Partners mum is going to die tonight but im meant to be taking my kids on holiday tomorrow

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Fuck fuck fuck
my partners mum won’t last the night (totally unexpected)
i want to be with him - he’s 3 hours away
but I’m due to fly tomorrow morning to America with my three kids - first time they’ve been out to see my family there in 9 years - I have no family here other than my kids. Literally due to leave for the airport at 7am tomorrow

I don’t live with my partner so his mum my kids have only met once.

DP was due to join us a week later with his kids

I’ve checked the travel insurance policy with a fine tooth comb (am a lawyer) and defo won’t cover the mum of my partner as we’ve got separate insurance policies
my policy is just for me and my kids rather than a joint policy with partner

I don’t know what to do

I could maybe see if I can push the flights back 24 hours but it looks like it will be another £3k (same cost as original)

or send my 2 youngest with my 18 yr old and join in 24 hours? A huge responsibility for the eldest and im not sure im comfortable with it but could speak to eldest to see what she feels about it
youngest two are 11 and 15 so not babies
they’d be met by family

can’t work out the extra flight cost just for me but I think it will be around £1k , that’s not great but better than £3k but I don’t know if I can send my kids alone

fuck fuck fuck

@Muffinmam my friend is married and they don't even live in the same country at the moment and won't for several more years.

Marriage is very important legally- it certainly doesn't mean the relationship is healthy.

I have no idea what 'your country' is. Why won't you say? You keep saying 'in MY country' but what you are saying is pointless if you won't say where you live.

As for the UK... (And many other countries.)

You've got no claim on your partner's legal assets if you live with them.... Not unless you're married.

Of course being married 'matters' and means something! I'm not even going to waste my time telling you why. If you don't know, I can't help you. You are incredibly naive if you think just living together is the same as being married. Oh dear.

So sorry for your loss. If I can tell from this thread how much you love and support your partner, then he knows it as well.

I lost a parent recently and the best thing DH did was keep the kids lives going as normal, so I could be with my siblings and extended family. Knowing you are on the other end of the phone is enough, honestly.

Have as good a holiday as possible, take care.

Hardly relevant to the op's situstion. She has a close relationship which works as it is right now, while her children are dependent. It may change in the future. I'm sure all pros and cons have been weighed up.

@zovagree with pp, not really relevant! I’m mostly referring to those implying that her relationship is lesser because she hasn’t signed a piece of paper. OP has a strong relationship that works for her and is no less valid than a legal agreement

as an aside, you say you can’t help me I do not require any assistance so do not worry but Thankyou

OP how is/was your holiday and how is your DP?