Furious at DH and his friend bringing someone back to our house

[TiredSaturdayy]

My DH’s friend is staying for the weekend. He lives about 4 hours away and they only see each other once a year. This is perfectly fine with me as I usually get on well with him.

Last night, they both went out into town to catch up. DH got into bed about 1am, I sleep lightly so was woken but soon got to sleep. His friend is staying in our spare bedroom.

I am woken by noises shortly after. I wake DH and ask if he can hear them. He says there’s something he needs to tell me and that his friend met a women in the last bar they were in and INVITED HER HOME! So the noises were infact them ‘at it’ in my spare bedroom.

I go ballistic at DH and ask why he thought this was acceptable. Our DC is away this weekend which is beyond the point. Completely irresponsible to allow a stranger into our house in those circumstances.

I tell DH that if he doesn’t ask her to leave then I will. He says he’ll message his friend. No reply. He’s about to get up and knock on the door when we hear it open and his friend sees her out and she eventually leaves.

DH is asleep still now, I am downstairs absolutely aghast at their behaviour. If he thinks I am sorting out the fry up they kept on about before they went out then they’ve another thing coming.

I am on team ballistic.

If I were in your shoes, I’d definitely see my DH in a different light after this. To me, it says a lot that he thought it was okay to bring a total stranger into your home - especially one his friend just met in a bar. I'd be seriously questioning his judgment, and yes, the old saying 'birds of a feather flock together' may even cross my mind. It might be unfair, but I’d find it hard not to wonder if he’d be capable of something similar. Either way, the disrespect and lack of consideration for your home and feelings would be hard to ignore.

Well that friend wouldn’t be allowed to stay again.

Tell DH the kitchen needs to be immaculate after their breakfast.

I think you are missing the point that it’s not a good idea to let a stranger in to your home.

I’m surprised you were planning to make them breakfast. If I have a guest round it’s my responsibility to cook for them (and vice versa).

🤣🤣 the phrase is 'another thing coming'

Well they have both woken and it’s fair to say DH’s friend is very sheepish. He was immediately apologetic.

The woman was ‘insistent’ apparently and the drink took over. I am assured it won’t happen again.

He has an on/off partner so seems a bit guilty - he says they are currently ‘off’ but from his reaction I’m not convinced.

I’ve left them in the living room to stew.

Why the hell did the friend not book into a hotel or go back to the woman's place? Your dh is a doormat thinking this was acceptable & did the woman think she was getting a threesome?

It's not.

Don't be ridiculous 🙄

No, it isn't. 'Another think coming' is an ages old saying. All four of my grandparents used it and my mum managed to crowbar it into every telling off.

It's not actually 😄

Nope.

I came on here from the title thinking it sounded like an overreaction but it’s not.

If your DH thinks it’s fine to invite complete strangers into the house when you’re asleep, he’s got another think coming.

It would to the OP 🙄

The husband gave permission to have a stranger round in the middle of the night… Op didn’t give permission or even have knowledge on it so of course she’s not being unreasonable

Honestly you're being ridiculous! Don't pay attention to any of these comments 🙄

FFS I had to look this up to make sure I wasn't going mental. The phrase is 'another thing coming' and has been used since the 1900s. Another think coming is what's known as an "eggcorn" - a mishearing that seems to make logical sense. "Think" might seem reasonable because the phrase often follows someone mentioning what a person thinks, but the traditional and correct version uses "thing."
I've never heard anyone use another think coming, ever

Please say you’re not in the kitchen doing the fry up.

It definitely is not. I am old and no-one ever said "thing" until about the last 20 years or less

Exactly.
Cheeky bastard. (Used to have a lodger as well - used to).🤬

I think most people in the OP's situation would find this disrespectful behaviour, but to what extent really depends on the individuals involved and their own sense of propriety.

But yes, I'd certainly make sure husband washes the sheets (and the hammer and tongs if they were used).

Wrong. 'Think' in the second half of the phrase relates back to 'think' in the first half. "Thing' would not make any sense at all in this context.

Think not thing

Nope. Look it up. Im 54 and have never heard 'think' .