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To not understand Dh’s problem with me working like this

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Beautymagazineswillonlymakeyoufeelfat · 02/08/2025 23:10

I work part time around our Dd. She’s had some health issues and I need to be on standby and be flexible for any issues that may arise.
I work three evenings per week, two hours per evening…granted, not much..but the pay is the same (if not a tiny bit more) as I would get working say Mon-Fri- school hours.
I also do pretty much everything around the house. Weekends are free with nothing really to be done, Dh comes home to dinner and has not much to do, aside from washing up some days and putting Dd to bed some nights. I also do all bills, Drs, dentists, school things etc etc
I think I’ve arranged it well around my Dd, make good money, am pleased I can make the same in a short space of time as I would working every day and can have lots of time with Dd

Dh seems resentful

Aibu or doing something wrong?

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Hopingtobeaparent · 04/08/2025 18:43

Are you getting enough time together, OP, you and husband? Is he projecting from something else he’s unhappy about? Does he feel overlooked?

Agree with other posters, he wants his cake and to eat it etc.. Maybe threaten a complete role switch?! 😂

Maybe he needs to do more around the house, he’s being protected from home life too much maybe?

Good luck, and good on you! Sounds like you’ve got a good system in that sense. Get him to bring solutions to the table, not problems.

Shinyandnew1 · 04/08/2025 19:19

Presume you're a tutor and he'd rather you went back to classroom teaching.m?

Don't do it!

LouiseK93 · 07/08/2025 15:16

I want to know what job you have sounds brill

rwalker · 07/08/2025 17:21

my guess he’s resentful due during the day you can please yourself pick and choose when to do your jobs do have an great deal of freedom
he’s at work all day and 3 nights a week can’t do anything as your working

Beautymagazineswillonlymakeyoufeelfat · 07/08/2025 18:34

rwalker · 07/08/2025 17:21

my guess he’s resentful due during the day you can please yourself pick and choose when to do your jobs do have an great deal of freedom
he’s at work all day and 3 nights a week can’t do anything as your working

It’s only for two hours, he’d only normally be eating dinner, on his phone, seeing Dd then anyway

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