Mortified by DH’s behaviour in Asda

[EllyRoff]

Went to Asda yesterday afternoon - ours has a pharmacist in there and DH needed some Laxido so we went across. The woman serving said they didn’t have laxido but they did have movicol which is the same thing with a different name. DH asked her if the ingredients is exactly the same as he has to be very careful with what he takes (true) so she went off to check with the pharmacist. Whilst she was gone DH was looking around him all anxiously and then as she reemerged she walked over to him smiling - he promptly sticks two fingers up at her and then runs off!!! Leaving me stood there like an absolute clown. I was mortified, apologised profoundly to her and walked away. Later caught up with DH who had simply gone back to shopping in Asda as if nothing had happened. His excuse was that he was scared to take something different but was feeling pressured and didn’t know what to do so legged it. I asked why on earth he swore at her and he said he “just panicked”. I’m still furious, my mum thinks I’m over-reacting a bit but DH can do no wrong in her eyes. Am I over-reacting??!

Is he on medication (apart from Laxido)?

If not, he sounds like he needs to be.

Total nutter

How can you not see that it’s wrong to abuse someone just doing their job?

If you are in retail and are upset by being sworn at, then you either haven't been in the job very long, or you're not going to last in the job very long. Being sworn at doesn't even register on the scale of the shit you have to put up with when it comes to the general public.

You think abusing someone who is doing their job is something to be encouraged? Are you ok?

I am a retail worker. It was abusive and infantile.

No they don't

Fuck that. Just because some people are arseholes doesn't mean it's ok to be an arsehole! Stop minimising your stupid comment.

Yes, and also amusing if you have an infantile sense of humour.

This isn’t an infantile sense of humour - it is being abusive, rude and disrespectful towards someone trying to help, let alone humiliating for your partner. There’s a difference.

No. It’s only amusing if you’re a dickhead.

Yes, your husband is full of shit and I'd be telling him this if I was married to him which wouldn't be for long if he continued his behaviour.

That is really odd behaviour, is he having some sort of mental health crisis?

And how was the DH or anyone supposed to know if the retail worker would find it funny? If the recipient doesn't find it funny then it's just abuse. You clearly think it's funny but this thread should have demonstrated you're a minority in that.

He does sound rather childish tbh.

"minimising"?

In what way am I "minimising"?

It's a simple statement of fact. If you are in retail, and you want to be in retail for any length of time, you need to develop a thick skin pretty quickly because being sworn at comes with the territory, and after a while it doesn't even register.

But you're a Father Ted fan, so obviously you do recognise good humour and should know the difference between being funny and abusing retail staff.

Swearing at someone doing their job isn't 'acting the clown' it's being a dickhead

Being rude to someone just doing their job? Ok then.

I've never seen Father Ted

You're saying that a small amount of abuse is ok because other people will be more abusive. That's minimising.

What on earth made you to decide to marry a man who's capable of behaving like that, drunk or sober? It's almost as if you think it would have been okay if he was drunk. It's never okay to insult and make fun of shop workers, waiters, whatever.

Why do women marry men who are so fucked-up and disrespectful and then expect them to change?

Has he got learning difficulties? Or an extreme mental health problem that means he has no idea what he's doing? Or on drugs?

Those are the only answers I can come up with for such bizarre behaviour.

I know one thing for sure though. That behaviour would give me the ultimate ick and I couldn't be with someone who was so deeply strange and rude.

ICK.

No, I'm not.

I'm saying that if you are in retail then you need to expect to be sworn at, and if it causes you upset, you aren't cut out for retail.

I bet that made her day. A grown man, backed up with shit, flinging the V's and frolicking away from her in public? She'll be having a wine and telling her friends about it later.