who caught it after one person brought it on holiday. It ripped through our lungs. Five people ended up in hospital, we had paramedics to the house.
The cough was so bad for many we were coughing up blood and have been left with lung inflammation that doesn’t seem to want to clear. Delta strain, apparently.
It really ticks me off that there’s a presumption that ‘it’s just a cold’.
Thank you for not going, OP.

I had a guest not attend my wedding due to having covid, I was glad they were honest and didn’t attend. We were going on honeymoon a few days later and even though it might not be more than a cold for most of us, it still would have spoiled the trip if we’d caught it. We also had guests who were vulnerable health wise. I don’t think you should go.

I have a relative who hasn't worked for two years because of long Covid. I get really pissed off at the dismissive attitude that people have about it being 'just a cold'.

Don't go to the wedding.

I'm glad to see the update, OP you absolutely did the right thing by not going.

I'm sorry to hear that.

it needs repeating.

Fair play to you @Raveien . You’ve made the right decision imo. I hope you’re recovered in time to enjoy the plans that you’ve got for next weekend.

So, if you had Covid you would still socialize, go to a wedding, whatever, because you want to enjoy youself? Sorry, I don't get your meaning.
Or, do you mean you don't care if people would socialize with you if they were ill?
I don't know anyone who wants to socialize with people who are sick. In fact, I have a friend who spends holidays with us and politely refused Christmas last year because my dc were ill. Out of consideration, I had advised her the dc were sick so gave her the option of bowing out.
In '21 when I was barely 2.5m post-partum a friend came by for a visit and lunch. We dutifully wore masks except while eating. I had a fan on blowing air past us toward an open door. We sat at least 6 feet apart. A few days later I was ill. A day or so after that my mum and NB were ill. It lasted straight through Christmas and New Year. About 6 w total. I couldn't really manage breast feeding so upped bottle feeding. My baby never properly latched after that. I couldn't figure out who we caught it from as my friend did not appear ill or tell me she had any symptoms. When I finally spoke to her after I recovered to ask how her Christmas was she said it was awaful because her whole family, including her, had Covid and she's never been so sick in her life. She was the only one I had been in contact with because I had been cautiously isolating to protect my baby and mum who was post-cancer treatment.
My baby's/our first Christmas together etc was utter shite. I lost the breast feeding bond and lost most of my milk because I couldn't breast feed. I was so sick and out of it I barely cared for my baby. Covid is very unpredictable and highly contagious. My friend either didn't think much of mild symptoms or was asymptomatic when she visited. I know she didn't intend to get us sick.
Anyone who knowingly has covid should stay home. And anyone who has cold symptoms should mask if needing to go out. It's just sensible and considerate.

Well done OP. I wish the selfish simpletons on this thread would consider the implications more .

Most likely not offering the jabs to staff as they know they don’t work so it would be a waste of NHS money!
So many people above have said how they have had countless infections and been so ill despite being jabbed up to the max! All the lies about how they protect others, all the care home staff who lost their jobs for not having the vaccine. At least people seem to be waking up to the fact they were a load of bullshit.

The vaccine protects against developing severe illness and death.

Intelligent and informed comment🤨

Covid is not flu.
Flu is flu.

Glad you agree 😊

No actual proof of that though. The virus naturally mutated to a less virulent strain which it would have done, vaccine or no vaccine.

Alrighty. 👍

Please could you back up your insane claim with some peer reviewed data, your 10% claim is total nonsense?

Given most of the population don't test anymore there have been billions of cases of COVID brushed off as the common cold, because symptoms are so mild for the vast majority.

I manage a team of 500 people, and our company policy was to test well into 2024 even if you had a sniffle, nearly 5 years later, thankfully this madness has ended. Of those 500 people one was hospitalised from the start to the end of the pandemic (with a pre-existing illness), despite many of them catching the virus numerous times.

The stats - attached have less relevance now as the majority are no longer testing. If you get Covid, it can be (very) unpleasant but the vaccine lessens your symptoms and hopefully keeps you out of hospital. Long Covid is probably of more concern

Gosh. So ignorant and naive!

Its pretty well known

https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c93ker0kevpo

But ignorance is bliss. There are currently 3 million people in the UK with Long Covid. This will only get worse. Thankfully doctors are starting to take it more seriously.

Plenty of heads in the sand though…

Covid is a lot less virulent than it used to be - vaccination has helped and the recent strains seem to be less dangerous. However, a friend of mine - middle aged, fit, healthy, got it last year and it has damaged her ehart. permanently? They don't know.

Test forr Covid and don't go if you test positive. It isn't 'a cold.' It can still kill.

https://www.who.int/europe/news-room/fact-sheets/item/post-covid-19-condition

WHO estimates LC as around 10-20 percent of those infected. Obviously the exact numbers are unknown but it’s doesn’t help to downplay or pretend this isn’t a thing.

We need research in to cures and medication. Women are 50% more likely to get LC than men so some research around that would help too.

Many fit healthy people have had their lives ruined by this.

Latest strain that started last autumn seems very virulent. It does seem to have mutated again and is causing problems in healthy people.

This is a meta analysis of 41 studies that puts the global prevalence of long covid at 43 percent https://academic.oup.com/jid/article/226/9/1593/6569364?login=true

These stats have less relevance now (are they from UKHSA) - because they seem nonsensical. Taking into account the increase in cases since end of July, that would mean nearly everyone with covid is hospitalised. If there were only just over 1000 cases, it would hardly be a wave, with shedloads of people having it, despite the low testing even in hospitals. It’s like saying there’s only about 1 in 10,000 people in London with covid and zero in the rest of the country. Does that seem any way plausible? These figures may as well say covid doesn’t exist, which would be great if true, but also pointless. What shit monitoring we have in this country.

I wasn’t hospitalised and still developed LC. I don’t think I even went to bed with it. It can develop from a mild case. Unfortunately!

There are some experts who think cases are even higher than reported. As the symptoms of LC can be so bizarre and it can present as an autoimmune issue. Often months after the initial infection (which may have been mild).

Wow - and also how concerning! Since it keeps circulating even in summer…