OH wants to give 3 months old to his mothers for a week

[mummymanic]

Hi all,

im due to have DC4 in March and I’ve got a holiday booked for end of June. I’ve asked OH if he would be okay with all 4 kids and he said “send them to your mums” in questioned him and said “even the baby?” to which he agreed.

this will be our 1st child together. AIBU to think that this is what it’ll be like moving forward and that he won’t want to take care of the child/ren when I want some “me time” and he’ll fob them off to either of our parents? He thinks it’s normal because his nephew spends majority of the week at his mum’s and I keep explaining to him that it’s really not the norm and a newborn should be at home with parents.

trying not to stress about it but it’s really upset me. considering bringing the baby with me abroad but dunno how I’ll manage (also not told anybody im travelling with yet).

They’re, er, posting in this thread. Read it.

@Petitchat ’s trusty side kick has rocked up again on her Shetland pony! 😆

one post that supports your assertion that a poster says the op is really “lucky” to have the opportunity to go away for a week’s holiday and leave her newborn behind?

that isn’t you or @Petitchat 😆

@Sharingaroomtinightthen do you have children?

You’ve used that saying twice now. Have you just recently learnt it?

Saddle up!

I am going to guess you don’t have children @Sharingaroomtinightthen

or if you did, you found it an imprisoning experience

Did you get the civil service Job?? I was on your maths thread but you left us hanging!

There can be empathy though, and learning.

I've just been on holiday with my children and now I would dearly love a holiday without them to recover from the experience.

Right. I’ll try it again. Motherhood is not a prison. Most parents, including OP and me, know this. Many on this thread do not.

You have a serious lack of understanding of the speed of the Civil Service.

A lack of understanding I am very happy about!

You’ve never had a newborn @Sharingaroomtinightthen so on paper… yes I can imagine leaving your newborn for a week’s holiday is really no biggie

You don’t have to leave your newborn. Chill out.

You’ve never had one
so I get that you may be a bit wtf at the dozens of dozens of posters saying that it’s strange to be happy to leave your newborn and three young children to go on a week holiday with any…. Father, grandmother, sister, cousin 3x removed

You’re just making things up. Very odd.

Luckily OP has had the sense to completely ignore all the jealousy, continue with her holiday, and ignore this thread.

nope 😊

Maybe, but not at 3 months old for a whole week when they also have 3 other children to be taken care of. As I said, if you consider parenting to be a prison sentence, it's best not to become a parent.

The three other children were happily being looked after her mother and now her partner.

Again, motherhood is not a prison sentence.

@mummymanic and @Sharingaroomtinightthen up a tree…. K.I.S.S.I.N.G. First comes love, then comes….

All of them. I wouldn't be impressed if my dh buggered off on holiday and expected me to look after his 3 kids plus a newborn. Don't know many people who would tbh unless it was an emergency - but seems like op has sorted it now anyway so a moot point.