Girlfriend mum drinks 9/11 bottles a wine a week

[Zodiac82]

My girlfriend mum will drink easily between 9/11 bottles of wine a week and despite my girlfriend talking to her, she don't feel it is a issue.

The dad also drinks heavily, around 6/8 cans nightly. Both work full time, she works as a nurse.

My girlfriend made a diary of how much she drank at home in June and it was 47 bottles.

Now am I wrong in thinking that this is a insane amount of wine to be drinking on a weekly basis? I don't drink at all myself but having 1/2 bottles bottles each night seems crazy to me.

I’m glad I hate wine.

Imagine you were saying the same thing about gin or vodka.
It’s still doing the same damage whether it’s the expensive or the cheap version. They don’t cut open a millionaire and say ‘at least he only drank the expensive champagne, you can really tell the difference between this high quality liver and that of the wino in the corridor’

You are absolutely right. That is why I don't drink a lot. I like fine wines and savour them.

Why naive? How many drinkers of vintage wine do you know? I have had some delicious wines from the 1970s and 80s. Ai is very useful for looking up the vintages offered for auction, which are generally offered weeks before the auction.

My point was that people coming into my home and seeing all my 'wine cellar' albeit not underground, assume that I drink large quantities of wine. I don't know why, because if I was an alcoholic the wine wouldn't be in the fridge for long, would it?

How long would it stay in the fridge of the OPs friend? Mine stays in my fridge and cupboard for months. I have macular degeneration. At least I know if someone opens a bottle for me I shall not need to look at the label to see if it is a good one!

Perhaps I would be better understood if I told you I have a fridge ONLY for wine. Food is in another one.

It is a large fridge, I might add. If I were to go, I shall go surrounded by the things I love.

There is a documentary about alcoholics called 'Rain in my Heart'. I would recommend everyone watch it. I watch it every so often to keep myself in check.

There is a doctor on there that has seen many patients die from alcohol. He said it does not matter if it is beer or vodka. The effects are the same. There is no "safe" alcohol.

Naïve as in you said you don't believe someone could be drinking 9-11 bottles per week... because you can make one last a week.
Your drinking habits are the opposite to the one OP describes.

I am a wheelchair user. There are no corner shops and I have lived here for decades.

I suppose there are people who get desperate enough to leave the house in pjs to buy whatever they imbibe. I am not one of them. I would probably get run over anyway because I don't have lights on my wheelchair.

Where I live, I wouldn't get far either.

You have totally missed the point I was making. Oh well.

Enjoy your one bottle of posh wine per week. This thread is not about people like you.

Are there any similarities at all between you and the woman this thread is about?

Well I don't, does that make me naive, or just don't mix with the people who do?. Worse, if there is such a lot of people who do that, does that make me a social outcast? Good thing I'm disabled then. I never considered there was a good side to disability.

I just cannot imagine anyone being able to stand upright for long, or working with people and not be noticed by anyone at work.

That is what I meant.

I don't know why you keep bringing the fact you are disabled into this. It is totally irrelevant.

Someone who is sinking 2-3 bottles of wine a day will have been doing that for a long time. You don't go from zero to heavy drinking. The amounts sneak up on you.

It is possible for someone to regularly drink that much and seem perfectly fine to everyone around them... hence the term "functioning alcoholic".

Perhaps we have both missed each other's points.

I tried - and obviously failed - to say that because people buy a lot of wine, they may not necessarily be an alcoholic, because I buy cases at auction, and I am not. I couldn't afford to guzzle Chablis at that rate.

My point was that some people who come into the house see the bottles of wine racked up in the fridge and cupboard and assume I must be, until I point out that if I was, the wine would not be there, would it?

Let me enlighten a bit, though didn't think it needed to be@

I was disabled suddenly, overnight. I went to bed well, but when I woke up in the morning, got up to go to work and my legs gave way. I hadn't had an accident, and some people who saw me fit and well one day and unable to walk the next couldn't understand it. Neither did I for a long time, not even now. I tried going back to work, but I found myself clinging to lamposts when the wind blew, so gave it up. I had something called GBS which became the chronic form, CIDP. Some recover. I wasn't strong enough.

There have been times when I suppose I could have been thought to be inebriated: never happen.

Well read my last post.

It's got nothing to do with this young man or his girlfriend they should mind their own business.

🤣I imagine you dying surrounded by large fridges. I quite like my fridge (not large nor full of fancy bottles) but I won't be bothered if I die and leave it behind. Possessions aren't that important anyway.

If you were an alcoholic, you'd find a way to get wine. You could have it delivered or buy in bulk or spend whole days in the pub... You don't seem to understand the point of this thread at all, nor how alcoholics behave. In fact, you just seem to be boasting about your fancy wine which isn't relevant or helpful at all.

This charity is for children of alcoholics, so it’s for support for OP in dealing with it, not to help the mum stop. As you say, that’s on her and doesn’t look like it will be happening anytime soon unfortunately.

You know perfectly well this is a dangerous level of drinking. What is your purpose in posting on here?

For support? For advice on what to do? For suggestions on a available help?

@llizzie why do you keep posting completely irrelevan posts about your multiple fridges and expensive wine? Are we supposed to be impressed?

I would be concerned at the 11yr

akso very surprised work haven’t said anything if she is drinking that much as surely would smell of it next day

tho a bottle a night is a lot on a work day - it may not , as she is a hardened drinker and functioning alcoholic , show up in her behaviour as can tolerate a lot more

I'm in a similar situation, a dear friend drinks at least 2 bottles a night and usually a few gins too. She runs her own business and drives. I have no idea how she functions, she doesn't seem to have any health issues, I'm stunned. I can't actually see her at the moment, it's too upsetting, I'm hoping she'll hit her rock bottom and want to change but I can't see it happening. It's very sad.

A family member died in their 40s of cirrhosis due to drinking 1 bottle of wine a day, sometimes 1.5. They did not eat properly. Some people will get away with drinking this amount but it will cause health issues, but some won't and it will kill them. She has to want to give it up.

A lot of people are a functioning alcoholics, they don't realise or choose to ignore.
A colleague of mine mid 40's, will drink a bottle of wine while cooking and another eating, every night, she takes two hydration pills before sleeping. She looks great, doesn't impact her work.
She is just lucky she hasn't been stopped by garda for a breathalyser in the mornings.

I do think wine is particularly problematic.

It’s quite strong and easy to drink. I don’t like spirits including flavoured ones and don’t drink them even if there’s nothing else.
I absolutely do drink too much wine on a regular basis.
It’s quite easy to ignore the functioning alcoholic bit if you don’t drink anything going.