Ex signed son up to play for football

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I’ve got three children with ex partner . My son is a really good football player and has gotten into to playing for the county . He already does football and rugby etc ( as well as my other children so we have a busy schedule of constant training , games , work etc ) among this I also have a baby ( baby’s dad works away so I’m home all week days alone ) anyway HE has signed him up and he’s got though .. I’m so proud of him BUT it now turns out that training is the one day in the week I have the three children ( we share half and half )so I’m expected to take a baby , a 6 year old to training every week that’s half hour away from 8-9pm !! So won’t be home until half 9 ! I have no family to help ( he has lots ) not only this all the games are at least 4-5 hours away ! And I don’t like driving , then there’s the cost , I just can’t afford to do this as I’ll have to stay in hotels etc but not only that I’ll probably have to take the baby sometimes . I know it’s in the interest of my son but I just can’t logically see how I can do it but I feel like he will make out I’m a bad mother if I don’t . This was him signing him up in the first place . Am I being unreasonable and unfair to say no ? I already help him by taking kids to school on his set days and I’m just exhausted with all the other games and things they play every week as it is

Your ex needs to change his working pattern or hire a babysitter to take him or befriend one of the other parents and ask them to give son a list. It's on him to sort it out.

Can dad pay for Ubers there and back?

Yes I know she’s his MUM. Usually parents make decisions together, especially when the other parent will be negatively affected, ie by driving for hours every week. In this case the father has made the decision on his own without consultation or considering whether it’s logistically possible for the MUM to facilitate this. It’s not, so dad will have to make it happen himself.

OP your post doesnt make a lot of sense. Sorry but I’ve been through grassroots, county and now kids at cat 1 academy and I don’t recognise anything you are saying.

County football happens through school. It doesn't happen through grassroots selection. You don’t put your kid forward. The achool nominates them and they go to trials and are selected. There would be coaches to take the kids. Matches arent 4-5 hours away - they purposefully have you play the counties around you until you get to nationals - then they meet in the middle. You maybe have a small handful of games.

Or if it’s Academy football-
Academy football wouldn't have matches 4-5 hours away unless older than your son and coaches are put on (in fact they are out on for every away game). They purposefully divide the country into two for premier league matches to avoid children travelling hours and hours. The southern teams play each other (Chelsea, Arsenal, Fulham, Reading, Palace etc) and the northern teams play each other (Man City, Liverpool, Leicester etc) and then nationals happen where the kids stay over (paid for by the club) and play at Loughborough for example in the ‘middle’.

its hard to know how to advise as I’m not sure you have the full details….

So to answer this one - you are allowed to play school football and court is covered in this as selection is through the school . School is considered more important as a whole and contributing to your school is fine. You may find the four training sessions for academy football conflict with school training though but that’s another topic.

I know this as my son plays category 1 academy football and has gone through county selection.

You can’t play for anyone else as per your contract though.