Help me see clearly with in laws - taking my daughter on a scary ride without our permission

[InLawDramaAgain]

Due to issues with my inlaws in the past - especially MIL not respecting boundaries and using lots of emotional blackmail I can't see clearly with them.

Me, DH and our 2 children went to Gulliver's World with MIL, BIL and his wife. MIL, BIL and his wife said they would take my 33 month old to the play area bit while me and DH waited in line with our elder son for a ride. The ride was having technical issues so after 15 minutes we went to find them. BIL and his wife had taken our 33 month of DD on the pirate ship ride. While MIL was watching. They did not ask us if this was okay. She just meet the minimum height requirements as she is tall for her age. Every time DD looked at the ride she pulled a terrified look on her face and shaking her head. I was both annoyed and shocked at the time and busy conforting my daughter and did not want to cause a scene at the park and DH never confronted them about this.

They are very enmeshed and from susan forwards toxic inlaws are the engulfers, the controllers and the critics. I am the black sheep. They have negatively effect my mental health. DH is still in the FOG and been conditioned his entire childhood not to roak any boats with his family - its been a long road to set up boundaries with them and when I bring up new issues he just accusses me of causing drama.

1. AIBU to be annoyed by this - taking her on a ride she wasn't ready for without consulting us. And my wet lettuce of a husband not wanting to confront them.
2. AIBU to also send a messge to MIL and BIL addressing this issue
3. AIBU to say no unsupervised access to our children from them - I must be there as DH is too much of a wet lettuce to advocate for them

Are you some kind of special intuit?

You're just falling for the narrative that OP has clearly set out for us, even though every bit of actual information she has provided tells all the rest of us that she's just a fucking fruit loop.

Wow you are angry!! Im entitled to my opinion.

Are you for real? Grow up.

I thought you were going to The Cobra or the Tower of Terror. The pirate swing is absolutely fine.

You sound overly precious. And then you read a book which gave you vocab you think backs up your overly precious opinion.

Unclench.

@InLawDramaAgain you are not being unreasonable. Your in laws are irresponsible. Experiences like this can significantly affect young children, the impact can last for life.

I do hope DD is ok. Personally I'd not invite them to anything like this again and distance yourself. They are toxic and you would be best holding them afar.

Sorry meant to type ‘I think you’re being OTT’. I’ll edit it.

Based on the way you write about your husband and in laws, I suspect issues have been caused by both sides.

You are clearly looking for drama. YABU.

You lost me at 33 months old

I say get a grip.

It's a ride, not sending her down the dungeons. I'd be willing to bet she asked to go on and then realised it was scary once she was on it. It won't cause any lasting damage.

I am grown, I'm 473 months thank you!

This

Experiences like going on a ride? What do you mean?

Ladies and gentlemen, we have a winner!
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Clearly not or they would have a higher height restriction. Plenty of kids that age would love it.

I think the only wet lettuce in this story is you to be honest.

33 months 😂

She is almost 3 ffs not 33 months.

And its Gullibers World...there is one about 4 miles from my house, the pirate ship is not massive. It is aimed at kids 2 and up.

You are being a bit precious over the child but your reaction to your in-laws and your dh is massively OTT. Get a grip

Experiences like… riding an age-appropriate ride at a kids theme park with your grandparents 🤣🤣🤣🤣

I’m not sure this is going the way @InLawDramaAgain hoped it would, tbh.

I’m so pleased my daughters-in-law are relaxed and laid back. If I took DGS on an age appropriate ride at a theme park DDIL would ask if he’d had a lovely time. She wouldn’t be losing her shit about it.

I’m 654 mths btw.

child asks to go on ride child hates ride / is something that happens all the time and to be fair not just to children

At a similar age DD went on the pirate ship at PeppanPig World 5 times in a row!

You need to relax a bit OP, wow.

Also, 33 months?! No, she’s nearly 3. You’re presumably still using months to give the impression this is a baby- she’s not.

A big fuss about nothing.

The psychobabble is painful.

Isn't it !