To think a lot of women are “dating down” just to avoid being alone?

[ThatPeachLemur]

I’ve seen too many brilliant, beautiful women mothering dusty men and calling it love.

Always been the case.

I'm noticing the opposite. A lot of happily single women thriving and a lot of angry rejected men who are annoyed about it. Personally I think the tide is changing. More and more women not settling or accepting less than they deserve.

It certainly seems to be the case if you look at the Relationships board on here (or any board on here tbh).

A lot of women are choosing to stay single because the alternative is dating down.

I think you are right. Much better no marriage than a bad marriage.

Twas ever thus.

I'm not though, hence why everyone I know thinks I'm such a tragic case. 🎻

The incel movement would suggest that women are no longer dating losers and they're pissed off with it.

I don't know, I get the impression that fewer women are doing this and more are embracing being single than dating men who aren't up to scratch these days.

I see either this or what you said op, lots and lots of women settle or have settled for someone way below what they should accept, the thing is that the standard or quality of many many men is so piss poor, there's not enough decent ones for everyone looking.

True. One of my closest, most sensible friends told me I was tragic because I had no interest in finding a random bloke to have sex with and as a single person I should be actively on the hunt. Like she is. We've both been single for about 7 years but she's had a long line of dodgy tinder hook ups and fumbles with work colleagues and I've been completely celibate. We're in our late 40s. I know which I'd rather.

are u?

I mean, I would probably say that 99.5% of women in heterosexual relationships are dating down, but.....🤷‍♀️

I did exactly that and he left me just before our baby was born now I'm
Coparenting with the main character from TLCs no scrubs song!

Also I know this is partly jealousy talking, but k see lots of wonderful men, who do do their fair share of family and home chores etc, married to quite boring and moany women

I’m the opposite - single for 15 years - at 55 I have no idea what a man could bring to my table except added pressure - I’m happy, solvent and just can’t be arsed

What do you mean about “dating down”?

In my social circle the happiest couples seem to be both working, but with a higher earning woman, with a supportive husband who pulls his weight with house stuff and childcare.

Same here CBA to date, like my own space.

Absolutely yes. Men who just want to move in with your cause their mum had enough of them and they want you to cook and do all their washing.
I would never again it’s embarrassing

Happily paired up now. But there was and still is a depressing lack of decent men in the dating pool. They often oversell themselves too. Far more than women

'I married beneath me. All women do.'

Well i find it weird that someone male or female thinks they above or beneath anyone else

Are you joking? I definitely think I'm too good for many of the men I see regularly at work (criminal justice system).

I think the pity is that OTHERS don't see the writing on the wall.

I think there are more decent women around than decent men. I'd say at least half of the women I know are in relationships with men who are not their equal, and who don't seem to bring much to the table at all.

I don’t think I’d consciously date down or look at it in those terms as it indicates a superiority which is a little arrogant, even if on paper it’s true.
But the dating pool is slim pickings. Compromise is necessary if you’re going to choose to be in a relationship. Or stay single and don’t. Live a happy stress free life. Just don’t stay in an unhappy relationship with an idiot.

I agree, a lot of people do. I’m staggered reading some posts on here why they put up with it - I mean, were they always like that?

I have limited sympathy to be honest. They should get some agency and move on.