Can’t say it to their face? Say it here

[NappyEverAfter]

I’m hoping this will be cathartic for others as well as me!

Happy birthday, dear friend. I would have loved to have spent it with you - or indeed, any time with you. But while we’re still friends on paper, in reality I haven’t seen you in years, even though I’ve done nothing wrong. I can only assume I trigger bad memories for you because I was your confidante when you got yourself into an awful situation.

It feels like you were the one who fucked up, but now you’ve got out of it, while I’m suffering the consequences. I love you and miss you, but I also resent you because I’m paying for your mistakes, so fixing things feels like an impossible dream. And that’s fucking painful.

Thank you to those of you who’ve read this - feel free to unload too!

Dear colleague,

You're a miserable, virtue-signalling, joy-sucking cunt. Every time you open your mouth, I die a little bit inside because the shit you spout is cringy and embarrassing student politics nonsense. My martial arts teacher once told me I could very easily break a man's jaw with my one of my power combinations - I would love more than anything to try that on you. Cunt.

You’re a nasty vacuous person and you deserve everything that’s happened to you, the only mystery is why it took such a long time. I hope you can reflect and change your ways, but I doubt it. While you’ve done your very best to make my life an absolute misery, I’m happy that I’ve only ever been tolerant, kind and helpful. The complete opposite of you.

You’re nothing but a user. I looked after your mum when nobody else gave a shit. If it wasn’t for me, she’d of been homeless meanwhile you made excuses being to busy to help her. When she got cancer - it was me who looked after her, who took her to every appointment, cleaned her house, sorted her medications, cleaned her up & took care of her care needs, who sat at her bedside day after day, who rang countless doctors & nurses to get her into that hospice while you sat on your arse bitching. You knew she had days left and that would be her last christmas, yet you put yourself first as per fucking usual and fucked off home then had the sheer fucking cheek to be angry with me when I was the one who looked after her, who sorted out her belongings & house, who helped sort her funeral. You did fuck all - yet thats my fault when I told you countless times she didnt have much time
left & you needed to spend time with her!
You ungrateful bitch.

phew, that feels better!

I wish that I could bake a cake made out of rainbows and smiles and we'd all eat it and be happy …

I can't bloody wait for you to leave, was so happy when you said you were - have been wishing it since the day I met you. So glad you won't ruin anymore of my days in the job I have wanted for years but was considering giving up because of you.

I would say this to their face if I hadn’t blocked them for my own peace. Brother in law, nephew, niece, you are utter arrogant toxic cunts. Regrettably there is nothing of your lovely mother in you, you take after your fathers. My sister’s fault was that she had abysmal taste in men.

You disgusting vile bully of my child - you make me sick to my stomach, both you and your vile enabling scum bag family. You have made my child's life a hell and you deserve everything bad to happen to you. ..... plus swear words

I can't be a good, engaged, supportive friend if you're going to cheat on your husband. I'm not judging you - I sympathise with you - but it makes me so uncomfortable. Please don't behave like that.

I am not your emotional dumping ground. You are utterly self absorbed, you treat your children awfully and I dont want to be a part of it. You havent asked how I am in months. You constantly tell me things and talk about yourself and im fed up of it. I dont want to be friends with you. I hate how you act when you dont get your own way, and how you manipulate by saying you'll hurt yourself. You take the piss out of people with mental health problems. You hate that i got the help and am actually happy and doing well.

If I say anything you'll have an emotional breakdown, threaten to self harm and take yourself to a&e. And I want no part in your shit anymore

I understand why he left you. I look back now at all your stories and think, they’re almost guaranteed to be untrue. You married for money, and when the money was gone, you made out he was abusive. I’m embarrassed I bought it.

I’ve gone NC as I cannot be bothered to have any of this conversation with you, as it’s not worth saving.

I regret the moment I said yes to your marriage proposal. I regret I don't have the financial savings to walk away. I regret this sham of a marriage. You witter on, talking absolute shite. I love when you go away so I can enjoy the peace and my own company.
I hope I die first so I don't have to play the grieving widow. Oh and I loathe your daughter and the rest of your family.

You absolutely should be grateful and gracious, humble and thankful that you had an organ transplant. It didn’t ruin your life you stupid cow - literally you’d be dead if you hadn’t had it. Your donor, their family and their friends deserve your gratitude not your fucking selfish entitled “woe is me” attitude. You disgust me.

dear DIL - I drive your son all that way to your home, having had him for a couple days, and you barely let me in the door let alone say ‘ hi H come in and let me make you a cuppa?’

Great thread btw

Dear Colleague,

If you want to be a manager apply for the role. It's not a self appointed position and your inserting yourself into everyone's business and telling tales on people for non-crimes is frankly pathetic. I don't see that it's any of your business why Mary is off, or Peter is in late. You're also super unapproachable and new starts are afraid of you.

Regards etc

Bro, (ironic) you are an utter dickhead. You think you’re so superior and have always looked down on me. Not any more. I’m done. I have no need or want of you. You judge and assume without ever questioning or ever trying to understand. I have never been good enough and you are arrogant and big headed and you’ve somehow found a wife to believe your bullshit.

I'm afraid you're going to die because you won't listen to anyone and are as stubborn as anything. I can't imagine life without you, but there is nothing more I can do.

Love this BTW.

Dear twat face. You’re a lazy, two faced, pathetic see you next Tuesday and I wish you’d fuck off far far away. The end.

Future son in law. I’ve given you 15 grand towards your wedding at least give me the courtesy of saying hello when I call in. It’s called being polite

Surprise parties are fucking awful for the person on the receiving end of it. It’s not fair to say I was ungrateful for it, it was something I didn’t want and I was perfectly polite during it.

But if I’d wanted a fucking party, I would have arranged it.

Dear young lady at the cinema,
Put your f*cking phone away.
Kind regards,
Everyone who had to sit near you

You didn't need to lie when you decided that she was younger and you didn't fancy me anymore. You didn't have to lie that you weren't seeing her and had come back to me. You didn't need to send me an old photo of you and your mum as cover for seeing your OW. It would have saved me months of heartache and humiliation. I probably would not have PTSD and whilst I am sure you would have completely erased me, I'd not have felt like I was dying with confusion and grief. I see your new profiles proclaiming honesty and I wonder just what planet your brain is on, you lying, cheating toad.

Oh and OW; I don't know what he has told you, but not believing me is something you may laugh at now whilst things are rosy but deception never ends well. He has given everything up for you and you must feel like the most special woman to have walked the earth but he made me feel like that once over until he decided I was no longer worth it. Every relationship has ended like this for him. I know how you must have trashed me to him and he to you. You just remember me in 5 years time.

You have both ruined both mine and my childrens lives.

I gave you everything, my love, my support, my body and eventually my dignity all based on words you said. You brought love into it, you brought the emotion and then when it was there for your taking you dropped me like nothing. Repeatedly. For ease. You stripped me of all self worth and yet take great pride in everyone else thinking you’re a great man, a good egg. One day they’re going to see you for what you are and I will sit back and smile.

It could be that they are embarrassed they they shared so much, could you maybe send a heartfelt message saying you miss them and would love to meet?

Mine is:
Stop fucking messaging me when I’m on annual leave you socially unaware peace disturbers! I’ve put you in the locked part of Whatsapp so I can’t see you but I’m still subconsciously aware you are messaging me even though I’m not responding. Fuck. Off. It’s my time off

Great thread!
I hate how for some reason you get away with being so rude to customers & with speaking equally rudely to me in front of customers, which is completely unprofessional & humiliating. Yet at the same time I feel sad because you haven’t always been like that & I wonder what’s going on for you but don’t know you well enough to ask.