Do childless couples have better sex lives?

[cjfrh1985]

…..because the woman’s body doesn’t change (assuming she doesn’t gain weight, and obviously ageing happens)?

Who said she was 60 or implied it? She's 41 and it's in the post you replied to!

Don’t be ridiculous. I’m 35 and have the same body shape as I did in my late teens. Probably more toned actually, but certainly the same size. Why on earth wouldn’t a woman look the same at 40 as she did at 18 if she hasn’t had kids and hasn’t hit peri prematurely? For those of us into exercise, maintaining a stable weight is as normal as maintaining healthy gums.

at 35 I didn't diet and exercise but found it easy to maintain my body because I was only 35. A few days of not eating and I easily dropped a few pounds when needed. Once I hit my 40s much much harder.

@Whatapileofshit you said 60 year old not just implied it🙄Yes if you want to split hairs, you were having yet another dig, 60 year old childless women, you actually said.
This really is getting tedious, can’t be bothered, every single comment of yours is aggressive.
Just sad, that you’re using this forum to get all your pent up anger out, I won’t be responding, reading anymore of your comments.

OP, define ‘better’?
OP, why are you asking this?

I don’t disagree with any of that. Similarly I have to watch what I eat now to maintain my weight whereas in my late teens and 20s I ate what I want. Metabolism changes, but it doesn’t mean weight can’t stay stable.

For myself, I have a happy marriage (for 20 years), sex life, preserved body, freedom and no financial problems.
So child free couples are better off in everything, obviously if both decide for this situation. 👍

@cjfrh1985 "Not goady, no. I’m just a stage where I’m thinking about how children can affect a relationship. I don’t have kids yet, not sure I want them."

To answer this part of your question, it's a resounding yes! Of course kids affect a relationship. How can it possibly stay the same when you introduce another human being into the mix. As for sex - given an even playing field (no medical issues, a "normal" sex drive on both sides and a solid marriage) then childfree sex is of course going to be better. You're not constantly knackered for a start, you're not worried about night feeds, you're not worried your kids will walk in on you/hear you and you aren't stressed up to your eye balls trying to work and be a parent. Actually, I'd say that a childfree life (unless being a mother is the most important thing in your life) is better all round.

I got stretch marks in puberty but not from pregnancy

Same here I expected them when I was pregnant because I got them in puberty but got none whatsoever and neither did my sister.

God forbid that a woman's body changes. She might piss off a man somewhere.

Me too. If I had known I’d have been using the bio oil and moisturisers as a 12 year old and wouldn’t have bothered when pregnant.

Hmm and women, going by the really angry comments on here.How very dare, women, say her figure hasn’t changed as they’ve got older, to other women who have had children! 😬

I’m 58, through the menopause and although my sex life isn’t quite what it was when I was in my 20’s, it is pretty close. And it is it is far from over. That sweeping generalisation is just not true. I’ve always found since I first had sex when I was 18, the more I have it, the more I want it. If I don’t let it dwindle and I insist on it being good, then I can keep up the momentum, lol

I'm female, and I was worried about how pregnancy might change my body (what if I can't lose the weight, and my DH doesn't fancy me anymore?)

I'm a woman, and 1985 is just a series of numbers I chose in making up a nonsense username.

I'm not totally decided that I don't want children, and I wouldn't be upset if I had stretch marks afterwards. I would still like to look and feel like me though, i.e. have more or less the same body I had before.

Maybe not noticeably by 40, but into your 50s surely?

It's a fact that hormones decrease as we age, men (however fit and healthy) experience ED at least some of the time and women have peri and menopause symptoms...

This is all true, pretty much all men in their 50s (no matter how fit, active and young looking they are or think they are) are not the same in bed as they were at 20/30, they all experience ED to some extent.

I think it's good that you're considering these things... However, if you're this concerned about your looks then perhaps children isn't for you?

They're all consuming - like others say, it's the tiredness, not the body that takes a toll on the sex life. I
You may bounce back like I did, but there's no way in hell you'll ever "feel" like your current version of you. When you become a mother, you completely lose your identity and create a new one.

I love my husband despite our changing bodies, we don't have much sex, no. We grab it when we can but on the whole we're too consumed by our beautiful small children.

I suppose it's what's important to you, and it's completely valid to rate sex highly... I used to, I don't now. If you're adaptable - go for it!

It isn't, it's about both partners finding each other attractive, and if they're in a relationship, also caring/loving each other.

But we all know that over time people's appearances can change, and sometimes one partner won't fancy their other half anymore.

This. I'm late 40s and am having more and better sex now than when I was in my 20s.

For me its the double chin that came from nowhere. Its not just the body that is impacted Op. so is your face.

My OP was not supposed to be misognistic, it isn't about women's bodies per se. Or men's for that matter.

No, Same if not better for us.
I’ve looked after myself tho.
kept slim and wear make up- nice clothes etc
most likely from vinted 🤪
but I do try

I refuse to believe this is real.