Mortified by DH’s behaviour in Asda

[EllyRoff]

Went to Asda yesterday afternoon - ours has a pharmacist in there and DH needed some Laxido so we went across. The woman serving said they didn’t have laxido but they did have movicol which is the same thing with a different name. DH asked her if the ingredients is exactly the same as he has to be very careful with what he takes (true) so she went off to check with the pharmacist. Whilst she was gone DH was looking around him all anxiously and then as she reemerged she walked over to him smiling - he promptly sticks two fingers up at her and then runs off!!! Leaving me stood there like an absolute clown. I was mortified, apologised profoundly to her and walked away. Later caught up with DH who had simply gone back to shopping in Asda as if nothing had happened. His excuse was that he was scared to take something different but was feeling pressured and didn’t know what to do so legged it. I asked why on earth he swore at her and he said he “just panicked”. I’m still furious, my mum thinks I’m over-reacting a bit but DH can do no wrong in her eyes. Am I over-reacting??!

Impeccably.

Unless they were unacceptably rude, in which case I'd ask them to begin again, and perhaps think carefully about how abusing someone they were expecting to help and assist them was going to pan out.

I had to laugh out loud just picturing this poor unsuspecting old woman standing there with a blank bemused expression wondering what just happened.

If this is true, I can not believe his usual way of behaving is within the norm, this is so socially unacceptable and weird. If my husband did this I'd be dumbfounded and worry for his mental health.

Seriously?! I have a child with Tourettes, it's shitty comments like this that make the lives of people with Tourettes so much harder.

Please explain what was 'acting the clown' in this situation? This wasn't someone messing around and having a laugh, was it? It's plain bizarre and I'd be concerned about someone's mental health if they did this. OP has said his defence was 'panic'. Bloody hilarious, eh?

If a customer did this to me I wouldn’t feel abused. Perplexed - definitely! But I’d assume they have significant MH or learning needs.

Which makes me wonder about your DH. Was he so overwhelmed he was in fight or flight mode?

This behaviour causes me cause for concern in many more ways than just him flicking the V.

Get him to a GP ASAP.

Let's see how you like being abused by some random idiot for just doing your job and trying to assist them.

Is he full of shit generally? Of course you shouldn't be with a silly person.

Been there, seen it, done it, got the Teeshirt, wore it until it fell apart.

I work with 7 year olds and I wouldn’t find them cute or amusing for doing that, why would I find a grown man amusing? A child might laugh, but usually out of the shock of seeing an adult behaving badly or embarrassment rather than because they find it genuinely funny.

this is bizarre.. if he’s not done anything like this sober, I’d say speak to your GP if you’re at the same practice as this is too strange to put down to being worried about taking something new. He sounds unwell. Unless it’s just the first time you’ve witnessed it? Either way, it’s not something even a child would do. There must be something wrong with his brain!

It’s the running away that I would be annoyed at as much as the sticking two fingers upZ

Thats impulsive behaviour that I would fear he’s taking drugs or imbibed a lot of alcohol or has a mental impairment due to disease or a brain injury.

However, it appears that it was none of these and he’s just a stupid, thick clown.

Divorce as it will only get worse.

You are really pathetic.

What? Why?! That is just so utterly bizarre 🫤😂
I'd be wondering if he was OK, just....um... No words.
Sounds like something a primary school kid would do

@XDownwiththissortofthingX why are you encouraging more abusive behaviour to retail staff, it doesn’t make sense. We don’t want more people acting like OP’s DH.

It's plain bizarre and I'd be concerned about someone's mental health if they did this

Exactly. It's the bizarre randomness that is amusing.

I'd question their sanity myself, but as I'm not responsible for it, I wouldn't be losing any sleep wondering about it either.

Bizarre. He clearly behaved very strangely and he needs to apologise to you and also the shop worker. This just isn’t a right or appropriate way to behave as any reasonable person would see. I would be aware of this being a pattern to take to a gp as its just so so strange.

why are you encouraging more abusive behaviour to retail staff

Pardon?

I'm doing no such thing. Having been on the receiving end myself I'd never "encourage more" of it.

That doesn't stop it sometimes being amusing when it does inevitably happen though.

I'd actually be taking this possibility really seriously. It's really odd, nonsensical and impulsive behaviour. You've said its out of character, OP. I'd try not to be annoyed and consider he needs to see a Dr.

No, and I don't have my mother's phone fwiw.

What an absolute child of a man. A rude and ill-mannered child. He needs to grow up.

Do you understand that you aren’t other people? Other people won’t all react the same as you to being abused.

So if they'd flipped a V at you, you not only wouldn't find that unacceptably rude or abusive, you'd laugh with delight and think what a wonderful, quirky personality they were and how great it was that they didn't take themselves seriously.

I find myself wondering what you were actually selling.

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