Friend didn’t show up

[icelolly46]

I invited two friends and their partners over for a late lunch last Saturday. Friend 2 is notoriously flaky but said she and her partner would be there. That morning, I sent a text to confirm she was still coming and to let me know asap if not as I would cook less food or invite another friend in her place (we have a small flat so only space for six people comfortably). She said yes definitely. It got to lunchtime, Friend 1 and her partner arrived and Friend 2 didn’t show. No explanation, no apology, nothing. Two days later I still haven’t heard from her. She does have form for this - she will often cancel last minute. But to not even let me know, especially after my text that morning, feels particularly hurtful. AIBU to think I should reluctantly give up on this friendship?

Where on earth have you inferred that from? I’ve reread all of OP’s posts and can find nothing to suggest she’s remotely flakey. Also, a slanging match is never “good”, what a strange thing to suggest.

I inferred from the content of OP’s story. Fairly self explanatory. And a good counterpoint to many of the responses recommending terminating friendship or creating ‘distance’. And OP appears to have taken my contribution in reasonable spirit, unlike your good self. We’ll simply have to agree to differ. 🤝

Doesn't that tell you she isn't interested in you. Time to dump her.

A real friend would not do this. Some people are not worth the emotional angst and thus woman is in this category. Remove her.

just don't ask her again, simples

Absolutely. If the boot were on the other foot I daresay she’d be well hacked off. How often does she invite you and others over to her place for the same? Send her into hyperspace and don’t waste your time on selfish, thoughtless individuals.

j don’t invite her to anything else.

I think you've already recognised that this 'friendship' isn't worth your effort any more. In your position, I would be less inclined to extend any such invitations to her and, if you meet up in a larger social circle, it will be up to her to address the 'elephant in the room' and either apologise to you or offer a very good explanation of why she failed to be courteous and polite about her lack of appearance. If she says nothing, you have your answer - she really doesn't respect you.

Yeah, bin her off. Surprised you need to ask anyone else’s opinion on this one.