Do childless couples have better sex lives?

[cjfrh1985]

…..because the woman’s body doesn’t change (assuming she doesn’t gain weight, and obviously ageing happens)?

I am not a 'misogynistic man', I am just considering whether or not I want children. And yes, I am worried about my body and how it will look, whether I'll get back into shape or not, because that will affect how I feel about myself. I still want to feel like me. That's not a crime. Some other women feel the same way.

My wife was very lucky, she had no real changes to her body and she’s now slimmer than pre pregnancy, but fully aware this isn’t the case for all.

In terms of sex, childless more frequent sure.

Parent do have sex, and how regular is just down to you as a couple not the children (most the time), but when we are temporarily childless I find we very much make the most of it and far better than when we were childless fully. Maybe we’re more grateful being alone haha!

This. OP, if your primary concerns are your appearance and how much it’ll affect your sex life, do not have kids. Everyone (you and the kids) will be better off.

This isn’t a criticism. Not everyone is meant to have kids. Realising that before you do is great.

There's not exactly a direct link between those two things for most men, otherwise we'd spend most of our teenage years wandering around with an erection.

It's not like we can get it just to spring to attention on command, and yes, with age it can take a bit more coaxing. And to be honest, familiarity also means it's less likely to appear spontaneously as well. If it's the first time I've ever seen a woman naked, then yes, I'm probably going to get an erection without even being touched, because if its gotten to this point, then there's a fairly good chance I'm going to have sex.

But I'm not going to get an erection just because DP of 20 years is walking around the bedroom naked. Yeah, it turns me on, but it's not a reliable precursor to sex, because it's most likely she's just got out of the shower and is getting ready for work.

And there's a million reasons why a man might really want sex but not be able to get or maintain an erection. Tiredness, stress, nervousness, high blood pressure, diabetes. Hell, for some reason I always get horny when I've got a stinking cold, but there's no way I could do anything about it even if I could convince DP to come within 10 foot of me.

And then there's the really big reason. It happened before, so now I'm worried it'll happen again. There's no more self fulfilling prophecy than "I hope I don't lose my erection"

@VimesandhisCardboardBoots Thank you…. Otherwise men would just be walking around with an erection if they saw an attractive woman in the street!

It's about you'd relationship, not about whether you have kids or not. Childless couples' sex lives will wax and wane too, surely?
So, no, not necessarily, to answer your OP.
Don't have kids, OP. You don't sound ready.

*your

I’m sure they do, particularly as people age. And also just due to the fact that none of us looks or feels sexy 24/7, whether we have kids or not.

You’re agreeing with a comment that has been deleted.The question was, do childless couples have better sex lives, it’s a perfectly reasonable question to ask.Telling op, not to have children! As according to you all she cares about is her appearance, that everyone will be better off, if she didn’t have any.
And that you’re not criticising😂
Thankfully your opinion is relevant.

Thank you. I didn’t realise that caring about your appearance meant that you’d only care about that, and that you’d automatically be a bad mother 😅

@cjfrh1985 I think your question is a really valid one.I just couldn’t believe, the comment we’re referring to, take no notice op❤️

OP there's something about your tone I don't care for. The whole thing has a whiff of misogyny, plus you sound revolted at older people.

OP you are really going to struggle as you age. Kids or no kids.

What don’t you like about the tone?
I’m a woman, didn’t find op’s question or tone misogynistic.
Interested why you’ve come to this conclusion?

If it’s a deciding factor for you, then yes, motherhood probably isn’t for you.

It doesn’t sound like ageing is for you, either, tbh. But avoiding that is infinitely trickier than not having kids.

I agree with pp that there is a strong whiff of misogyny about everything you write. It’s great that you’ve found someone to agree with you, though.

No.

I’m not scared of ageing. We’re still young in our child bearing years. Lots of mums do want to get back into shape and still feel like themselves after having kids.

But you are very looks focused so you will struggle as you age and your body starts to change.