DH overreacting over

[NoWinnersOnlyLosers]

i will try to resume the situation:

I am on holiday at the moment visiting family (parents, siblings…)

I left my children yesterday with my parents so that I could catch up with friends over the weekend. Bear in mind I can only see them once a year and I am the default parent for my children and I don’t get a break, only ever when they are at school (if that counts).

On returning, my DD5 informed me while crying that her grandad told her off for dropping the remote and waking up grandma who was sleeping on the sofa in the living room. She also told me that she received a head slap for it but she cried for that.

I spoke to him and he admitted that it was a flick but was remorseful of what he did. I told him I expect this to never happen again as I have never laid a finger on them.

Now, my Dd informed her dad over a video call and she explained what happened. This didn’t sit well with him (which I understand) but he decided unilaterally to cut short our holiday by 2 weeks and book a flight for us.

He refused to talk to my parents and said he expects us to get on the plane well before our initial timeframe.

I asked my eldest child to explain what happened and if it was witnessed and the situation was explained and nothing more was added.

While I don’t accept the use of violence of any kind on children, my dad has never laid a hand on us and I feel it has developed in a molehill out of a grain of sand.

Now my eldest is crying that my husband has ruined the time with their grandparents.

My youngest is crying because she hasn’t been to the beach yet.

My mum is crying because she only gets to see us in summer.

I am equally devastated and angry as the time I have to decompress is gone and I have yet to organise plenty of things here.

My dad doesn’t know this yet as he was sleeping when all this was unfolding.

And my husband wants to impose and is a square man. He is difficult to convince otherwise and has spent money we don’t have to prove a point and damage my relationship with my parents with me being stuck in the middle.
He does not care about my family the same as he does not care about his side of the family.

WWYD?

And @Purplechicken207 doubt you'd accuse your assaulted child of 'performative crying '?....bloody tragic.

They. Aren’t. Staying. At. Her. Parents, so you’d be going to your separate airbnb where your parents are NOT staying and packing your kids things up there.

All those saying what a hero the husband is. This is the hero who has no involvement day to day with his children or the household. The OP makes that very clear, to the extent she is desperate to get this break. It not expressed well, but the posts clearly say all the children's needs are met by her. Along comes the big hero and books flights without consultation to get his children to safety, but once home will work all hours and forget about them. They are not even staying in the same house, so the OP is perfectly able to ensure they are not exposed to any further risks. But the hero wants to punish the in-laws, get his wife back to where she should be and show what a hero he really is.
But there is no ongoing risk that can't be managed by OP. It's just punishment and gestures and control.

This.

Oh totes, part time, school hours only working, it's so.hard for the OP.

What a selfish dick her db is, to not take on childcare support for his ex.Dp children....

Are you drunk?