Mortified by DH’s behaviour in Asda

[EllyRoff]

Went to Asda yesterday afternoon - ours has a pharmacist in there and DH needed some Laxido so we went across. The woman serving said they didn’t have laxido but they did have movicol which is the same thing with a different name. DH asked her if the ingredients is exactly the same as he has to be very careful with what he takes (true) so she went off to check with the pharmacist. Whilst she was gone DH was looking around him all anxiously and then as she reemerged she walked over to him smiling - he promptly sticks two fingers up at her and then runs off!!! Leaving me stood there like an absolute clown. I was mortified, apologised profoundly to her and walked away. Later caught up with DH who had simply gone back to shopping in Asda as if nothing had happened. His excuse was that he was scared to take something different but was feeling pressured and didn’t know what to do so legged it. I asked why on earth he swore at her and he said he “just panicked”. I’m still furious, my mum thinks I’m over-reacting a bit but DH can do no wrong in her eyes. Am I over-reacting??!

“Are you joking? He basically abused a shop worker like a pathetic naughty 10 year old.“

lol abused a shop worker ….. sticking two fingers is not abuse fgs

Is your husband six? Not that I would let my six year old behave like this!

I might be afraid to go anywhere with him again.

I would be livid and insist he go back and apologise otherwise I would be going nowhere in public with him again until he does and bloody grows up. What a twat.

@Someonelookedatmypostinghistorysoichanged I assume it would be treated as abusive behaviour to employee if reported to management

I think it's common among elderly people. I have never heard of it happening to someone as young as the husband in this case. Although I'm no expert.

@Littlelou52 I think you're on the wrong thread.

mmmm this

This post absolutely cannot be for real. Normal people just don’t act like total freaks.

@XDownwiththissortofthingX

The pharmacy assistant was at work doing her job, and helpful enough to even go and check the medication.

Please come back and explain how
on earth you think it’s normal to respond with giving a rude hand gesture to a person who you don't know who is only doing what you have asked them to do.

Please come back and explain. Please @ me when you do because I really need to understand your thought process.

Or maybe you are the DH?

I’d be mortified. I’d definitely have the ick after this too. He left you in a really awkward and embarrassing position.

All he needed to do was say ‘thanks but I’d rather stick to a brand I know’. If he really couldn’t face it he could have just left the pharmacy whilst she was away checking.

Is he developing early signs of.dementia if sone type?

It just proves how low the bar can be set to have a male in your life. How he treats others is a pre view on how he will treat you.

I think the poster was being sarky. No need to be offended.

And people claiming that their autism is a reason for extremely poor behaviour does harm to those who have genuine difficulties due to actual diagnosed conditions, visible or otherwise. In the context of my work, I've had people using various neuro diversity issues as an excuse for their actions, including being dishonest which in my view is absolutely shameful.

That's not what you started off saying

Some kind of neurological / autistic spectrum disorder going on
Perhaps an appointment with a gp for assessment /referral
I agree tourettes

Lol at 'please @ me when you do'.

That poster has made multiple posts explaining their point of view.

They really don't need to come back and take over the OP's thread again 🤦‍♀️

God yes I agree, please don't invite more of it!!

I really don't see his actions as rude/abusive, just because they were so out of the blue and irrelevant to the situation. I think rudeness in this scenario would be something like "Didn't you hear me, I said Laxido you stupid cow, I don't want this shit you're trying to sell me" or "You just wasted both our time because I'm not taking that" or just saying "Nah" and walking off while she was explaining that they had the same ingredients.

Flicking the Vs and literally running away down the aisle, with OP left standing there looking bewildered, is so unexpected and absurd that I think someone on the receiving end would be shocked (and later recount it as a funny story) rather than upset and offended, and like some others on this post, I found the absurdity of it to be really funny (although I am also, dare I say it, autistic). Also wouldn't consider someone making a gesture to be "swearing" at someone as though the concepts are completely interchangeable.

I would find it VERY difficult to look at my partner in the same way again if he did this though.

@MyLimeGuide have you read all the posts of that particular poster, they genuinely want people to be more like the DH

@OlivePeer the gesture is the equivalent of swearing

Any 12 year old of mine behaving like that would soon realise the error of their ways!

I still wouldn't consider it to hold the same force as being verbally sworn at, or describe it that way. And if it's flicking the Vs, that gesture's so absurd and retro that it just wouldn't have the force of being told to fuck off.

I don’t understand why he wouldn’t have just said ‘no thank you’ and gone elsewhere.
maybe his UTI impaired his judgement though