Can’t say it to their face? Say it here

[NappyEverAfter]

I’m hoping this will be cathartic for others as well as me!

Happy birthday, dear friend. I would have loved to have spent it with you - or indeed, any time with you. But while we’re still friends on paper, in reality I haven’t seen you in years, even though I’ve done nothing wrong. I can only assume I trigger bad memories for you because I was your confidante when you got yourself into an awful situation.

It feels like you were the one who fucked up, but now you’ve got out of it, while I’m suffering the consequences. I love you and miss you, but I also resent you because I’m paying for your mistakes, so fixing things feels like an impossible dream. And that’s fucking painful.

Thank you to those of you who’ve read this - feel free to unload too!

@Fetchthevet I don’t know what happened to you or your person. But please forgive yourself - You deserve it.

I spend 60-70% of my time in therapy talking about you.

I'm sorry that you were hurt but that's no reason to hurt others. You are behaving disgustingly. He doesn't deserve the way that you're treating him and you've managed to destroy his reputation, his self-esteem and his health. I actually think you're evil.

@AragornsManlyStubble I'm so sorry. There can't be any comforting words. My ex worked on alienating the kids to some degree, but for your ex to take them away from you is pure evil. I'm so sorry.

I don’t think you’re a nice person, but that’s ok. Not everybody likes everybody else. But aside from that, you’re not a good person, and that’s not ok. You’re selfish, self-centred, pig-headed, entitled, and you don’t have one single shred of integrity. Not one. So spare me the sanctimony, I’m not going to tolerate that from someone as despicable and low as you. And, btw, you not talking to me isn’t the punishment you think it is, au contraire; it’s a blessed relief. My life is immeasurably better without you being a daily feature in it.

Please go back to your GP for the meds. Nobody is driving your car, been on your boat, been in our house or drunk the water out of your car.
Nobody is following you either. Why can't you see how illogical you are being ?

Are we allowed more than one..?
To my male parent...I fucking hated you my whole life.. Every time I did something wrong..instead of bashing the living daylights out of.me...why couldn't you explain just WHY what I had done was wrong.
Why did you hit me when you saw me talking to a boy in the street.? Why couldn't I go to the the 6th form social.? I was the only pupil not allowed to go but you couldn't give me a reason.
I got invited to go on holiday with my friend and her family but you wouldn't let me go.. Yet again no reason given
And when I got pregnant at 16 you didn't help me..your hate for me was so obvious.You wouldn't let me go out incase the neighbours saw me
.. I was allowed some fresh air when it was dark and everyone was indoors
You sent me away..I was frightened and alone..You treated me like a leper.
And years later I find that the woman I thought of as my aunt was your illegitimate daughter...
You fucking evil hypocrite.
I was never so glad as the day you died..and I was free.

Brother and sister in law. Grow up. Think of mum stuck in the middle. I'm trying to build bridges so stop lying and saying I'm not answering messages or returning calls when you haven't fucking called me and making me out to be the bad person!!

And would it hurt to just acknowledge your niece or nephew's birthday on Facebook? Twats!!

Dear DH's Grandmother,

Nobody wants to talk about whether they have lost weight, gained weight, whether you have given up bread and potatoes or if someone is obese - you are the only person I judge when you bring this topic up, every.single.time we see you. P.S let your DH eat chips for God's sake, the man is miserable which is why he hides in his shed.

Mother of the friend of my daughter. We took your child out with us countless times to theme parks, sometimes even paying for her because my daughter enjoys having a friend go with her. Not once have you offered to take my daughter out for the day. I even buy bags of sweets for them to eat on the journey or in the queues. Only once did your daughter bring any sweets and that was one small bag..for herself and nothing for my daughter at all. They are loaded so it's nothing to do with money. Thankfully she has a new set of friends that pay their way.

You are so shit at your job. In other situations you would be managed out. You are benefitting from 'extenuating circumstances '.
And no, it's not "just that one bit" that you "struggle with" , it's 80% of the role. You are fraudulent by taking money each month for doing fuck all. Have some respect.
In addition you are not a nice person at all. Infact , your behaviour has made me read up on narcissists and omg you are a classic example.
What really pisses me off is that you make out that you're a nice person, when infact you are so very fake.

I despise what you are doing to the team and hope and pray that karma will get you.

jeez you are such a f**cking b!itch! I have literally never met anyone as nasty as you. You have made my already difficult life immeasurable harder, and I think you’ve actually enjoyed it. You seem to thrive in making other people unhappy. I’ve never know anything like it. You’re a bully and you like it.
other people share my view.

no one has got a good word to say about you. That’s some achievement! they call you a bitch and a psycho, so I know it’s not me, it’s you.
how much longer do we have to endure you?
willl you leave soon? I fucking hope so.
and we will dance, and celebrate, and probably crack open the champagne.

Fuck off with all your false SM & linkedin inspirational leadership posts. You treat your staff like shite, you take advantage of people's good nature & use them. You contact us on annual leave yet hate it when we do the same. You suck up to rich & influential people but treat ordinary people like shit because you can't get anything out of them. You also committ fraud so I hope it all eventually bites you on the arse.

Oh my fucking god stop sending me a teams message or calling me 30 seconds after youve sent me an email. You are not that important. Stop trying to inflate your ego. Yes I’ve seen your email but now you won’t leave me alone, I’m even less likely to get round to it. Stop copying me into all your emails you want resolved, I don’t care in the slightest nor is it my job so just shut up!!!!

Dear xxxxxx, please go bother some one else and leave my kids alone. You may of been told that telling my kid that you watch them get on a school bus every day plus everything else you have said and done is just an over friendly person and you have done nothing wrong. You have done wrong and you are a creep. I hope people see through your behaviour and realise I am not a nasty neighbour who’s lost the plot. Yes I’m aware you are following me and it’s no coincidence you are attending the same places I go. I cancelled my last holiday because you are booked on it with same dates. What a coincidence! Enjoy your holiday that I’m not on 😂

It was my birthday today. I made a massive fucking deal about your birthday. Booked a girls weekend away, arranged food and games and entertainment. Huge fuss. I didn’t even get a WhatsApp text on our group chat. Fuck. Off.

....and breathe 🤗
It's cathartic just to read the posts.

We are all counting down the days till you retire and have decided to throw you a big retirement party which you will think is because you are so great - it's not, it's because we are celebrating that we will no longer have to deal with your aggressive outbursts, bullying and arse-covering work-shy nature.
Byeeeeeeeeeeeee 😚

Dear Team, I just want you all to know I'm tired of carrying you all. I hate taking holidays because of all the crap I come back to. I sincerely do not care about any of your self induced drama. Do not message me out of hours, I am not paid to be interested until 9am Monday. If you're bored of your job, apply for a new one, don't expect me to amend the job you applied for because it suits you. If you want a promotion, try doing your current job well first. Yes, those rules and policies apply to everyone. Even if you are pregnant/ have a child/ your dog died/ your mum died (again) or you have been brought up to believe you're the most special little thing in the room. Oh and for info, I don't believe you when you call in sick, especially when you spent the day before warming me up. Your sick voice fools no-one. You have back ache for fucks sake, why is your voice hoarse? Oh and finally, to that one team member who knows it all, appoints themselves the team police.... The whole team think you're a massive prick and a bully. There's only me separating you from an HR complaint and you blew that today my friend. This is war.

S. No I don’t believe you and I think you are making my friend unhappy. Wish you could have got to grips with this side of yourself before getting married.

ExH,
I will never forgive you. I don’t know how to get out of this pit. People telling me to move on are no help. I’m furious.
I am still dealing with the fall out of your abuse. Your children, especially the girls are so damaged I don’t know what to do.
They refuse therapy or even to talk about it.
cPTSD makes me helpless.
You are getting on with having a great time. Living your best life with your new girlfriend. Does she know how you’ve left us all so damaged we can’t thrive like we should?
I spend all my waking hours worrying about keeping a roof over our heads, whilst you go on lots of lovely holidays.
When you told me you might be ill I rejoiced. I hate myself for that.
I wish you were dead. And I hate that I feel this way.

Yes I know it was a passive-aggressive attention-seeking Vaguebook post. But a short moment's reflection would have suggested to you why I made it... and then you have the utter gall to ask what's up

Dear XX I tried to help you at your lowest ebb, I did everything I could whilst you did fuck all to look after your child. Then you made up serious, nasty lies about me. Nearly caused me to have a mental breakdown and have turned me from a confident person to someone who struggles silently with anxiety. I fucking hate you. Sometimes I feel so much hate I fantasize about telling you to your nasty, horrible face and hoping you choke on the lies you told about me. Fuck you, you fucking bastard.

Dear HT,

I'm so glad my kids are finally shot of your shit school. You threatened me with social services while failing to deal with the horrific bullying that led my daughter to be be unable to come into school. You stepped in to overrule a member of your staff at a fecking sports day race to deny my autistic son a stupid fucking sticker because you didn’t like him. You have the empathy of a brick. Please find another profession.

Stop making a mess in the kitchen and learn to shut the door quietly. It sounds like WW111 when you go in and out. Thankfully you re only here another few days.

Dear Friend please please get therapy and some antidepressants. It's not normal to hate every part of your life and not want to change it. We all have things we hate about ourselves but I can't believe you get comments about your looks every time you go out. You are not a green monster, you are not massively obese maybe a few stone overweight but you act as if you are utterly hideous. You aren't. Maybe stop listening to your poisonous mother and her bitter opinions because at nearly 40 you should be free.

On a lighter note....Dear young cat stop chasing wasps. They aren't your friends.
Dear older cat you re snoring shhhh