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To think that, under the threat of "Let the war begin", there should be specific laws against male's entering female private spaces (and vice versa)

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SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 08/08/2025 14:46

After being told they will not be allowed to enter female toilets, changing rooms, clubs and other private sexed spaces, men have vowed to "fight" or be arrested “multiple times

https://archive.ph/tdkd0

"Let the war begin. Fingers crossed. You need to fight for all of us globally. It’s a war."

I think it is reasonable to have a specific crime for this sort of violation of rights and privacy, rather than Outraging public decency, Voyeurism, Exposure/ indecent exposure.

It seems clear that without firm dealing with, men are going to violate these spaces again and again.

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BlakeCarrington · 09/08/2025 10:26

VioletandDill · 08/08/2025 16:05

It would be a completely unenforcable law, that is without invasive medical tests/intrusive ID checks, and the collateral damage of masculine looking women being fired/harassed/hurt. (Yes, that last part is already happening) I would suggest to any trans women or masculine natal women reading this that you do not have to prove anything, and nobody can prove your biology without the aforementioned invasive/intrusive tests. If challenged you simply need to say 'I'm entitled to use this space' and use it. Easier said than done of course, and not to be done if it would put you in danger.

None of my trans friends are going to forced out of spaces that they've been using forever, while I'm around. I'll speak up for them and I'll go with them. Whether that's accompanying them to the women's, or if push really does come to shove, coming with them in to the men's. After all I'm one of those masculine looking women (bald, tall, muscular, wears 'men's' clothes) that have been bullied out of changing rooms and given dirty looks.

You can't force me to exclude my friends. I will not be knowingly using any spaces that do.

”Invasive and intrusive tests” my arse. Most TIMs can be easily identified by sight. Then it is a simple cheek swab, hardly intrusive. I wouldn’t bat an eye if asked. You need to find a better argument.

LeftieRightsHoarder · 09/08/2025 10:27

Tandora · 09/08/2025 10:17

Why are male toilets not an option for transwomen who are indeed men?

Because they are trans women.
its no more of an option for a trans woman to use the men’s toilets than it is for a non-trans woman to use the men’s toilets. It’s completely incompatible with their privacy, dignity and safety .

And as you well know, being male is the only qualification for being a transwoman. No woman can be a transwoman, by definition.

“Feeling like a woman” is simply a state of mind. Enjoy it, have fun dressing up, but do not pretend you are somehow less male than other men.

Tandora · 09/08/2025 10:27

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/08/2025 10:24

It’s exactly the same in reverse, the “occasional trans woman” shouldn’t be in the women’s toilets because “trans women” are biologically and legally men.

No it’s not remotely the same at all. Nor is it the “reverse” - its a completely different thing.

Which is why, despite the fact that trans women have been using female toilets since they were first established (and continue to use them today) you still choose to use the female toilets rather than walking into the men’s.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/08/2025 10:28

Inchworms · 09/08/2025 10:24

That was not my point at all. The thread was started posting something about ‘war’ apparently from the pro trans side. I can find no evidence of the original post, who made it, whether it was someone stirring shit, whether it was a false flag or someone with 40k followers who regularly posts violent rhetoric against GC people, nothing. So, it seems to me that something very nebulous was taken and used to make GC people feel unsafe when there’s no evidence that it was real or a genuine threat or… anything really. That’s my issue

Would you like me to link you to a Reddit thread where they are wanging on about “war”? This rhetoric is all over social media, sometimes with violent threats towards prominent women or politicians, or generally towards GC feminists. I’ve got people deleted for that multiple times, so these people definitely exist.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/08/2025 10:29

Tandora · 09/08/2025 10:27

No it’s not remotely the same at all. Nor is it the “reverse” - its a completely different thing.

Which is why, despite the fact that trans women have been using female toilets since they were first established (and continue to use them today) you still choose to use the female toilets rather than walking into the men’s.

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Eh? Try to at least make some kind of sense. I realise that’s difficult Confused

Tandora · 09/08/2025 10:30

LeftieRightsHoarder · 09/08/2025 10:27

And as you well know, being male is the only qualification for being a transwoman. No woman can be a transwoman, by definition.

“Feeling like a woman” is simply a state of mind. Enjoy it, have fun dressing up, but do not pretend you are somehow less male than other men.

being male is the only qualification for being a transwoman

this is incorrect. A transwoman is a person registered male at birth who nonetheless understands themself to be female.

BlakeCarrington · 09/08/2025 10:31

So a man then @Tandora

GailBlancheViola · 09/08/2025 10:31

Tandora · 09/08/2025 10:17

Why are male toilets not an option for transwomen who are indeed men?

Because they are trans women.
its no more of an option for a trans woman to use the men’s toilets than it is for a non-trans woman to use the men’s toilets. It’s completely incompatible with their privacy, dignity and safety .

Transwomen, who are men, using female toilets and changing rooms is completely incompatible with the safety, privacy, dignity and comfort of woman and girls.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/08/2025 10:32

Here’s the thing: I use the female toilets, and not the men’s at any time, because I’m a woman. I don’t use the men’s even if men come into the women’s toilets.

Inchworms · 09/08/2025 10:33

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/08/2025 10:28

Would you like me to link you to a Reddit thread where they are wanging on about “war”? This rhetoric is all over social media, sometimes with violent threats towards prominent women or politicians, or generally towards GC feminists. I’ve got people deleted for that multiple times, so these people definitely exist.

I don’t think it’s fine to start a thread with no provable basis that implies actual violence may be on the way.

I’m sure there’s loads of horrible shit said from both sides, in fact I know there is. Chucking links of horrible shit people have said on the internet at eachother doesn’t seem… productive and certainly won’t prove anything other than that some people say some horrible shit.

Tandora · 09/08/2025 10:33

BlakeCarrington · 09/08/2025 10:31

So a man then @Tandora

no: a person registered male at birth who understands themself to be female: a trans woman.

Tandora · 09/08/2025 10:34

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/08/2025 10:32

Here’s the thing: I use the female toilets, and not the men’s at any time, because I’m a woman. I don’t use the men’s even if men come into the women’s toilets.

Exactly. Because sharing the women’s toilets with the odd trans woman is completely different to walking into the men’s toilets as an individual woman.
You would continue to chose the former over the latter any day of the week. As you do everyday and have done all your life.

BlakeCarrington · 09/08/2025 10:35

Tandora · 09/08/2025 10:33

no: a person registered male at birth who understands themself to be female: a trans woman.

He’s still a man Tandora, whatever he might believe himself to be.

Tandora · 09/08/2025 10:36

BlakeCarrington · 09/08/2025 10:35

He’s still a man Tandora, whatever he might believe himself to be.

thats your opinion/ belief. It doesn’t make it true

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/08/2025 10:37

It’s the law, Tandora, love. Sorry.

Helleofabore · 09/08/2025 10:37

GailBlancheViola · 09/08/2025 10:31

Transwomen, who are men, using female toilets and changing rooms is completely incompatible with the safety, privacy, dignity and comfort of woman and girls.

Indeed it is.

Any male entering into a female single sex space makes that space no longer female only. It is like purchasing something that states that it is nut free, and having just a 'trace' of nuts.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/08/2025 10:38

And I forgot my intention not to engage with this poster further. Apologies to all.

Tandora · 09/08/2025 10:39

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/08/2025 10:37

It’s the law, Tandora, love. Sorry.

Oh my god. It is absolutely NOT the law 😂😭🤦🏼‍♀️. People need to acquire some basic legal literacy.

KnottyAuty · 09/08/2025 10:40

Tandora · 09/08/2025 10:22

Nope. Women sharing the women’s toilets with the occasional trans woman, is not the same as an individual woman using the men’s toilets.

1 in 70 in the under 25s or 1 in 90 in the under 35s is not occasional as we’ve discussed on a previous thread

Helleofabore · 09/08/2025 10:41

A person's philosophical belief about their identity that doesn't reflect the material reality of their body does not make a person who is male not a male person. Just because they don't believe they are a male person, they still are.

When a fact is well established in science, it is not a belief or an opinion. Someone can choose not to believe a scientific fact and it means fuck all. Because the fact still abides and remains even if someone does not believe it.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/08/2025 10:42

Men who identify as women:

biologically men

covered by the male protected characteristic of sex in the Equality Act 2010, rather than the female one

men in every aspect, unless you personally believe “womanhood” is conveyed by a gendered soul or adopting sexist stereotypes

pose the same statistical risk to women as other men, not women

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/08/2025 10:43

ooh I forgot one

socialised as members of the male sex, not girls or women

Tandora · 09/08/2025 10:51

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/08/2025 10:42

Men who identify as women:

biologically men

covered by the male protected characteristic of sex in the Equality Act 2010, rather than the female one

men in every aspect, unless you personally believe “womanhood” is conveyed by a gendered soul or adopting sexist stereotypes

pose the same statistical risk to women as other men, not women

Men who identify as women

No. people registered male at birth who understand themselves to be female.

biologically men

Imprecise , nebulous and misleading statement, that ignores the complexities of biological sex and the growing body of evidence that transness has a biological underpinning.

covered by the male protected characteristic of sex in the Equality Act 2010, rather than the female one

There is no “male protected characteristic” in the Equality Act. There is the protected characteristic of “sex” which the Supreme Court has clarified means “birth sex” . In other words it generally applies to people on the basis of their birth sex, however there may be circumstances where the consequences of gender transition have implications for how it is applied. Trans people are also protected from discrimination as trans under the equalities act .

men in every aspect

false and meaningless over claim which has nothing to do with the SC judgement

unless you personally believe “womanhood” is conveyed by a gendered soul or adopting sexist stereotypes

Bizarre and meaningless statement that has nothing to do with being trans.

pose the same statistical risk to women as other men, not women

Naturalising violence against women and girls.

ArabellaScott · 09/08/2025 11:00

“Let the war begin. Fingers crossed. You need to fight for all of us globally. It’s a war.”

This is a man threatening violence, surely? That's the only way I can read it.

And: Sophie Molly, a trans rights activist, posted on X on Friday morning: “Do not comply. I’m prepared to be arrested multiple times over this.”

This is a man stating his intent to terrorise women and girls.

Laws against specific offences have been added to the Sexual Offences Act in recent years - upskirting being one example. So it's possible that a law could be written for men who intend to 'fight' women and break the law in this way.

AstonUniversityPotholeDepartment · 09/08/2025 11:05

Tandora · 09/08/2025 10:30

being male is the only qualification for being a transwoman

this is incorrect. A transwoman is a person registered male at birth who nonetheless understands themself to be female.

You're saying understand a lot.

My mother quite literally had a friend who understood himself to be the Second Son of God...

He was prescribed antipsychotics.

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