To not understand Dh’s problem with me working like this

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I work part time around our Dd. She’s had some health issues and I need to be on standby and be flexible for any issues that may arise.
I work three evenings per week, two hours per evening…granted, not much..but the pay is the same (if not a tiny bit more) as I would get working say Mon-Fri- school hours.
I also do pretty much everything around the house. Weekends are free with nothing really to be done, Dh comes home to dinner and has not much to do, aside from washing up some days and putting Dd to bed some nights. I also do all bills, Drs, dentists, school things etc etc
I think I’ve arranged it well around my Dd, make good money, am pleased I can make the same in a short space of time as I would working every day and can have lots of time with Dd

Dh seems resentful

Aibu or doing something wrong?

He's plain old jealous, OP. That's all it is.
Tell him you're doing some consulting or freelance too, during the day, either do it or pretend to be getting it started up, faff and moan about how much work it is, how much time you're putting in. That's what a man would do.
Then split the domestic chores equally.
Then after a month or so see which he prefers.

(That's presuming you actually COULD get him to take a equal part, sceptical because he sounds to me like he takes a lot for granted.)

If she wanted to say she would have said, so maybe either answer the thread on the info given or just move on instead of nosying?

Seriously doubt it's MLM, why would that be so time sensitive and I doubt OP would have actually made any money.

Posters act like every thread posted gives the OP an obligation to satisfy their curiosity in every respect. It doesn't. It doesn't matter what you do or don't "believe in." If you don't think it's real, don't post.

home-school and PRU kids in the daytimes

The term is "home educated." No hyphen needed anyway.

Ask him outright what his problem is with the current arrangement……..he will no doubt fob you off with some pathetic excuse but the way I see this is he doesn’t like the independence you have established for yourself. He wants a Stepford Wife…….the little woman always there at his beck and call, dinner on the table, asking no questions of his actions, clean shirt immaculately ironed every morning, no identity for herself……………I divorced mine years ago!

A lot of hyperbole in here. The op is only working two hours and is back by bedtime, so I'm guessing 6-8 ish. If he works 9-5 and is home by 5.30 that's not exactly ball breaking and they still have plenty of time to hang out for an hour or so each night. It's absolutely his choice to piss off out with friends 3/4 times a week.
Sad that so many people seem to think it's unfair he has to watch TV and walk the dog with his dd 3x a week. Seems a pretty minimal input to me. It's not 3 toddlers all running about. 1 school age child is hardly a challenge for most parents and he should be happy to get some 1-1 with her.

Don’t under any circumstances ask him if he’s resentful or why.

Take the advice of dozens of strangers who can divine his feelings with their insight into all men everywhere.

Can I ask what % of time does your child miss school? Is it 40%? 50% or is it more like 5/10%. If the latter maybe he resents that you have every day free when child ok. (Yes some housework etc does not take up a whole day). How many hours is he out if the house each day? Maybe he thinks you should go sone work in the day (not necessarily the same) and increase household finances a bit? I’m not saying this is right or wrong just trying to see why he is resentful

It's his choice to see friends 3 or 4 evenings a week!

I can't believe posters are scrabbling around for unconvincing reasons to justify his stroppiness. I suspect he's jealous that the OP is efficiently earning money on low hours and managing everything else so capably.

OP you need to get him to explain what exactly he's in a strop about.

Are you an evenings only tree surgeon?

His resentment is because he thinks parenting and housework and life admin is easy. My ex once took my place at a kids meet-up at a soft play centre and had the audacity to say to one of yhd itger mums ‘This is a nice life for TypicalWave lot - sitting around drinking coffee all day whilst the kids play’

Mum pointed out that in the short hour he’d been a present father the kids hadn’t bothered to come up to him bevause they’d learned there was no point in seeking his support or attention.

Men frequently think it’s all easy as pie and a grift.

You say he seems resentful. How does this actually manifest? What does he say or do? How have you linked this perceived resentment to your work?

All we can do is guess. Working on the presumption that he is resentful, could it be that you are earning at a rate that is much lower than your potential and as such this puts pressure on finances or your families quality of life. Maybe he just wants you to earn more money. Maybe he sees it that you are exaggerating your child’s needs in order to only work 6 hours per week.

Who on here knows? You have given so little detail. The reality is, if he is resentful, you know exactly the reasons why, whether they are reasonable or not.

Oh MLM isn't real income, it's just tactics to reel extra people in by making them think there is a magic money tree.

Home educated, home-schooled, homeschooled are all the same term styled differently and I'm not writing a green paper that needs to get every overly sensitive contributor onboard. You can use the term home educated if you wish to, but you might like to consult a grammar book before correcting strangers.

He doesn’t like doing his share of parental duties. He can’t really say so though so he’s resentful.

Did you conveniently miss the bit about ops dd frequent health issues.
Multiple medical appts and time off school?
Why should op work more hours for less money? You'd have to be daft to do that. If the poor little man wants to do that there's nothing stopping him.

This is bonkers OP - TALK TO HIM NOT US

There might not be a problem OP, or if there is it could be one of many things - financial burden, jealousy, things being less fair than you think etc. The only way to know is to ask him.

How is he expressing this resentment?

You keep saying he “seems” resentful but you’re not answering, how?

What's he doing or saying exactly?

I think your DH has a great deal.

Doesn’t sound like he has a particularly demanding job, everything else taken care of for him, so when he does spend time with your DC he only has that to focus on. He should look forward to this time as special one on one time.
You on the other hand are juggling a lot to ensure nothing impacts his life. Things would be very different for him if you did work in the day and everything had to be split.

Yet another man who doesn’t know how lucky he is.
Good for you for securing such a suitable job for your circumstances.

Even if you were working full time I bet he'd still expect you to do everything in the house

If you are bringing in the same income as school hours, I don't see the problem. Is he resentful that you work fewer hours maybe?

Please tell us what you do, OP! It sounds ideal!

Maybe try communicating with him and asking him if there's an issue?

Isn't this the case for most parents though? He also goes out 3 or 4 nights a week. Doesn't sound very restrictive to me.

A weakness in AIBU is that we don't hear the other side of the story

For all we know, OP's child may have occasional minor health issues, no need to stay home, husband is resentful she's only working 6 hours per week, she coukd work longer / during the day and feels its unfair he has pretty much sole responsibility for supporting the household financially

@rwalker but "stuck at home" also can be described as "quality family time". The op is back for a normal adult evening after the DD is in bed.