FGS wrong wine wrong pizza

[Missrosie123]

Just as the title says really. A busy day. I was going to do a Deliveroo order for pizzas and my favourite wine. DH insists on going to the shop. Comes back without the wine. Goes back for it and gets right brand but wrong type. Come to cook pizzas. Asked for two. He got both the same. The one type of pizza I don’t eat.
Im being pathetic as I’ve not even said anything. I can’t cope with his inevitable ‘I’m so rubbish at everything’ downward spiral where I then have to pick him up. Sick of carrying the mental load for everything. He is a good man and a good dad, it’s just not enough.

Oh dear. Maybe you go next time?

You wanted pizza and wine, you got pizza and wine. Just enjoy it.

If you were specific then that’s annoying!

She was going to! HE is the one who stopped her getting what she wanted delivered and insisted on going to the shop. He cocked up, which is human, but I fully understand her sinking feeling not just at not having what she wanted by not even being able to say so because then his self-reproach becomes her problem to solve. It's called man-keeping and it's a bloody pain in the arse. Especially if his reason for not letting her just order what she wanted was penny pinching or some other bullshit reason.

Is it a mistake or is it just fake incompetence, only you know which it is .
One I would be OK ish with other I would be telling him about .

What a totally shit reply. She has already said she does everything and carries the mental load. It is fairly bleeding obvious that she asked him to do one thing and he fucked that up. OP it's called weaponised incompetence.

This is weaponised incompetence. If he does it poorly enough times, eventually you'll be forced to do it yourself and will stop asking for his help.

He's being a knob on purpose. Don't let him play the victim.

Agree with this. Not sure why he would get 2 pizzas the same. Does he drink the wine?

Either way it’s a bit shit and he needs to learn to take feedback without a downward spiral. He’s not a child.

It's frustrating when someone messes something up, especially if it was your idea, and then makes it about their guilt instead of how it made you feel. It ends up feeling like you have to manage their emotions on top of your own.

Yes, it sucks.
The best thing in life is to be your own mistress and make and execute your own decisions.
I still have some time to get there. 😕

Ltb!

I'm joking but id be pissed off at the wrong pizza and wine!

Can you order some more using his credit card and take yourself to bed early? xx

Really shitty replies.

Your husband should know what wine and pizza you eat.

You said you’d order but he insisted on going then got the wrong thing.

Send him out again that way he will remember the next time (or Rinse and Repeat until he learns)😬

Pathetic man.

He got pizza she can’t even eat - raise your bar 😂

send him back to the shop OP. Don’t fix all his mistakes for him

YANBU I would find it very hard not to show my disappointment

The pizza and wine are red herrings.

You are totally fed up with him. Why?

Can you deliveroo the stuff you do want and put the wrong pizza in the freezer and the wrong wine in the cupboard for future use.
He should know what pizza you don't eat at least. There isn't really an excuse for that. I wouldn't be managing his self pity.

Ask him "Where's mine?" Very calmly.

1. Does he want to go back to the shop, with a written note of what to buy?
2. Do you want to go the shop yourself?
3. Do you want to revert to your original delivery idea?

Sorry your dinner is going to be so late.

Why did he insist on going to the shop? If you'd ordered as you suggested you would have received what you wanted, and if you didn't it would have been corrected, no hurt feelings.

I can’t cope with his inevitable ‘I’m so rubbish at everything’ downward spiral where I then have to pick him up. This should not be inevitable; he very likely can listen and take notes so he gets the items requested. If he can't, he should let you order delivery as you'd originally planned.

Sick of carrying the mental load for everything. He is a good man and a good dad, it’s just not enough. Has he sought, and is he getting, constructive counseling for his issues? If not then no, he's not a good dad or partner.

This. He should know the one kind of pizza to avoid. And correcting the mistake will make him more likely to remember next time.

How can he be married to you and not know what wine you like, nor what pizza you dont eat? Very annoying!

Thank fuck for some actual understanding of this.

No she shouldn't just go herself, nor should she be grateful for the wrong wine and shit pizzas!

Completely understand OP and agree with the post I've quoted.

Also agree, but then my husband wouldn't dare fuck up my wine request 😂