Ex said he will never forgive me

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For secretly planning to leave him for a year. Saving money, getting a house and furniture sorted etc. I told him I wanted to separate but it did take 3 months more to get my house sorted etc, His family absolutely hate my guts and say how two faced I am, I’m a villain in his families eyes. Big reasons I had to do what I did which was a result of how Ex was treating me and speaking to me. He was verbally abusive and could be very nasty, also very nice and generous. I am now treated like I’ve ran off with another man and abandoned my children. Ex says how two faced I was when he would talk about our future and retirement etc.

MIL wants my head on a stick (jokes 💀)

How?

She was completely dependent on him. You want her to tell him and THEN prepare? Risking her safety?

It’s a housing association property - “new” build (10 years old) but in great condition.

I tried to leave him twice before but with no plan at all in place. He would go stay with him Mum for a few weeks after he behaved very badly but there would be no real plan in place. It always ended up with him coming back and us trying to work things out, until the next time he would behave horribly. I would kick myself as to why I had him back. I did feel like I had to do something extreme if I was to ever leave for good.

Good for you OP, ignore the haters. Safety first!

Just smile and wave and bin the comments OP. Or say soothingly "you are probably right"... to every stupid comment to decant any attempts at starting an argument or kicking off, whilst inwardly laughing your head off. "Muw hoo ha ha"

Don't give him any excuses to put a spoke in the wheel.

Wishing you a weekend where your move goes very smoothly and best wishes for your new era.

Well done for planning your safe exit. You've taken yourself away from a domestic situation. Nothing is as painful as a split between a couple. You avoided that. Planning is half the problem you dealt with that in a mature way. Enjoy your peace and don't bother with his parents reactions. They didn't care about you when their son was verbally abusing you. Take a deep breath and now enjoy your future.

Why do you care what he and his family think? It's good that you left, and the way you did it was the safest way. He and his mum are just upset that you'd outsmarted them and got away.
I hope your children are with you, and not with him.

Sounds like he should have been more worried about her then she should have been about him. They both sound childish. Only she's caused actual tangable damage then come on an online forum to get her tummy rubbed and made to feel OK about it.

You took a wrong turn from the RedPill/Incel site mate.....

We will stop talking about Fuck Off Funds when your lot stop being hitty, rapey and murdery.

Are you kidding? That shit is all over Reddit and much worse than that. There's open hatred and desire to do violence to women. That's why women need Fuck Off Funds. Wake up and join the real world.

I just noticed the username. That one is a repeat offender at this sort of thing.

The first reference to a Fuck Off fund that I've encountered was in one of EF Benson's Lucia novels 1920 - 1939, though I can't remember which, where such fund was seen as entirely proper for any woman. A memory is surfacing now, possibly Miss Mapp.

The point is there was no authorial condemnation. EF Benson was a man, if this helps.

We're not guys, BTW. Try people. Given that you're trying to make some kind of point about women's behaviour, it's a bit rich to describe us as men.

He doesn’t need to forgive you. You did what you had to do with the situation at the time.

While people like you have influence over women SpamHawk there will always be need for Fuck Off Funds. Hurrah for them. Go to it women.

No reason men shouldn't have their own hidden fund if they want to leave with the children.

IME more men have secret stashes than women and its not the leave with the kids, its to leave with the younger mistress and not pay the ex or the kids a single fucking penny.

But that him "protecting his money" according to a certain kind of man. When a woman does it, its heinous and dishonest.