Furious at DH and his friend bringing someone back to our house

[TiredSaturdayy]

My DH’s friend is staying for the weekend. He lives about 4 hours away and they only see each other once a year. This is perfectly fine with me as I usually get on well with him.

Last night, they both went out into town to catch up. DH got into bed about 1am, I sleep lightly so was woken but soon got to sleep. His friend is staying in our spare bedroom.

I am woken by noises shortly after. I wake DH and ask if he can hear them. He says there’s something he needs to tell me and that his friend met a women in the last bar they were in and INVITED HER HOME! So the noises were infact them ‘at it’ in my spare bedroom.

I go ballistic at DH and ask why he thought this was acceptable. Our DC is away this weekend which is beyond the point. Completely irresponsible to allow a stranger into our house in those circumstances.

I tell DH that if he doesn’t ask her to leave then I will. He says he’ll message his friend. No reply. He’s about to get up and knock on the door when we hear it open and his friend sees her out and she eventually leaves.

DH is asleep still now, I am downstairs absolutely aghast at their behaviour. If he thinks I am sorting out the fry up they kept on about before they went out then they’ve another thing coming.

I would find it funny and take the piss out of the friend. I just don’t get the hysteria or anger.

It's really not. So whatever you looked up is wrong. I only learned this recently btw

Just to add, I managed to eek out the circumstances by asking if they were both on the pull.

DH saw one of the mums from our DC’s football team and said hello. With her, was her friend (the woman his friend took him). They got along like a ‘house on fire’ and one thing lead to another.

So that’s going to be an awkward catch up when I next see her on the touchline!

[You haven’t ever heard ‘think’ because you assume it’s thing and because speech sounds vary depending on other sounds around them. Many people use ‘thing’ but the origin is ‘think’. https://www.theguardian.com/media/mind-your-language/2014/nov/18/mind-your-language-another-think]

No it isn't, it's THINK.

I’m with you OP. I would be furious. That friend would never be staying in my house ever again. So disrespectful to your family home.

Well looks like both thing and think are used so there you go! Isn’t language wonderful and flexible. I am also old and have never heard think before either so every day is a school day here on Mumsnet! 😅

That link doesn't take you anywhere. Just looked it up again and found this- The phrase has been around since at least the early 1900s and appears in dictionaries and style guides as "another thing coming." While "think" is sometimes heard in casual speech due to the similar sound and the logical connection to thoughts/expectations, "thing" remains the standard form.So you can confidently tell anyone using think that while their version makes intuitive sense, the established idiom uses "thing"!

Maybe think is a regional variation but have lived Edinburgh, Liverpool, Manchester and London and never heard think

Yes.

'If you think you're doing that you've got another THINK coming'. My Mum used to say it all the time - 50s/60s childhood.

Stick to what OP is describing here. It's bad enough without you describing something even worse that didnt happen. And OP being present in the house would make it less likely than if they had went back to a hotel room.

OP make sure he strips the bed and gets the sheets and duvet in the washing machine himself NOW, 🤮

AI can solve the debate. I always thought it was ‘thing’, so I have learnt something new already today!

It’s “think”, even if you’ve found an erroneous post on the internet that supports your error.

”If he thinks x, he’s got another think coming!”

“Thing” makes no sense whatsoever.

on/off partner

I was going to ask if he was with someone

so prob cheated as well

I'd be seriously pissed off at DH for allowing this, but would say my piece in the morning. I certainly wouldn't be going ballistic at the friend and the woman, who aren't actually doing anything wrong (apart from being pretty disrespectful).

It’s really not…. Sorry - originally the saying was ‘if you think that, you’ve got another think coming’ as in, another thought to correct the first thought.

“If you think you’re bringing her back to my house, you’ve got another think coming”

The next think would be you realise it’s not ok to think you’re bringing her back… ie you realise you were wrong.

Over the years it’s been misheard and misremembered so has become, from some, ‘another thing coming’

Wow, it's very brazen of her to rock up to your house and fuck your DH friend knowing you were in the next room 🙈. 100% they should have gone to hers or a hotel

Wow…rude! Who is cleaning the sheets 🤮🤢

AI told me the exact opposite 🤣🤣. I think we can safely say both terms are in regular use!

Oh for god sake. The woman made a choice to go back and get her hole, which sounds like she did. Nothing happened apart from the OP throwing an overblown fit.

Apologies, this link should If you’ve got ‘another thing coming’, you’ve got another think coming | Mind your language work here

It's your home not a motel or knocking shop. Id go out and have a lovely breakfast somewhere without them.

Ok I’m giving up. Google ‘another think coming Guardian’. It’s an interesting piece.

It's a violation of your home. Extremely disrespectful.