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Mortified by DH’s behaviour in Asda

547 replies

EllyRoff · 09/08/2025 09:01

Went to Asda yesterday afternoon - ours has a pharmacist in there and DH needed some Laxido so we went across. The woman serving said they didn’t have laxido but they did have movicol which is the same thing with a different name. DH asked her if the ingredients is exactly the same as he has to be very careful with what he takes (true) so she went off to check with the pharmacist. Whilst she was gone DH was looking around him all anxiously and then as she reemerged she walked over to him smiling - he promptly sticks two fingers up at her and then runs off!!! Leaving me stood there like an absolute clown. I was mortified, apologised profoundly to her and walked away. Later caught up with DH who had simply gone back to shopping in Asda as if nothing had happened. His excuse was that he was scared to take something different but was feeling pressured and didn’t know what to do so legged it. I asked why on earth he swore at her and he said he “just panicked”. I’m still furious, my mum thinks I’m over-reacting a bit but DH can do no wrong in her eyes. Am I over-reacting??!

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Auntiebenita · 09/08/2025 14:15

He sounds like a yobbish teenager. I’d be surprised if he doesn’t ever show this immature, idiotic sort of behaviour in other areas of his life.

He'd have to be absolutely wonderful in every other way to even begin to counterbalance such rudeness as far as I’m concerned.

Bathingforest · 09/08/2025 14:15

obviously you are married with they call them Undiagnosed SEN in this country.

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 09/08/2025 14:17

How to get constant attention throughout a whole thread; make a completely contrary post. Never been done before, yawn.

ClearFruit · 09/08/2025 14:17

What a fucking weird twat.

Nevereatcardboard · 09/08/2025 14:22

@EllyRoff I know several pharmacists and they will have heard and seen much worse than this. Health care professionals shouldn’t have to put up with such rudeness but unfortunately, it’s definitely part of their job.

Ask your DH if he would be as rude to his boss or his mother? If not, why did he think it was ok to be so unpleasant to a pharmacist that was trying to help him?

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 09/08/2025 14:29

Nevereatcardboard · 09/08/2025 14:22

@EllyRoff I know several pharmacists and they will have heard and seen much worse than this. Health care professionals shouldn’t have to put up with such rudeness but unfortunately, it’s definitely part of their job.

Ask your DH if he would be as rude to his boss or his mother? If not, why did he think it was ok to be so unpleasant to a pharmacist that was trying to help him?

Looks like he’s never rude to her mother either. Has your mother ever seen him drunk OP?

Ryah76 · 09/08/2025 14:33

BunnyLake · 09/08/2025 12:46

Would you though? I mean the bit that would be causing the laughter is the fact that a grown man randomly stuck his two fingers up at a woman who was just a stranger doing her job. Can you explain the funny?

listen I’m not condoning what hubs did to the cashier, it’s bizarre- but are you telling me that this isn’t one of those stories you tell, when relaying embarrassing incidents over a few drinks with friends that will have you both laughing and cringing .. ?

JDM625 · 09/08/2025 14:39

For those not reading the OP's update:

Her DH has a UTI, which could account for the weird behaviour!

Gingernaut · 09/08/2025 14:39

Ryah76 · 09/08/2025 14:33

listen I’m not condoning what hubs did to the cashier, it’s bizarre- but are you telling me that this isn’t one of those stories you tell, when relaying embarrassing incidents over a few drinks with friends that will have you both laughing and cringing .. ?

What is the pharmacy assistant going to tell her boss? Or her friends on her nights out?

Abusive, time wasting behaviour like this could get him barred

BrentfordForever · 09/08/2025 14:43

Never heard of a UTI impacting someone neurologically 🤔

FateAmenableToChange · 09/08/2025 14:43

Constipation appears to be the least of his problems.

MyDadWasAnArse · 09/08/2025 14:51

Well I did read about people getting PIP for having constipation. Maybe this is his angle. He sounds off his rocker.

MyDadWasAnArse · 09/08/2025 14:52

BrentfordForever · 09/08/2025 14:43

Never heard of a UTI impacting someone neurologically 🤔

It does. My grandfather wandered around the streets of Liverpool in his pyjamas as a result of an untreated UTI.

ThePastIsADifferentCountry · 09/08/2025 14:57

He can do no wrong in your mums eyes🙄
I’m not sure how I would react if my SIL behaved like that but I would be seriously questioning my daughter’s decision to stay in a relationship with him.

Rednorfolkterrier · 09/08/2025 14:58

Good gracious… he sound a throughly unpleasant individual indeed. I hope the pharmacy assistant reports him to her boss and they have a zero intolerance policy to have him barred from using their services again. An apology is needed both to you OP and the assistant

YourWildAmberSloth · 09/08/2025 15:09

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 09/08/2025 09:04

The world needs far more individuals like your DH. Far too many people taking themselves far too seriously. Good on him.

Bet the pharmacist was laughing hysterically....being flipped off like that!

CoconutGrove · 09/08/2025 15:10

First reply nails it.

Minecroft · 09/08/2025 15:14

Is he insane ? Mentally challenged ?

JHound · 09/08/2025 15:16

How is it legal for you to be married to a child?

JDM625 · 09/08/2025 15:19

BrentfordForever · 09/08/2025 14:43

Never heard of a UTI impacting someone neurologically 🤔

You clearly don't know anything about UTI's do you then???

My nan went to my neighbours at midnight, in her nightie, to ask for a ladder so she could climb up on her roof. She was convinced that my mum and aunty (both in their 70's) were swinging around the aerial! And yes- nan had a UTI!

JHound · 09/08/2025 15:22

MyDadWasAnArse · 09/08/2025 14:52

It does. My grandfather wandered around the streets of Liverpool in his pyjamas as a result of an untreated UTI.

😀

BrentfordForever · 09/08/2025 15:23

Different age! Everything impacts elderly in so many ways …

unless OP said otherwise this is not an elderly man!!

all rubbish excuses for rubbish entitled behaviour…. Except if he meant STD and she heard UTI - that would explain the shitty attitude !

TheSwarm · 09/08/2025 15:25

Chinny reckon.

amillionandone · 09/08/2025 15:29

If it's the UTI affecting his brain, then okay... But he needs to get that sorted right away. If it's just him being weird, I'd tell him that the normal thing to do would have been to have said thanks, but he'd just go somewhere else. Even just leaving while she was away would've been preferable to that display.

And I'd be embarrassed, whatever the reason for that. It's bizarre that your mother thinks it was fine. It makes him look like a nut, tbh.

GRCP · 09/08/2025 15:34

MargaretThursday · 09/08/2025 09:12

One of my all time favourite threads!!!