Husband leaves 3yo son in bath for a few seconds

[OneWarmHazelQuail]

My husband will leave my 3yo son alone in the bath for under a minute to grab a flannel/towel, or run down stairs to grab a glass of water. It really bothers me and I have told him repeatedly that I think its unsafe and should never be done. AIBU?

I haven't often seen point scoring over safety measures for young children, but to me it speaks of immaturity or maybe special needs.

I say this because my dad was autistic and he would argue the toss over whether certain safety measures for babies & children were necessary.
Thankfully he was never proved right.

Agree with others saying it is not worth the risk. If DH is downstairs, he obviously can't see or hear them. I forget the towel frequently and my dc have been wrapped in my jumper, scarf and, in one memorable moment, a tea towel because I wouldn't let them out of my eyeline when in the bath.

ODFOD

The desperation to "protect" your child from imaginary harm isn't a flex. Other people aren't bad parents because they don't "protect" their child from that imaginary harm.

I guarantee you do things other parents would consider dangerous.

Risk isn't imaginary.
Sorry if you think it is.

As already outlined. In the average year, 0 3yo drown in the bath. Zero. None. In fact, there's only record of one drowning in the bath in recent history - and the parent was in the room at the time but had a medical emergency.

A 3yo is more likely to be killed by bees or lightning.

Part of bathing young children or anyone else at risk of drowning is preparing the environment so you don't have to leave the room while they're in the water.

He should not need to leave the room for a towel of all things.

Ok
You parent how you think best.
Those of us who feel it's a bit risky (despite the stats) we can parent how we think best.

Happy?

No one said you couldn't. Just pointed out the absurdity of nastily judging other parents because they appropriately assess risks. Not sure why you think nastily judging people who are actually correct means you're better than they are...

Shall we agree to disagree then?

Or is that disappointing for you because you want to keep accusing me of things I never said or "nastily judged people" on?

Up to you?

Oh how reasonable you are 🙄

You've suggested that people who do nip out of the room while their 3 year old is in the bath (and that's nearly half the people who participated in this poll) must have 'special needs', or lack the most basic instinct to protect their children, or are immature. That's some fucking judgement.

And how reasonable you are, letting us all know when the poll was 50/50.

I see you also think you should leave a small child in the bath alone?

And also, like @Cogsworthy accusing people of things they never did, such as "lecturing" when people are simply giving advice.

Some of us think it's risky, some of us don't.
No need to make things up such as "lecturing" and "nastily judging".