To be pissed off with husband saying he gives me an ‘allowance’

[Heaths88]

Views welcome on this - my H works full time, I am part time 4 days a week with Friday’s off to spend with our youngest child.

H transfers me money ad-hoc to go towards days out on these Friday’s etc.

Last night, he asked me whether the amount he is transferring is enough or if he needs to increase ‘my allowance’.

I said I don’t need an allowance, it’s money for our child. He stood by the description and told me to stop nit picking and that it’s good of him to be providing money when many other fathers wouldn’t bother as ‘they’d be busy working keeping a roof over their heads’.

There’s very little between our salaries btw.

What a condescending cunt he is. Oooh, the big man deigns to grant the little woman an allowance. Mate, when you pay for fucking everything and have cash to flash after that, then we can chat. Until then, you are expected to work as an equal partner. Not some feudal Lord. Fucking delusional twat.

You're like mental

Who hurt you?

I would feel very sorry for your husband, though it’s unlikely you have one with such an attitude

My understanding is that you earn roughly the same. You have joint account for bills etc.

You don't work on Fridays to spend the day with your DC, and he puts extra money in above and beyond the bills to fund your days out with DC, and it's this extra bit he refers to as an allowance?

It's very old fashioned terminology and I wouldn't be keen on it.

But if you earn a similar amount then I assume you have the money to fund the days out as well?

Is it just the terminology you have a problem with, or do you think he shouldn't be paying this extra as you can afford it? I am not clear exactly what the problem is, other than the description.