I'm literally ready to scream. Girl with irritating mother pt 2

[Balloonhearts]

No, this time I really am going to drown myself in the rain butt. Unsupervised minors be damned.

Link to previous thread for those who don't know what I'm ranting about. www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5359192-really-irritated-with-this-girls-mother?latest=1

So Summer riding club started yesterday. Girl from previous thread is enrolled and in my group.

Firstly her mother has signed her up AGAIN with the wrong weight on her form. And a note in the Need to Know section saying 'No large horses.' Obviously we realised and assigned her the correct size horse for her height, weight and experience. They got on swimmingly, Carol (The horse) is very sweet and biddable and excellent with beginners.

Mum came to get her yesterday and did her nut.

Now admittedly Carol does have quite a fast extended trot, which the girl, I'll call her S, was rising beautifully to. It's easier when going faster. More impulsion, means a bigger upwards assist and she has pretty much cracked her rising trot yesterday. She was happy, beaming and full of confidence. Not unhappy with her assigned mount in the least.

Anyway, mum went off on one about having requested no large horses and her wishes being ignored. First of all Carol isn't large. She is a 15.3 Thoroughbred with quite a dainty build. Not big or intimidating at all.

Mum insisted on a smaller horse today. This is difficult because S is both tall and heavy. Most of the ponies can carry a max of 10 stone and, again, we need to reshuffle riders to accommodate this.

The only one small enough to accommodate her is a 14hh cob called Mickey. He can carry her but neither of them are particularly comfortable. She has her stirrups hiked up to be able to apply aids correctly. This is throwing off her centre of balance and making her rising trot difficult and Mickey unbalanced. She's too long in the leg for riding him to be comfortable and with a weak core to start with, she is struggling.

Mickey is also a bit of a twat. If his rider is annoying him, he bucks. He's really more an intermediate horse than beginner. He's sweet natured but easily annoyed by an unsteady leg.

Today has mostly been teaching her to sit a buck, with limited success as Mickey is nothing if not persistent. She is not enjoying him at all.

Are we really unreasonable to tell this woman bluntly at pickup to either wind her neck in and leave the horse choosing to us or find somewhere else to ride?

I feel awful for S as she's a lovely kid and clearly mortified by her mums behaviour.

You need to just tell her straight

Have you had bloods done for insulin recently? Worth doing to see if he is decompensating.

No, he seems sound though. He's recently seen the vet who wasn't overly concerned, though he has a cyst that needs sorting when there are less flies around. My DD has a tendency to be over dramatic when it comes to her health and his.

That said, I don't think this hard ground is doing any of them any good

You need to put the being of your horses who have no choice in this matter first at all costs. I'm worried that you have made this horse and uncomfortable to pander to the whim of a child whose mother needs a firm talking to. Advocate for the animals in your care. Jeez.

I think its because of the hay shortage. They're having to use this year's hay. Loads of people are saying their horses are laminitic. Luckily we've only had the one. Still keeps waiting at the fence for me to climb on, bless him, I normally ride him down from the pasture if he has to come in. Because I'm lazy and he's the only one I'd trust to ride tackless.

If you're only going to read the op, at least check the date. Jeez.

I completely agree. He's a tricky little black welshie at the best of times. Our local show has been cancelled as the ground is so hard. She let him out last night, but will bring him in today. He seems to be quite happy to have some shade