Do childless couples have better sex lives?

[cjfrh1985]

…..because the woman’s body doesn’t change (assuming she doesn’t gain weight, and obviously ageing happens)?

I feel exactly the same as you. I'm very into health and fitness and I wouldn't feel like me if my body changed too much. I don't go to the gym, but I run and eat healthily. I don't think carrying extra weight would suit my frame at all.

Yeah, where the hell does it come from? Baffling. Sigh.

I would assume that they do.
Not because of body changes, more roaming children, especially young teenagers, lack of privacy.
My body hasn't changed much.
My 16 daughter doesn't sleep well, she has no friends outside school, she never leaves the house unless she is with a parent, we live in a small terrace house, if you pass wind she will wake up.

Except for the existential joy and happiness that children (and eventually grandchildren) can bring…

At 58, does your husband/partner not have some ED issues though? No man in his 50s can be the same as in his 30s....

Is this a thing, your face changing during pregnancy? Does it stay like that after birth?

I think maybe a puffy face could be due to water retention during pregnancy, although I'm no medical expert....

Better = more passionate, more frequent (or as frequent as both partners would like)

Why = curiosity. Not sure if I want children or not.

16 year old daughter, or did you mean to write 6 year old?

Some teenagers don't have many friends. The stereotype is that they're all out socialising all the time and never see their parents, and while that's true for many, it isn't everyone.

I wasn't out all the time as a teenager. I hated my comprehensive school and a lot of the people in it (bullies...).

Yep. The hormones sadly drain your face. Mine feels more lax now, and iv got more wrinkles. Its permenant.

One of DP's peri-menopause symptoms is that her sex drive has gone through the roof. We've been having more sex in the last year than at any point other than our first few months together. So I wouldn't count on that putting a dampener on things.

Are you sure that's directly related to pregnancy and birth though?

Maybe childbearing does cause ageing or cause us to age faster....

16 year old.

Plus a 10 year old. 10 sleeps well, yes, teenagers are in your face more than toddlers.

Ignore tbe negatives around body changes.

If you are going to gain a middle aged spread, it'll happen baby or not.

I have friends who are a size 8 with DC and child-free friends that are a size 20.

Babies don't change your body a lot, if you're into fitness then you will bounce back.

I bounced back both times without much effort.

Plenty of men suffer from the spread without any pregnancy, women can blame it on pregnancy.

Your face won't change from pregnancy, it'll change with time, baby or not.

None of my friends have small babies/toddlers, we're all mid 40's, some are running 5k on a Saturday morning, other pals are eating a fry up, nursing a hangover, depending on their lifestyles.

Nothing to do with having DC

Your face won't change from pregnancy, it'll change with time, baby or not.

Can confirm. I don't have children. I just hit the late 40s...

You literally just made it about women’s bodies.

Sorry late reply.
my jaw was snatched before my baby. I gained 30lbs and it really did take a toll on my chin and jawline. I actually think i might try skin tightening as nothing else helping. Pregnancy caused it.

There is so much crap on this thread and men posting trying to disguise themselves as women. Piss off, we can see through it.

He is younger than me but does have some issues. He takes pills and after some trial and error, has found some that really suit him. However, that wouldn’t be different whether we’d had children or not.

Thanks for being honest. Most women are honest about vaginal changes that come with menopause, but there seems to be lots of men on the internet saying, 'oh I have no issues at 55", and "same as when I was 30", which I struggle to believe!

Which posts? And what makes you think that?

Some women are very weight/body conscious, independently of what men think. Just because a post says that they were worried about pregnancy changing their body, it doesn't mean it's a man in disguise.

It isn't internalised misogyny to want to be a certain size, in my opinion.

Yes, but body shape, etc, has nothing to do with it. It's more to do with the fact that you're either both too knackered to fancy DTD, or that your children (of whatever age) have an unerring instinct to interrupt at a crucial moment!!!!

I think men using pills is mocked by both men and women, I’ve seen it in here when women talk about older men being too useless to date and often say “they need pills”. I think ‘so what’, if they work, they work and if it means DH and I have a good sex life, then I think they’re fantastic. I just see them like I’d see HRT (obviously to a degree!), nothing to be ashamed of.

Yes neither anything to be ashamed of. I do sometimes wonder why if a man feels horny he couldn’t get it up naturally, but then I don’t know what it’s like for men…

It’s not getting it hard, it is maintaining the erection. My DH overthinks, as much as ge tells himself it’s not going to happen, it does. Self fulfilling prophecy!

And that's not even a flex

Sleeping with a 55year old man is different to sleeping with a 30 year old

For body change reasons: meds, fitness, ED whatever else it might be

But also for good reasons, as sex should evolve as you mature

A 50 year old acting like a 20 year old in bed is 🤮 and no 50 year old woman wants that crap

Don't lots of men 50 and over struggle to get an erection in the first place though?