Mortified by DH’s behaviour in Asda

[EllyRoff]

Went to Asda yesterday afternoon - ours has a pharmacist in there and DH needed some Laxido so we went across. The woman serving said they didn’t have laxido but they did have movicol which is the same thing with a different name. DH asked her if the ingredients is exactly the same as he has to be very careful with what he takes (true) so she went off to check with the pharmacist. Whilst she was gone DH was looking around him all anxiously and then as she reemerged she walked over to him smiling - he promptly sticks two fingers up at her and then runs off!!! Leaving me stood there like an absolute clown. I was mortified, apologised profoundly to her and walked away. Later caught up with DH who had simply gone back to shopping in Asda as if nothing had happened. His excuse was that he was scared to take something different but was feeling pressured and didn’t know what to do so legged it. I asked why on earth he swore at her and he said he “just panicked”. I’m still furious, my mum thinks I’m over-reacting a bit but DH can do no wrong in her eyes. Am I over-reacting??!

Clearly, you aren’t right in the head.

I have worked in retail for years and never had anyone put 2 fingers up to me. I or my colleagues are verbally abused on a daily basis and someone doing this would have made us laugh and say something along the lines of what a weirdo. It really pales into insignificance when you are more used to being called a fat, old, ugly, useless, incompetent or any other adjective you care to think of cunt

What an immature arsehole. He swore at a woman who was trying to help him because he was embarrassed /uncomfortable/ felt pressure. If he behaves like this in front of you I wonder what he does when your not their. He sounds like a teenage boy 🤮

wow. Thats not normal at all. I wouldn’t even expect that from my 13 year old when they are with their mates. Even that would be totally strange but from an adult?

If that was my husband I don’t know what I’d do. I don’t think I’d want to be in public with him again, ever!

Sorry this is moronic behaviour... Oh how we all laughed when the pharmacy assistant wasted their time and was abused.

I'm all for people being funny /silly... I am myself... BUT this is staggeringly odd... And abusive to the worker.

His behaviour is so out of the range of what is deemed normal or socially acceptable. It’s really weird.

I think he needs to see someone - he sounds like an utter lunatic!

Hmm, you must have picked the phrase up somewhere else. It's from Father Ted. I did wonder how someone who liked it could also think abusing a shop staff member who's trying to help you was funny. Go watch it, it'll show you what good humour actually is.

Yes, let’s all go round giving people two fingers to show that we don’t take ourselves too seriously.

Did he mean to give a thumbs up?

Why didn't he just walk away rather than swear at the assistant how very bizzare!

Something not right with you

Ah, more of the old 'I'm autistic so it's okay if I'm rude' number. It's not okay.

Did he think the pharmacist was going to whip out a gun and force him to take the unwanted medication then and there? No need for you to feel mortified; you've done what you can in apologising and you're not responsible for his behaviour, but I'd still be concerned about WHY he couldn't figure out what to do and had to perform (or genuinely panic) rather than simply saying no thanks, as it may be a symptom of a larger problem.

I’d be worried about his mental health tbh. That’s bizarre behaviour out of nowhere.

To the PP saying it’s fine etc, sorry but this is your autism speaking. I don’t mean that to be unkind or criticise, but that kind of total disconnect with social norms and appropriate behaviour is almost certainly because of your autism. It’s never appropriate to stick your fingers up at a shop employee and run away, that’s bizarre behaviour, whether it upsets you personally or not. I’d maybe take the chance here to reflect on that because whether you’re autistic or not, it’s a learning opportunity.

Guess possibility of some neuro issue? Brain tumour??

I know this is very immature but the image of this happening just made me laugh out loud. It’s just so random and bizarre! And the way that he ran off and left you standing there! I think we need more context really.

To stick two fingers up at a professional who is trying to help him is admirable?

Dearie me. The world really is chock full of knobbers.

Nonsense I worked in retail and never tolerated being sworn at.
People need to moderate their behaviour not retail staff.
Don't bother replying I won't be engaging any further with you.

There are people out there who think setting fire to buildings and playing Russian roulette and killing animals is 'amusing.' It's really neither here nor there.

I worked in retail for years. Your reasoning of 'he must have found it funny to be abusive so it's okay' and 'abusing retail workers is normal and we should do it more' hints at something quite off and unbalanced in you.

He just panicked?!

He's literally and figuratively full of shit.

If my DH did something like that I would be ordered a brain scan. I would think he had a tumour or something.

Pardon?

Where did I suggest I'm in the habit of being rude?

FWIW, I'm not, and I certainly wouldn't be rude and then claim it's ok for me to be rude because Autism.

I mentioned the Autism because I was asked if I was "right in the head".

When you worked in retail, were you polite to the customers?

God that's awful. OP how can you have any respect for him?

I’d refuse to go out to any shops with him again. He can sort his own shit out. My 7 year old wouldn’t act like that.

Ok, Bye then.

I don't even understand what DH's reasoning was for swearing? She was coming over to help him - running off may be within the realms of comprehension but why the V sign? I would honestly be worried about him because it makes no sense.