Comment to air hostess

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Just arrived on holiday and I need the wise opinions of the Mumsnet community to help me decide if I’m being super unreasonable or if I’m right to feel pissed off.

On the plane off on holiday with my DH and DD9. Half way into the journey and the air hostess (think blonde, slim, attractive) comes down the aisle selling scratch cards, Prize being another holiday. She gets to our row and DH asks for x5 tickets and cheekily says “if I win, do you come too?” to the lady selling. I’m mortified and give her an apologetic look. She gives me a somewhat sympathetic look and I’m just feeling like the biggest dickhead.

I can’t bring myself to speak to my DH out of disgust and he laughs it off and makes me feel like I’m creating a drama for no reason. Feel so upset that he would humiliate me in front of my face.

Honest opinions please. Should I have laughed along or would you be fuming? Thank you!

Air Servants surely?

I think you need to pull yourself together for your dd's sake, it's her holiday as well and she probably feels pretty distressed to see her mum crying like you describe. Yes he was out of order, but I'd have just eye rolled and told him he was acting like a twat and gotten on with my holiday.

It was up to her to come back with some banter, or a lighthearted retort.

Your taking it on board too much.

I would have barely noticed a comment like that. Obviously meant in jest. Spoken and instantly forgotten. It maybe would have achieved a slight eye roll from me but then I would have got back to my reading and thought no more of it.

I'd be asking him how he would feel if someone said that to his daughter, or wife while they were trying to do their job.

Yanbu, what a sleaze. I'd be utterly humiliated if my dh make a remark like this and I'd make him apologise to both me and the cabin crew.

Obviously loads of men are cheesy like this, if not out loud then definitely in their heads. Women too, no doubt. What is alarming is that he said it out loud while you were sitting next to him, which in my mind puts you in a strange position, as if he is treating you as a mere pal.

Can’t believe the harsh comments being directed at the OP. Plenty of people still use the term “air hostess” although stewardess or cabin crew is more common. Don’t kick her for that ffs.

Her husband was a tosser to make that comment in front of her and their child. For some reason, certain professions like cabin crew and nursing have been over-sexualised as if they are fair game for flirting. They are not, they are doing a professional job and no one deserves to be sexually harassed at work.

OP should have a sharp word with her stupid husband and let him know it’s unacceptable behaviour. But I wouldn’t let it ruin the holiday, as long as he behaves himself.

ODFOD

Bloody hell, you’ve set your bar low

Fuck off you chauvinist pig.

Just a bit of stupid banter, was she really likely to say, 'Oh yes please', it wasn't a serious proposal (or is he that gorgeous all women fall at his feet). I've heard older women say similar to attractive men meaning absolutely nothing by it. Why should you be mortified it was him making an ass of himself.

No. People who serve food and refreshments like waiting staff and cabin staff aren't servants in the sense you mean.

No it bloody isn't.

I had an ex boyfriend who used to shamelessly flirt with other women right in front of me and it was fucking horrible.

Hope you are ok OP, that would've been bad enough if you hadn't been there, but whilst you were sat right beside him was just vile to both you and her. He owes you a massive apology and I wouldn't speak to him again until I got one. Does he often treat you with so little respect?

No one should be required to "banter" while doing their job. It was up to her husband to not make such a comment in the first place. Sadly he failed.

Bit over the top?

You called them cabin staff! Progress! Now you just need to accept they do more than serve food and refreshments...

Well, that’s their main job.

Obviously yes they do!

They have to put up with stupid remarks being made, like OP'S DH.

I suppose this is generalising but in my opinion, most men are unable to ever mature properly, as women do.

Years ago, I was standing in an amusement arcade with DD in pushchair.
Waiting for DH who was in the loo.
Two men who worked in the arcade made comments about me, such as my "good assets"
Expected my usually sensible DH to go and complain, but he laughed and said it was a compliment.
I was fuming!

This is what I mean, never mature properly.

Know how you feel OP, it's bloody humiliating and absolutely no need for it!

It's easy to assume that because it's what you see as a passenger. But it is one of many jobs, not their main job at all.

Hes a creep, yuck !

My friend is Virgin crew .

Good for her. Mine works for BA.

Even though it’s nearly 25 years ago since I stopped being cabin crew I would find that highly offensive both to the cabin crew member and to yourself. Maybe what men got away with 30 yrs ago, but not now.

I know!

My point is I’m not commenting as a passenger