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To think that, under the threat of "Let the war begin", there should be specific laws against male's entering female private spaces (and vice versa)

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SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 08/08/2025 14:46

After being told they will not be allowed to enter female toilets, changing rooms, clubs and other private sexed spaces, men have vowed to "fight" or be arrested “multiple times

https://archive.ph/tdkd0

"Let the war begin. Fingers crossed. You need to fight for all of us globally. It’s a war."

I think it is reasonable to have a specific crime for this sort of violation of rights and privacy, rather than Outraging public decency, Voyeurism, Exposure/ indecent exposure.

It seems clear that without firm dealing with, men are going to violate these spaces again and again.

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Tandora · 09/08/2025 09:22

KnottyAuty · 09/08/2025 09:10

At present gender dysphoria is supposed to be the differentiator for being trans. That’s a psychiatric condition listed in the DSM5. The NHS is only obliged to provide hormones and surgery because it’s a mental illness. By all means campaign for that to change if you like but please don’t be disingenuous in the meantime

please don’t be disingenuous in the meantime

I don’t know what you mean by this?

Gender dysphoria is in the DSM 5 yes.

Gender dysphoria is the acute distress that can result from experiencing gender/ sex incongruence (I.e. being trans). It is not the same thing as being trans.

it was the recognition of this that resulted in the diagnosis being changed from the old characterisation - gender identity disorder - to gender dysphoria, the latter being the distress that can result from being trans.

KnottyAuty · 09/08/2025 09:26

Tandora · 09/08/2025 09:22

please don’t be disingenuous in the meantime

I don’t know what you mean by this?

Gender dysphoria is in the DSM 5 yes.

Gender dysphoria is the acute distress that can result from experiencing gender/ sex incongruence (I.e. being trans). It is not the same thing as being trans.

it was the recognition of this that resulted in the diagnosis being changed from the old characterisation - gender identity disorder - to gender dysphoria, the latter being the distress that can result from being trans.

Edited

Thank you for confirming that trans = gender dysphoria = listing in the DSM5.

Until Gender dysphoria is removed from the DSM5 it is classified as a psychiatric condition - in shorthand a mental illness.

If you object to that classification then campaign to change that

NeverOneBiscuit · 09/08/2025 09:33

Why does this group get this special treatment?

Exactly. I guess society has always had to tread carefully with angry entitled men. Moreover in this issue it’s ‘only women’ who are most affected, so for much of the population it’s a ‘You what?’ topic.

Tandora · 09/08/2025 09:36

KnottyAuty · 09/08/2025 09:26

Thank you for confirming that trans = gender dysphoria = listing in the DSM5.

Until Gender dysphoria is removed from the DSM5 it is classified as a psychiatric condition - in shorthand a mental illness.

If you object to that classification then campaign to change that

Thank you for confirming that trans = gender dysphoria

errrmmm. 😂
Baffling 🤷🏼‍♀️

CohensDiamondTeeth · 09/08/2025 09:40

Inchworms · 08/08/2025 19:45

I can find a reference to a telegraph article that mentions this ‘let the war begin’ statement but I can’t find the statement and it seems to have just been a random tweet by…anyone. Seems a little disingenuous to use it in this context to stir up bad feelings, especially given that this is an emotive issue with the potential for real world violence

There has already been real world violence.

All of the violence has come from the TRA side and been directed mostly at women.

I'm talking actual physical violence here, as well as the decapitate TERFS signs, and the evidence of trans identified men talking violently about women all archived on the TERF is a slur website, which is a shocking eye opener for those who haven't already seen it. And that's not even going into the actual real life harms done to GC women who have been no platformed, fired, harassed, arrested but not charged, questioned by the police, etc etc etc

Women on the other hand, have not been violent at all.

All we have done is say no to men, we've campaigned for our rights by crowdfunding for tribunals, writing letters and submitting FOIs, putting simple stickers or fliers up, connecting with other GC women from all political parties and across the world, and talking to people (and this is the really important bit) calmly, with nuance and compassion, but backed up by evidence, science, and the law.

The difference has been stark.

NeverOneBiscuit · 09/08/2025 09:48

@CohensDiamondTeeth

Perfectly put. Let’s wait for the redefinition of violence apparently perpetrated against these men by women defending their sex based rights.

There’ll also be something about Nazis attending women’s meetings. Plus something about right to exist & most marginalised. I could go on but we all know the tropes & lies.

🍿

Annoyedone · 09/08/2025 10:02

Tandora · 09/08/2025 07:54

So the transwomen going into a female changing room have absolutely nothing to worry about then.

they have nothing to worry about in terms of criminalisation by police.

They have a lot to worry about in terms of violation of their privacy/ dignity; being harassed, asked intrusive, personal questions, subject to confrontation and discrimination etc. etc. by others- including service providers and members of the public.

Well then surely they’d be better off in the male changing room. With the other males.

KnottyAuty · 09/08/2025 10:03

Tandora · 09/08/2025 09:36

Thank you for confirming that trans = gender dysphoria

errrmmm. 😂
Baffling 🤷🏼‍♀️

Edited

You said:

Gender dysphoria is the acute distress that can result from experiencing gender/ sex incongruence (I.e. being trans). It is not the same thing as being trans.

So how can you be trans without gender dysphoria? Surely that’s transvestism?

GailBlancheViola · 09/08/2025 10:03

Tandora · 09/08/2025 08:14

They are male, there are facilities available for male toileting needs.

Nope male toilets are not an option for trans women. If they can’t use the women’s then they can use any public toilets.
that’s the reality they are faced with.

Why are male toilets not an option for transwomen who are indeed men?

Note your complete disregard for women and girls who cannot use the toilets designated for them on the basis of their sex due to men forcing their way in there. Never any consideration for women and girls from you and their wants and needs and their lack of access to public facilites and hence public life. As ever all about the men.

Inchworms · 09/08/2025 10:03

CohensDiamondTeeth · 09/08/2025 09:40

There has already been real world violence.

All of the violence has come from the TRA side and been directed mostly at women.

I'm talking actual physical violence here, as well as the decapitate TERFS signs, and the evidence of trans identified men talking violently about women all archived on the TERF is a slur website, which is a shocking eye opener for those who haven't already seen it. And that's not even going into the actual real life harms done to GC women who have been no platformed, fired, harassed, arrested but not charged, questioned by the police, etc etc etc

Women on the other hand, have not been violent at all.

All we have done is say no to men, we've campaigned for our rights by crowdfunding for tribunals, writing letters and submitting FOIs, putting simple stickers or fliers up, connecting with other GC women from all political parties and across the world, and talking to people (and this is the really important bit) calmly, with nuance and compassion, but backed up by evidence, science, and the law.

The difference has been stark.

This is my point. Someone has started a thread based on, as far as I can tell, an anonymous tweet from a now deleted account, about ‘war’. It’s inflammatory and stokes the flames on an issue that is already heading in a nasty direction.

If you are saying you’re fine with actual violence towards people because it’s in response to other violence other people who think the same as them might have done then OK. I just don’t ever think that’s OK, as much as I might personally want to eg do my own little violence against the anti immigrant protesters

Annoyedone · 09/08/2025 10:04

NeverOneBiscuit · 09/08/2025 09:48

@CohensDiamondTeeth

Perfectly put. Let’s wait for the redefinition of violence apparently perpetrated against these men by women defending their sex based rights.

There’ll also be something about Nazis attending women’s meetings. Plus something about right to exist & most marginalised. I could go on but we all know the tropes & lies.

🍿

But as Nigel Farage has come out on the TRA side… surely they’d be better are now the Nazis? I mean, the Right wing reform party agree with Tandora so by TRA logic…. @tandora is now far right. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

NeverOneBiscuit · 09/08/2025 10:11

🤣🤣 I’m sure Tandora can refute that with their many years of scientific research & long hard thinking about gender issues.

Whatever their answer they’ll still assert that man can insert themselves into women’s spaces.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/08/2025 10:13

Inchworms · 09/08/2025 10:03

This is my point. Someone has started a thread based on, as far as I can tell, an anonymous tweet from a now deleted account, about ‘war’. It’s inflammatory and stokes the flames on an issue that is already heading in a nasty direction.

If you are saying you’re fine with actual violence towards people because it’s in response to other violence other people who think the same as them might have done then OK. I just don’t ever think that’s OK, as much as I might personally want to eg do my own little violence against the anti immigrant protesters

Which side is the violent rhetoric coming from? It’s a TRA quote in an article.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/08/2025 10:14

It’s very dishonest to pretend that the GC side is threatening or advocating “war”. That’s the men and their allies.

Tandora · 09/08/2025 10:17

GailBlancheViola · 09/08/2025 10:03

Why are male toilets not an option for transwomen who are indeed men?

Note your complete disregard for women and girls who cannot use the toilets designated for them on the basis of their sex due to men forcing their way in there. Never any consideration for women and girls from you and their wants and needs and their lack of access to public facilites and hence public life. As ever all about the men.

Why are male toilets not an option for transwomen who are indeed men?

Because they are trans women.
its no more of an option for a trans woman to use the men’s toilets than it is for a non-trans woman to use the men’s toilets. It’s completely incompatible with their privacy, dignity and safety .

Helleofabore · 09/08/2025 10:18

Since when was it society’s obligation to provide publicly accessed toilets for a group of people who refuse to use the public toilet for their own sex?

It is good that there are some alternatives offerred. But the reality is, if a group of male people refuse to use the toilet provided for male people, why is that society’s issue to find a solution?

There are numerous posts on MN from female people with transgender identities that take testosterone who understand that their presence in a female space might distress other female people. So they seek alternative solutions for themselves.

If female people do this already, why can’t male people? Why do women and girls need to be emotionally manipulated to allow a group of male people to access a space that was never meant for them as male people?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/08/2025 10:20

What @Helleofabore said. “No” is a complete sentence not an invitation to negotiate.

KnottyAuty · 09/08/2025 10:20

Tandora · 09/08/2025 10:17

Why are male toilets not an option for transwomen who are indeed men?

Because they are trans women.
its no more of an option for a trans woman to use the men’s toilets than it is for a non-trans woman to use the men’s toilets. It’s completely incompatible with their privacy, dignity and safety .

By that reasoning TW shouldn’t be in the women’s either tho?

LeftieRightsHoarder · 09/08/2025 10:21

VioletandDill · 08/08/2025 16:05

It would be a completely unenforcable law, that is without invasive medical tests/intrusive ID checks, and the collateral damage of masculine looking women being fired/harassed/hurt. (Yes, that last part is already happening) I would suggest to any trans women or masculine natal women reading this that you do not have to prove anything, and nobody can prove your biology without the aforementioned invasive/intrusive tests. If challenged you simply need to say 'I'm entitled to use this space' and use it. Easier said than done of course, and not to be done if it would put you in danger.

None of my trans friends are going to forced out of spaces that they've been using forever, while I'm around. I'll speak up for them and I'll go with them. Whether that's accompanying them to the women's, or if push really does come to shove, coming with them in to the men's. After all I'm one of those masculine looking women (bald, tall, muscular, wears 'men's' clothes) that have been bullied out of changing rooms and given dirty looks.

You can't force me to exclude my friends. I will not be knowingly using any spaces that do.

So every woman and girl must put up with every voyeur/ flasher/ sex pest who wants to invade women’s spaces. We must not say No to men in case it hurts their feelings.

OK, got it. Shame on women who think they, or their daughters, have human rights.

Tandora · 09/08/2025 10:22

KnottyAuty · 09/08/2025 10:20

By that reasoning TW shouldn’t be in the women’s either tho?

Nope. Women sharing the women’s toilets with the occasional trans woman, is not the same as an individual woman using the men’s toilets.

Tandora · 09/08/2025 10:23

LeftieRightsHoarder · 09/08/2025 10:21

So every woman and girl must put up with every voyeur/ flasher/ sex pest who wants to invade women’s spaces. We must not say No to men in case it hurts their feelings.

OK, got it. Shame on women who think they, or their daughters, have human rights.

No respecting trans people’s rights to use basic facilities has nothing to do with promoting allowing voyeurimg/ flashing/ sex pesting

GailBlancheViola · 09/08/2025 10:23

NeverOneBiscuit · 09/08/2025 09:33

Why does this group get this special treatment?

Exactly. I guess society has always had to tread carefully with angry entitled men. Moreover in this issue it’s ‘only women’ who are most affected, so for much of the population it’s a ‘You what?’ topic.

It's proof positive that no-one, absolutely no-one, believes transwomen are women, if they did they would not be bowing down to them, they know they are men hence the special treatment. Misogyny and cowardice writ large.

You only have to look at the exception in the GRA regarding peerages and landed estates which shows that transwomen are regarded as men.

RaverSeerOfVisions · 09/08/2025 10:24

LakieLady · 09/08/2025 08:47

Me too.

I sometimes wonder if people who feel otherwise have ever actually met any transpeople.

Yes I have.
I believe it is impossible for people to change sex and therefore a person born male will always be male.
If I’m getting fully undressed in a communal changing room I do not wish to do so in the presence of males, it doesn’t matter to me that all the transpeople you know are wonderful lovely people. Unless you’re going to personally vouch for every single transwoman, or indeed any other male, who wants to be in a female single sex space knowing that it’s now impossible for some females to use that space. They’re all wonderful lovely people, every man.

I know my boss is a nice bloke but I’m not going to get undressed in front of him. Not even if he’s wearing a dress and calling himself Tiffany.

Do you think that middle aged men should have the legal and moral right to enter a changing room where teenage girls are getting undressed? Should that man be allowed to get naked in there himself?
You really think that’s ok?

Inchworms · 09/08/2025 10:24

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/08/2025 10:14

It’s very dishonest to pretend that the GC side is threatening or advocating “war”. That’s the men and their allies.

That was not my point at all. The thread was started posting something about ‘war’ apparently from the pro trans side. I can find no evidence of the original post, who made it, whether it was someone stirring shit, whether it was a false flag or someone with 40k followers who regularly posts violent rhetoric against GC people, nothing. So, it seems to me that something very nebulous was taken and used to make GC people feel unsafe when there’s no evidence that it was real or a genuine threat or… anything really. That’s my issue

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/08/2025 10:24

It’s exactly the same in reverse, the “occasional trans woman” shouldn’t be in the women’s toilets because “trans women” are biologically and legally men.

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